HELP!!!!! IS MY DD BEING ABUSED?

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Please help with advice I'm SO confused!!!!!

Dd started a special needs school this september after asd diagnosis. Part of her condition involves delayed speech, comprehension and generally bad communication skills.
After staff changes they never bothered telling us about we discovered the new lsa was a young male which i (and all my friends) always thought was a weird career choice for a young lad (about 20 yr old). when we asked if he would be involved in toileting duties we were told about "equal opportunities" which we felt was completely unacceptable. A member of staff also later let slip that the new lsa had not had his crb checks through yet. we insisted in having a meeting with the head and her main class teacher in which we asked for no male member of staff to be involved in any activity with our daughter when she would be in a state of undress i.e. getting changed for swimming, going to the toilet etc.-they agreed this would be done. We were told that the new lsa was not being paid until his checks came back which i thought was a bulls**t way of them getting out of admitting that they had neglected properly safeguarding our children. The law apparently says volunteers do not need to have the checks done in order to work with kids. Staff only admitted this after being caught out lying.

Anyway, long story short- over Xmas dd suddenly and spontaneously said "mummy I don't like cock in my mouth". Well, you can imagine the response that got from me!!!! I've asked her where "cock" is but she can't explain or doesn't understand. she keeps opening her mouth, indicating inside it and saying she doesn't like it.

I've tried to get to the bottom of it and it's been impossible due to communication problems. what's strange is that when we asked dd today about going to the toilet at "big school" she started babbling about the male lsa going for a "wee and a poo". she didn't mention any of the female members of staff going to the toilet.

I'm so confused as to what to do. Has dd innocently mispronounced something else or is there something more sinister going on? WTF do I do about this????!!!!! It's driving me insane!!!

Is there any update you are able to give OP? Cock is a strange word for a young child to use, have you been able to establish if that is the word being said?

this thread sounds very familiar to another a little while back is it the same person?

anyway considering your dd has speech and communication difficulties the choice of words and context used leads me to think maybe it was more recent than at nursery as it wasnt mentioned there and then iyswim

has she been around older siblings at all or anyone who could have been talking crudely? it could be choc or coke never heard of young child to use cock without having heard it first maybe you could use pictures and ask her to point out what it is have coke and choc and maybe mans pic

i hope if you have concerns you will tell them discreetly as i know plenty of very descent young
men in the care business and there not there for anything sinister just because they care

and no one now days should be working with anybody until crb check is done i cant start my carers job again until mine is done and im sure with all that gone on publicly no nursery would either