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Would you prefer it if NT mums didn't post here?

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Twiglett · 20/04/2005 18:15

Would like to know the consensus of opinion in light of some recent threads on this board.

I often have a read through the SN board, because a number of the posters here are people I have grown to respect (or think are just plain funny). I also respond when I think it appropriate.

Am happy to continue doing so, or to bow out and just see you on other threads whatever the majority opinion is. Simple yes or no would be great. (no explanations needed, nor offence taken)

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maddiemo · 21/04/2005 09:36

Nothing more to say really. I do agree with Merlot{grin]
Fio You are great and I am going through a bad patch at the moment so know how you feel. I reach the point where I know I am going to blow and end up losing it over the most trivial things when the problems are just so much bigger but I don't know where to start.
You can always contact me too.

Take care.

rickman · 21/04/2005 09:37

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sylvm · 21/04/2005 09:38

As someone who has only recently started to post although I have been hovering for quite a while I feel it would be a BIG shame if this board became exclusive. I didn't get involved in the original thread that has started all this but I do agree that repetitive threads on any subject can get a bit tedious (if you were on a Cooking Board and every other poster was asking for advice on getting a Victoria Sponge to rise everyone would feel the same!). However, I do feel that anyone who has any worries or is just interested and concerned should be able to post.

sylvm · 21/04/2005 09:38

As someone who has only recently started to post although I have been hovering for quite a while I feel it would be a BIG shame if this board became exclusive. I didn't get involved in the original thread that has started all this but I do agree that repetitive threads on any subject can get a bit tedious (if you were on a Cooking Board and every other poster was asking for advice on getting a Victoria Sponge to rise everyone would feel the same!). However, I do feel that anyone who has any worries or is just interested and concerned should be able to post.

sylvm · 21/04/2005 09:39

As someone who has only recently started to post although I have been hovering for quite a while I feel it would be a BIG shame if this board became exclusive. I didn't get involved in the original thread that has started all this but I do agree that repetitive threads on any subject can get a bit tedious (if you were on a Cooking Board and every other poster was asking for advice on getting a Victoria Sponge to rise everyone would feel the same!). However, I do feel that anyone who has any worries or is just interested and concerned should be able to post.

sylvm · 21/04/2005 09:43

As someone who has only recently started to post although I have been hovering for quite a while I feel it would be a BIG shame if this board became exclusive. I didn't get involved in the original thread that has started all this but I do agree that repetitive threads on any subject can get a bit tedious (if you were on a Cooking Board and every other poster was asking for advice on getting a Victoria Sponge to rise everyone would feel the same!). However I do feel that anyone who has any worries or is just interested and concerned should be able to post.

Davros · 21/04/2005 09:53

sylvm's got repetitive behaviours, get her assessed

sylvm · 21/04/2005 10:28

oops don't know what happened there - it just hung and nothing happened for ages then four of them turned up - sorry folks!

Peachyclair · 21/04/2005 10:36

Anorak, about your dd, hope she's ok now?
have a dh with severe depression, so have some idea of what it's like for the family.

I would have thought depression was in many ways sn? or is that just coz I am used to it?

Without this board I wouldnt have got help for DS1, and (although you lot didnt know it) you got me through Dh threatening a suicide bid when driving on the M-way some time back (he's a lot better now, but at that time- wow- had to call police on him, then came on here to distract myself whilst waiting). Access to these boards is important.

heartinthecountry · 21/04/2005 10:38

I hope this thread shows that we really don't need to be debating anymore about whether parents of typical kids are welcome here - the resounding answer is obviously 'yes - please post, please join in, please lurk if by lurking you are gaining a better understanding of our children'.

As to whether people should post their concerns here - well, I think the answer to that seems to be a definite 'yes' too. But maybe with the slight caveat to just please consider that there is really a relatively small pool of people here who can advise and most of them want to help but are dealing with a lot of stuff themselves. So please just consider a little whether your question really is SN or whether it is B&D, look in the archives and look to see if there are any other threads you could join in on that would save others from having to reapeat info. BUT if you still feel you need to post, by all means do, and there will be lots of people who will try and help. Choc - I think your idea on the other thread about something to this effect at the top is a good one.

I do think that this thread and the other, have thrown up an interesting debate about who the SN section is for, both in terms of how 'severe' your child's issues need to be and whether it is just for ASD/neuro disorders.

As you say ghosty, I don't think you can draw a line to say 'your childs SN are severe enough'. Neither do I think anyone here feels there should be any 'qualifying' criteria. I don't think I have ever seen anyone on here say anything to the effect of 'that's nothing, you should see what I have to deal with'. Some of us may occasionally feel that but then we just don't post. That's life and no different to any other section on MN I imagine.

As for the ASD thing, again, I don't think anyone here would want anyone to feel they couldn't post because their child's needs are not ASD, BUT it is obvious that quite a few people DO feel they wouldn't be welcome here, or that they have nothing to offer and I think that is a shame.

I do feel the profile of the SN section has changed a bit even in the time I have been posting here and there ARE more ASD threads. That is not to say they shouldn't be here or that they have 'taken over' or anything. Personally I often read them even though my child does not have ASD and feel I have gained a lot of info/insight from them.

But I guess it does raise the question of whether, as the SN section has grown so much, it should be divvied up a bit more? I am really not sure about that as one of the things I really like about MN is that we do share across conditions and I do also believe that whatever the issues of our child, very often our issues as parents are the same. But I think it is a valid thing to think about if it would mean that generally people get more out of MN and feel there is somewhere for them to 'be'.

Anyway, I think this post is already far too long - just food for thought......

Blu · 21/04/2005 10:39

The SN board itself is hardly 'homogenous' - it covers a whole range of topics and conditions and is a mix of people who may have no experience at all the things each other are experience. Physical, sensory, neurological, developmental...all totally different issues.
We can't have 'exclusive' areas of MN - defeats the whole puropse and ethos!

Merlot · 21/04/2005 11:18

HITC - I think that perfectly summarizes the situation for me too and you've said it so much better than I could have.

TheRealMrsF · 21/04/2005 17:24

just saw your post TAMUM!! Thanks!!!!

This site IS my RESPITE my SUPPORT and I suffer severe withdrawal symptoms if i cannot get on here WHEN i NEED to!!!

heartinthecountry · 21/04/2005 19:25

Thanks Merlot - seems the debate is still going on on the other thread though. Oh well.

TheRealMrsF · 21/04/2005 21:47

yes HITC...I am NOT posting on THAT thread again!!!!

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