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Would you prefer it if NT mums didn't post here?

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Twiglett · 20/04/2005 18:15

Would like to know the consensus of opinion in light of some recent threads on this board.

I often have a read through the SN board, because a number of the posters here are people I have grown to respect (or think are just plain funny). I also respond when I think it appropriate.

Am happy to continue doing so, or to bow out and just see you on other threads whatever the majority opinion is. Simple yes or no would be great. (no explanations needed, nor offence taken)

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Jayzmummy · 20/04/2005 19:21

So sad that there is even a thread bearing such a title!!!
Even sadder that some of those who I hold dear have now said they are staying away.

This is an open forum for us ALL to use. Personally I feel that if someone is concerned enough to post a question then it warrants a reply. We all have enough knowledge between us to help, support and advise no matter whether the child is NT or SN.

What happens to us mums who have one of each???? Do we start a 50/50 thread????

JakB · 20/04/2005 19:24

That is not what Davros was saying...
Of course, I would hate it if mums with NT kids didn't post here.

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Twiglett · 20/04/2005 19:26

Of course it wasn't what Davros was saying - I totally got that

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Peachyclair · 20/04/2005 19:33

Having lurked made it easier for me when ds1 started to head down the sn route (48 hours to assessment!). As the mother of one sn and two nt boys, i value opinions asit's kinda tempted to get stuck in narrow ways of thinking and not see the whole picture. Sometimes someone outside it all can see the logic.

Jimjams · 20/04/2005 19:39

but then I would need 33 66 section jayzm!

absolutely not (although I am going to take a break tbh) but did want to say that a lot of the people I often share the same opinions with (i think) are 100% nt- and I really value that input eg twiglewt, tamum, scummy, hmb to name a few. others like enid and suzywong make me laugh even though we don't chat all that often, and then of course there's ghosty who's a mate etc etc.

Furball · 20/04/2005 19:54

Wasn't there a thread a while ago about someone who wasn't pregnant posting on an ante-natal thread and one of the ante-natal people said 'whats she doing on our board?' - The general reply was the boards are public and anyone can post anywhere.

lou33 · 20/04/2005 20:04

i am of the opinion that anyone is welcome on any thread

Peachyclair · 20/04/2005 20:05

Just a thought: if your sn kid is playing up and its actually a normal thing for that age group, and you dont have a nt kid, how do you know if it is normal or sn related without communicating with nt parents?

maddiemo · 20/04/2005 20:10

Good luck with the assessment Peachy.

Davros · 20/04/2005 20:12

Oi! Twiglett, don't you dare stop visiting SN and Tamum, scummy, hmb etc. As I said on "the other" thread, many of us are parents of SN kids AND NT and some inbetween. I think it would be awful if that was the outcome of "the other" thread. I know I can be cynical and tough-skinned so all that fuss hasn't really bothered me apart from the fact that its bothered so many other MNers, some I hold quite dear (BH, MrsF Jayzmummy....). But HMB's post earlier made me sob!

Thomcat · 20/04/2005 20:13

FFS! Gutted that you thought you had to ask this. Gutted, gutted, gutted. Exactly why I wanted that other thread to die.
I shouldn't have to answer and you shouldn't have to ask but you did so I will..........

I actually love that people whose children don't have SN post in SN. I love that we all learn from each other in that way, I love that we can all give advice to each other and share in the highs and lows of having children, with and without SN.

More people should post in SN, not less.

Please, please don't let one thread, the first of it's kind change things. Davros had some valid points about giving repeat advice over and over when there could be a more effective way to make sure all people with worries could be helped. That's all and it got ridiculous and out of hand and just went so wrong.

Twiglett, I'd hate it if you didn't post on SN, aI'd hate it if you, or anyone, felt they shouldn't post anywhere on here.

So come on, enough already.

TC x

dottee · 20/04/2005 20:15

Well my dd's teacher's just joined MN. She's an NT mum but a wonderful SN teacher. So my opinion is that everyone should be welcome on any thread as we all have many positive (and sometimes negative) things to share.

happymerryberries · 20/04/2005 20:16

Did it leak out through your hard outer casing???? Dribble down your sink plunger thingie????

Mega

'Twas honest though. You girls have made far more of a difference to far more people that you have ever realised. And the fact that you didn't set out to that doesn't matter a damn.

I'm too thick skinned to stay away ,me, and anyway I'm avoiding marking some essays! So I have to be here!

Wallace · 20/04/2005 20:30

Just had to say...do you have any idea how much I have learnt from reading the SN section????

Now when seeing a screaming/ badly behaved kid when out and about, I no longer think "Tsk, tsk, bad parent. Why can't they control their kid?"
I now make allowances, as that child may have SN. Reading about your lives has given me that understanding.

lou33 · 20/04/2005 20:33

TC i think it's fairly normal for non sn parents to hesitate about posting on the sn boards, and people have wondered before, so it's good that this question has been asked outright imo.

you are all v welcome

Peachyclair · 20/04/2005 20:33

Thanks maddiemo. My idea of success would be a final dx. Dreading being fobbed off.

maddiemo · 20/04/2005 20:45

What sort of dx do you expect him to get Peachy?

Sorry just being nosey. I remember how stressed I was when ds3 got his dx and I see you are counting down hours so must be feeling stressed.

Peachyclair · 20/04/2005 20:48

Probably Aspergers, but I found in a book that neurofibromatosis can cause similar symptoms and learning difficulties, and I have that, so it could be that. Wouldnt be OT surpised if I was told that he was farther up the spectrum than we thought, as problems at school get worse, and the more I learn, the more I realise there have been signs from day one- like not pointing.

maddiemo · 20/04/2005 20:54

Peachy Hope it goes well for you. How old is your ds? I have a six year old with s dx of autism.

happymerryberries · 20/04/2005 20:55

I teach a boy with NFM. Does your son have the characteristic cafe au lait spots over his body? THis boy has not ASD trats btw, but has some motor imparments that affect fine motor control with writing etc. He also has some difficulty in DT and PE

Merlot · 20/04/2005 20:56

The more the merrier, as far as I'm concerned

Merlot · 20/04/2005 20:56

The more the merrier, as far as I'm concerned

Peachyclair · 20/04/2005 21:01

He hasnt many of the spots, but mine didnt come until I was older, his brother has loads though.

I still think the ASD most likely, but I feel I have to mention NFD to the Paeds.

DS1 (Samuel) has other probs which contribute (He's 5)- 50% vision, borderline hearing, and he's the brightest kid in his year group too which doesnt help, as I have heard that the SENCO only has one hour for his class, and as the other three getting support are struggling educationally, she feels its hard to accomodate him. Or so she told my friend.

Davros · 20/04/2005 21:38

Peachy (who did you used to be?), sounds like m/s with better support would be a good option. What do you think? Sounds like he'd be too accomplished (that's not quite the word I want) for special ed.
Maybe we need an assessments coming up and/or reviews coming up thread?
I reckon MN should have a new section called Vent (hides from Cod)

Socci · 20/04/2005 21:45

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