when did you know your dc had to go to specialist school?

[drlove8]

how old? . am wondering as dd4 is at mainstream nursery now, but have doubts as to whether its the best place for her.... and i have no idea how she'll be at primary.how do you decide anyway? Do the medics recomend specialist school, or is it usually the parents decision? obviously as dd4 is "different" she'll be an easy target for bullies, she's already had comments from a 4 yr old at nursery,(he's just a baby though so let it go, but a wee bt of educating its ok to be different wouldnt go amiss )just want whats best for dd4......

I would agree that it depends on where you live, if i only had a choice of special schools in my own area ds was definately going to mainstream but when the chance of this school which is very specialized in communication came up outwith the area i just knew that was the way to go as its what he needs right now, I may change my mind in the future!

why dont the italics ever work for me!

dd was 3 1/2
there was no way on earth she was going to be poor littl $$$$ stuck in the corner(or occasionly befreinded) she would have missed out on so much at MS, not only education wise, but making real freinds, going to parties and meeting freinds in the holidays. IMO none of this would have happened in MS.

primary is always good, but secondry !!
having had ds (nt) go through ms and seeing what crap it is I would never put dd through it.

........am still at a on this. i suppose it all depends on what facilities the MS schools have ?and how good the specialist schools are?..... will need to do some more reserch on this...the thought of sending dd4 to school terifies me.... its a big nasty world out there...

, - er, are you allowed to hijack own thread?

aw

glittery
because you have to ^ around each individual word - not the phrase.
So right now not right now

thank you pagwatch!

were fortunate here the one I want to send ds to does put the more able students in for exams , though have to agree its heart wrenching decsion which will so best for our dcs all i would say is go look at all your options with open mind and big list of questions i had A4 sheet full of thanks to other mumsnetters on here

Well Riven that's exactly my beef at the moment, after being happy with the SN school for the last 11 years. I'll say, as always, we've been very lucky with ds, very very lucky.
He's Year 9 now and will have no options when he begins his GCSE courses in September. He will have to take the 7 GCSEs his school can offer, unlike my dn (3 months younger) who will choose courses suited to his career choice and will take 11 GCSEs. School/LEA will not consider DS taking a course in his chosen subject at another establishment.
And if I continue to kick up, they will offer him a place at local comprehensive AKA Gangland SW.

I'm on the horns of this particular dilemma at the moment. DS3 (aged 4, autistic) is currently in Reception at the same mainstream school that his older brothers attend. AFAICT, he loves it, and he does have 1:1 support. But I am fairly sure there will come a point when he will just be too far adrift of everyone else to continue there.

a lot of people with severe sn will not be ablt to take gcse's.
so i can't see the point of wasting time.
inclusive eductation imo = exclusion

FioFio I am happy to say I think you are right.
dd's school offers the chance for day release to college at 16 plus, but with the full support of her school.
one of her teachers told me about a young lad who look the exam down from gcse. he did it on the pc using one switch, I was well impressed.

I say exclusion as imo a person with severe sn would spend more time exclude than included. I know this would be the case with dd.
there are always people who will disagre and try and change things. but they don't realise one size doesn't fit all. I would hate for dd to go to ms and be poor littloe 2shoes.