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Taking a break from posting

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amber32002 · 27/01/2009 06:30

After recent events elsewhere on mumsnet, mumsnet have suggested I take a break from posting for a while to see if I can recover a bit, just in case anyone is looking for me.

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 21:18

i could be wrong(hope I am ) but I think she went over to the dark side

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bullet123 · 27/01/2009 21:23

I am 99% sure that JimJams is still posting, but under a different name. I am not going to say the different name, partly because she may not want me to and partly because I have forgotten it, but I'm virtually certain she posted on the super race thread.

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nikos · 27/01/2009 21:24

In mnhq defense, can I say that I emailed them after reading this thread as I couldn't bear for amber to feel pushed out. I admire her so much and how she has fought to make her life in a nt world.
They got back to me almost right away and were as concerned as we were that amber might go. They suggest to anyone who feels overwelmed by a thread that they take a breather for a while. It was a very nice and supportive email and they were going to contact amber to reiterate their not asking her to go.

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 21:36

nikos, I disagree, I think mn shouls have shown more support, to suggest a breather how ever nicely(and the mn hq people are lovely) it does not solve the problem. sadly it will mean that people will just continue to post their sick views and there is nothing we can do.

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nikos · 27/01/2009 21:52

Yes I do know what you are saying 2shoes and I know that amber can fight her own battles, but just wanted to say that mnhq are not being hard nosed about it and are probably putting a lot of thought into it as we speak. It might be that they have to take a bit more flexible attitude to the 'let the thread run so that the horrible views can be aired and argued with'. The problem is that the people with disabilities or looking after people with disabilities dont always have the energy for the debate and I think the particular thread we are talking about should have been pulled.

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RaggedRobin · 27/01/2009 22:21

just wanted to reiterate what an invaluable poster you are, amber. and rather than feel humiliated by that sickening thread, you should be proud as you conducted yourself eloquently and with dignity - in direct contrast to those spouting offensive nonsense.

i am rather ashamed that i couldn't bring myself to respond to it. i couldn't bear to be drawn into its poisonous atmosphere. i'm glad that people like you were braver than me, but at the same time sorry that you have been so upset by it. hope you keep posting here; it would be a great loss if you didn't.

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sphil · 27/01/2009 22:33

Sorry 2shoes but I think your comment about Jimjams is really uncalled for. She posts on many many forums (part of the reason why she's as well informed as she is) and I see no reason at all why she should be criticised for this. One of the reasons I like the SN board so much is that stuff like Moldiegate doesn't interfere with our main purpose, which is supporting each other.

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 22:39

sphil sorry what did I say? I thought she had left, and if that is the case I am sad. what is wrong with that??

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Pixel · 27/01/2009 22:42

I have seen a post from Jimjams recently (not sure where) under a different name (better not say what). I know it was her because she was linking to a video of her DS1. So she is still around!

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 22:48

oh good, nice to know she is still arround.

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PeachyBAHonsPRSCertOnRequest · 27/01/2009 22:50

Sphil I dont think 2shoes meant it like that- there was a after all. You ok? not like you to snap?

Saw Jj on Super race thread I am sure under a different name.

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2shoes · 27/01/2009 22:52

peachy tbh I getting used to it, all that seems to happen on mn at the moment is people snap at me(apart from on my support thead) think I have had enough at the moment.

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nikos · 27/01/2009 22:59

Lets all be nice. This is a supportive thread.

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nikos · 27/01/2009 22:59
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PeachyBAHonsPRSCertOnRequest · 27/01/2009 23:01

I think a lot of people are having a lot of problems / missed sleep atm (notice we've just passed a full moon)- tempers are high but that's all I think

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Mamazon · 27/01/2009 23:06

OMG

i deliberatly didn't go near that thread as i knew that there would be at least one ignorant poster who would manage to annoy me.

but OMG. the comments that have been posted here alone are enough to make my blood boil.

i am disgusted that the response from MN is to ask YOU to leave Amber.

i am absolutly fucking fuming about it actually. how dare they!

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PeachyBAHonsPRSCertOnRequest · 27/01/2009 23:09

How come a few poeple swap site and it amkes the daily crap, but this happens and its ignored?

Oi lazy journo brigade- ere now!

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wrinklytum · 27/01/2009 23:13

Hope you are back and posting again soon Ambercat

Chin up,ladies xx

THAT thread really upset me,but we are a strong bunch,huh???

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amber32002 · 28/01/2009 06:23

Mumsnet have re-confirmed that they "don't agree that people are saying they'd rather disabled people didn't exist on mumsnet...we're not going to delete the thread..freedom of speech"

I guess it's ok to have freedom of speech if you're strong enough and able enough to speak. But plenty with disabilities aren't, or can't manage it for long, which is why they're supposed to be better protected. And I hadn't asked for the thread to be removed, so that's really odd.

I'm not going to be able to get through to mumsnet to help them understand, am I?

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sphil · 28/01/2009 08:02

If that's all you meant then fine. It was the phrase 'the dark side' that made me think it was a criticism.

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TotalChaos · 28/01/2009 08:08

sphil - that exact same phrase "dark side" was subject of a debate on another site I go on for similar reasons - by and large people seem to use it affectionately rather than in a critical way.

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cory · 28/01/2009 08:36

I had to come off that thread because I couldn't cope in the end- but you were so wonderful on that thread Amber and it means so much to so many of us. Don't go.

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amber32002 · 28/01/2009 08:55

I'm doing my best to try to turn this into something positive. I'm asking mumsnet if they would consider taking a positive stand of some kind about the problems that parents with a child with a disability have, and how we can make it more of an equal 'playing field' in society. They're already linked with the Equality and Human Rights people in the government, so it might be possible to extend that link.

After all, this affects one family in every twelve, so it's a huge number of parents.

Come on mumsnet, you can do this!

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mm22bys · 28/01/2009 10:03

Amber, sorry to hear this (about you leaving!). That thread was dreadful, and things were posted on there that shouldn't have been allowed to stand.

As others have said your posts there were the most insightful, don't let the bigots (even though there are alot out there) get you down.

I have reported the offending posts too, but I am not holding my breath that they do anything about them

All the best,

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amber32002 · 28/01/2009 10:50

OK, I think I agree that I shouldn't leave.

I'm staying on the safe bits. And trying to get mumsnet to look at disability issues in a more positive and productive light.

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