Taking a break from posting

[amber32002]

After recent events elsewhere on mumsnet, mumsnet have suggested I take a break from posting for a while to see if I can recover a bit, just in case anyone is looking for me.

In case people want to know what we've been through, some highlights:

? I'm thinking that breeding out illness and disabilty is a great thing. ?

"I know it is fashionable to call Asperger's Syndrome a "disability" these days, but surely you realize that difficulty in deciphering social situations & facial expressions is not the same ball game as severe autism .... Those two are on the same spectrum like a bruise and a crushed bone are on the same spectrum of a blow to the body."

?I would rather have children who aren't disabled... In societies with no food the weak are left to die. ?I don't think the value is as high in economic terms certainly. ?it's not such an effective child if it can't see or hear. It won't keep a family so easily. It wont' be so easy to do things with it that you might have wanted to do?.

" i think the UK would be better off if few children with disabilities were born and also it would be nicer for children too?. I don't want them educated to think it's just as good to have a deaf child or child without legs who are just different?. ?.

"Yes I'm saying we are better off if people aren't deaf or disabled. ?if we can procure they are never created then that's a good? ?

Hundreds of posts of it.

OMG I didn't read the whole thread that is bloody barbaric and moronic things to say!

I honestly don't understand how people can sit there and say things like that, the only knowledge I have of disability is caring for children/adults who have suffered a range of different disabilities but I would hate for anyone to say anything like that to them I know it's not the same as having a family member with a disability that must make these comments so much worse.

Bloody hell, I'm glad I didn't read the entire thread
Amber don't go far. I love to read your posts. Different set of issues here, but I was completely ignorant of ASD till I came to this board, and even though they don't apply directly to me, your posts are so enlightening that they must be a tremendous help to Mums in understanding their children. You have given me an education!

those comments are horrendous and extremely offensive. I think the threads should be deleted.

sadly seuss mn don't agree

I get a general feeling they think Oh the Sn lot will change minds- as if we're agreat hulimng teaching union with not enough of our own to deal with!

Amber . Anyone with much sense knows that was an awful thread and I feel rather let down with MN over all this - they're a-changing and I'm not happy with the direction.

It's very dissapointing. I have decided I will not look/post anywhere but SN for the forseeable future. I'm tempted to boycott entirely but find this board extremely useful and supportive.

Look, this is a silly question but since I'm on the autistic spectrum I often need to take advice when I don't know the answer myself. Should I take a break?? Would it make any difference to anything other than to stop me sharing things with people on here?? Seriously, advice needed...

?I would rather have children who aren't disabled... In societies with no food the weak are left to die. ?I don't think the value is as high in economic terms certainly. ?it's not such an effective child if it can't see or hear. It won't keep a family so easily. It wont' be so easy to do things with it that you might have wanted to do?.

" i think the UK would be better off if few children with disabilities were born and also it would be nicer for children too?. I don't want them educated to think it's just as good to have a deaf child or child without legs who are just different?. ?.

I've just re-read these and am so bloody angry!
MNHQ honestly think these kind of comments are OK to post? And Amber should 'take a break' for being offended by them???????
And as for the SN lot educating them - could we really educate such ignorant bastards?

"It won't be so easy to do things with it that you might have wanted to do....."

Oh diddums! Poor me! Turns out my baby isn't a fashion accessory ready moulded to fit neatly into my life.

I am fucking seething now .

Boycotting dosn't work Seuss- they don't care, somebody else will come along and all that will remain is the non-challenging buch bounty mark II

Amber if its reallyb getting to you a step back might help. Come on TTR and keep in touch if you want to but you could also just do what I did a few months and block out threads such as AIB a tosser U, In The News, anything termination-y etc. Would be just as good I think.

OMG So glad I never so that thread, thats horrendous, no wonder you are so upset, was the comments by trolls or first time posters, dont tell me it was by who post regulary on here.

How can people be so ignorant.

Im sorry but I think mnhq like it, keeps people on here and posting. (Off to check emails from mn hq telling me to stay away)

Do you have to go? Why not stay on here, its a safe place on the sn board.

Its just what will not posting achieve Amber, you will still think about the postings at least if you stay on here, you know that we all think the same and wont that give you comfort.

Well, posting in SN is a lifeline for me, to be honest and I don't want to lose it

Sorry - I realise that may have been a slight resurrection of that thread which I DON'T WANT!
Got on a rant

Seuss - me too.
Amber - stay. Fuck 'em. Only have a break if you would benefit from it. If we miss you and you miss us - no benefit anywhere.

And apologies for swearing so much too.

Stay Amber, if you go then they way, prove them they are wrong (oops sorry if jumped on bandwagon, just I think we are all a team now and you are a valuable member)

Yeah just do a thread block then- be ruthless.

I have in the news and AIBU back but i forget that most f what I blocked even exists now tbh

oops meant they win. Cant type Im that cross

No, don't go Amber. Stay on the Special Needs boards if you like-people are all nice there!

But don't let the ignorant posters win. I have two DSs with an AS diagnosis (plus my eldest two have never been assessed but are certainly AS too). I found the thread infuriating and disgusting too-but the people who looked bad are the ones posting the rubbish (such as in the quotes you have made). They know nothing and proved it in their posts.

You make a real contribution to the boards and your advice would be sorely missed if you stopped posting.

Goodness, I've just read those paragraphs you highlighted Amber. I feel sick.
These are ignorant people that don't know what they are saying, they really don't. To be honest I wouldn't even waste my energy trying to educate them.

I am fuming. MY BEAUTIFUL BOY DESERVES TO BE IN THIS WORLD AS MUCH AS ANY OTHER CHILD.
He is wonderful, full stop. Where is this thread!!!!

Amber - you are SUCH AN IMPORTANT VOICE on special needs. You are truly gifted in voicing the feelings and thinking of what it is like to have ASD and help us mums ENORMOUSLY.
I know you worry over your posts but they are sooo articulate. I which I could speak as clearly.
I would be very sad if you left, in fact I won't allow it

If you want to carry on posting, and SN is your lifeline then go ahead. The SN threads are richer for your contributions. I do not read the other threads as I get so angry - I'd like to be their educator, but some people do not want to be educated unfortunately! Stay where you can make a real difference - and that is here.

DON'T YOU BLOODY GO ANYWHERE MISSUS! (and yes I am shouting lol)

You have been so insughful for me recently, I value you opnion.

To mad to comment on the threads, would even flounce to another site if I thought there was a good enough SN board.....

Tiny, I think the original thread is over its 1000 limit in the In The News bit, but if you put

super race

in the search for messages thingy it should be able to find it

There's a discussion in the Site Stuff bit of mumsnet, so you could have a look at that too.

Perhaps I'd better stay on SN if people won't allow me to leave?!

Amber - Please don't go. I have a son with HFA and your posts have really helped me to understand him better and be optimistic for his future. They have been a real comfort to me so please try, if you can to stay.

As for the other thread I didn't dare read it. Only recently had ds's diagnosis and I am still at the stage where I can burst into floods of tears at the drop of a hat so thought it best to avoid for now.

Yes, consider yourself handcuffed to the board

Ooo, I don't want people bursting into tears or dropping their hats, that's for sure. Don't go near it if of a nervous disposition. The people on SN are lovely, though.

I'll take that as an order, then, Nikos

OK, how do I hide threads...going off to look...