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Have you seen this AQ test?

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Wallace · 01/04/2005 21:25

I read this board a fair bit, and have read that some of you with Autistic kids reckon you may be on the spectrum yourselves.

I cam across this test while I was looking for info on asperger's as I sometimes suspect dd may be borderline. I scored 32 which certainly makes ME borderline!

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MrsBeThankful · 05/04/2005 12:24

davros- that is the nicest thing to say!!!!

Fio2 · 05/04/2005 12:34

I got 33

MrsBeThankful · 05/04/2005 12:55

welme fio to the adult AS club!!!
Anyone else gonna admit their high score and join!!!!

Davros · 05/04/2005 13:08

MrsF! Would you like me to type it out in fancy font, print it onto a certificate and laminate it for you?

coppertop · 05/04/2005 13:12

Davros - don't forget to add velcro too.

Sadly I didn't get the obsessive-about-tidiness component. I would really love to be organised and tidy but the clutter just seems to get in the way.

Fio2 · 05/04/2005 13:20

i cant lie, it has always been a problem

Davros · 05/04/2005 13:23

Is name changing part of it Fio?
I would gladly spend time decluttering, could be my new business. But I'm just keeping on top of my own clutter! I have spent many a happy hour recently tidying out and chucking stuff from a room that used to be DS's ABA room. I have decided it is MY room for all my files (and that fantasy filing cabinet), my laminator, my ASD books etc etc.

coppertop · 05/04/2005 13:26

Oh what I'd give for my own room with a laminator, filing cabinet and books in it. Clutter-free would just be a bonus.

Fio2 · 05/04/2005 13:29

i cant be fio really, because of dd's notes probs and the fact we have a solicitor involved now. i ahve to be stupidly careful, thats why i change my name

Davros · 05/04/2005 13:29

Maybe the next Sn meet up should be a grand opening of my "special" room (for a special mum ). Mind you, we call it the slice so you can imagine that we'd have to squash in a bit. You could all go home with laminated certificates of attendance!

Jayzmummy · 05/04/2005 13:30

I have done the assessment 3 times and each time I score between 35 and 38......I dont think I have Aspergers....ADHD yes....and am awaiting a diagnostic assessment. Mrs F your post was simply beautiful.......my dear old she dragon of a mother made both my sister and I's life hell because we were branded naughty and disruptive children.....my sister was dx with Aspergers at the age of 24.....because she tried to commit suicide and felt she was the only one in the world who felt like she did.
Thank God she survived and is now the most beautiful person I have ever known.....she runs a riding school for the disabled and is so happy and content in her life. She is my hero and I love her dearly.

Davros · 05/04/2005 13:30

Oh fio, I'm sorry

coppertop · 05/04/2005 13:31

I can just see all those framed copies of SN poetry and prose adorning the walls, Davros.

Fio2 · 05/04/2005 13:36

dont be sorry davros, maybe i should have said when i had my sn posts deleted, as it just looked childish

gawd i am so serious just lately

please dont send me a framed poem

MrsBeThankful · 05/04/2005 15:11

thanks j'sm....can your sister come to the next meetup u attend??!!! Would she come???

The 'highlight' of my 'pre-knowing-about-aspergers' etc etcetc.....was when i was at work on the phone to another department....

he said (affectionately!!!) that i was different and in a world of my own....i then said to him that i'd always felt i was from another planet!!!

Well before i read books that describe this exactly!!!!

Easy · 05/04/2005 15:16

Hmmmm

I passed on this link to dh, who has completed the test. This is what he said at the end.

"Would you be surprised to learn I score 36?
No, thought not, just reinforces a stereotype

Interesting proposition, really, that 'geek' parents are more likely to have
ASD kids, but there's a logical explanation (of course). One's development
is shaped by genes and environment. If you have two 'geek' parents, like the
11 yr old in the 'geek syndrome' article, then your home life is more likely
to resemble a lab rat's than something from Enid Blyton's. You get praise
etc. from the parents on doing things 'right', subjectively, their way, so
there's a constant positive reinforcement for 'geek'. Since neither of them
is particularly social, you won't be either, since you learn by watching and
doing.

Is that genes, or environment?
Only way to tell would be two take a pair of identical twins (or several, to
iron out statistical anomalies) of geek parents and have one brought up by
geeks, the other by normal people (non-engineer/software/maths types).

Measure the incidence of ASD in both groups. If it's solely genetic, there
should be no difference. If it's environmental, there will be a huge
difference. If it's both, the non-geek environmental set will have a lower
incidence and the position on the spectrum should yield a lower 'disability'
rating.

Some of the questions are interesting, particularly since I felt that in
some cases there needs to be a 'neither agree or disagree' result. Having to
come down one way or the other meant I probably considered the answer too
much. "

Bear in mind that dh has certain 'compulsive aspects' to his behaviour e.g. his CDs have to be kept in strict alphabetical order, and his elder son (my stepson) is autistic.

Makes you think doesn't it.

Easy · 05/04/2005 15:18

BTW he doesn't use the term 'geek' in a derogatary way at all, please don't take offence.

coppertop · 05/04/2005 16:29

Oddly I have no skills whatsoever in science/engineering/IT etc. Dh is very good at that kind of thing. I was always good at maths at school but am absolutely useless at it now. Dh can do complicated equations in his head but if someone asks him to write down how he got the answer he just can't do it.

Both ds1 and ds2 love the computer. Ds2 loves numbers but ds1 has lost all interest in them. Ds1 loves science while ds2 loves watching dh doing his electronics projects. I seem to be the only non-geeky one in the house.

Davros · 05/04/2005 17:04

Fio has given me another new business idea. You can all CAT me, or I'll have a special link on the MN home page, to say which of my beautiful poems touches you most and I'll print it in fancy font, laminate, velcro it, whatever to your requirments. Would make a wonderful gift!

coppertop · 05/04/2005 17:42

Oooh yes please! I shall enjoy building up an entire collection of them to display to visitors. No, on second thoughts I'm so selfish I shall keep them all for me to read. Oh what bliss!

MrsBeThankful · 05/04/2005 19:33

.........and where can we preview thses poems etc????

RnB · 05/04/2005 19:35

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MrsBeThankful · 05/04/2005 19:50

Currently (in my bathroom....as it's where we all sit and get bored....so decided it was a good place!!!!) i have a laminated National Autistic Society 'poster'...the one about eyes too big for your stomach etc..... but what i've always really wanted there was a lovely 'insprirational' type piece of writing.....

when i was a young child my brother and i were minded by an elderly lady called Aunty Dot....she had such 'writings' all round the house- cross stich samples ofcourse!!

So she had one in the bathroom that i've never forgotten .....

"Come to our house
For a week or a day.
Come to our house
and don't go away!"

(not at all 'toilety'!!!!)

The times i must have read that....well its obvious thats why i remember it!!!

She deserves alot of credit as she was my sanctuary.... she had a piano and an enormous garden....i have designed my garden as a miniature of hers. Ther i picked sweet peas and made lavender bags. I believe she encouraged my creativity- let me try anything...made bread,cakes for the W.I and upstairs on the landing she had a huge old wooden 'proper' treasure chest full to the brim of fabric remnants. I would spent hours getting each piece of fabric out and folding it,touching it and she would sometimes cut pieces off for me to use to make dolls clothes,lavender bags and then she taught me patchwork. I used to hunt in her rose beds for bits of broken plates that i believed were relics from the past (now know her husband delberately dug them in to provide drainage!!!!)She also had several family 'victorian' heirloom photo albums...i'd spend hours examining people for resemblance to her and her husband. In her youth she fostered all of 20 children...all calling her auntie dot. She is 94 now and appears to have alziemers....i dread the day she dies...however i told her many times how special she was to me. Apparently in her Will she has stated that my mum (amongst many) have been bequeathed one of her cross stitch samplers....and my mum has promised that it will one day be mine.

OOOOOH! I really have gone way off at a tangent......but that's how my mind is!!! You talk about sentimental poetry and i churn out this!!!

MrsBeThankful · 05/04/2005 19:52

.....Hmmmmmm....is this the bit when Davros tells me that she was only joking.....and i took her literally!!!?

(another feature of adult AS i believe is being GULIBLE......again like the child Litterally Pulling their socks up..... I am the one planning where to hang Davros's poems!!!!)

RnB · 05/04/2005 19:55

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