DS is aged 9 in Y5 he has AS and is highly demand avoidant (poss with ADD). He has been excluded for 10 days for reasons we feel are related to his disability and for lack of care and consideration of his needs. We were unable to discuss this on Friday, when the incident happened and are going to school to discuss things tomorrow.
Bit of background. New Head since september and she is very aggressive in her dealings with us, this is his 3rd exclusion since sept. She has made it clear she is looking to permanently exclude DS and has now put this in writing. We are currently waiting for a result of a statutory assessment and there are 2 weeks left before the LA must respond.
I have downloaded stuff from IPSEA, looked at SOS!SEN, looked at the ACE information and amplanning to contact all 3 on Monday when they are available. Also planning to contact the Local Incusion Officer, his paed, his psychologist and behaviour support person asap on Monday. As I am a TA (at a different school) I am also planning on talking to my, very supportive, Head to see if he can suggest anything.
So is there anyone else we can ask for help? Am feeling a bit like the rug has been pulled from under us, previous head said he would never permanently exclude DS because of his needs.
Am confused about whether to consider a managed move, DS is happy with his teacher, who seems to understand him unlike most of the rest of the staff (although this teacher was off sick last week - a contributory factor to DS's behaviour) and he has friends who can tolerate his extreme moods and who he enjoys playing with. DD is also at the school in Y3 and moving her would not be an option. But would he be better with a fresh start away from a Head who I DO NOT trust to manage him or deal with him and who has made it clear she does not want him?
He is feeling very confused and upset about this and can't understand why it is for so long. He said yesterday 'I don't have anything left to live for' - how heartbreaking is that?
Any help greatfully received!