Bad bad day..

[Yummymum1]

which has just ended in me and ds1 (7 AS) screaming at each other after a day of tantrums and total lack of respect on his part for me or dh.
I totally resent him for making my life like this and feel so sorry for myself even tho i know that so many others out there have itso much harder.
I now have to regroup and try and put it behind me for tomorrow and the next 4 wks of holiday.
Am sitting here in tears and feel so wrung out with absolute panic as to how we are going to get through.
Just wanted to write it down to people who understand.

Yes riven,he had his melatonin and went to bed.
I did then feel so horrible i went to his room to make friends but he pushed me away.I still told him i loved him though.
I know what the problem is,we have just got back from a very full on week in LONDON AND HE IS INCREDIBLY TIRED(sorry for shouting!!)and his behaviour is always worse.
I am tired after full on week in London and the stress of looking after 2 boys in London alone for 10 hrs a day while hubby on course so not as patient as usual.
Behaviour bad so not allowed to watch scrapheap challenge = big scream up!!!
Hubby now taking care of all chores tonight and bringing me whatever i need.
Fingers crossed for a better day tomorrow.

Thats a good idea riven, I think it is what we all need.
Thank goodness for the melatonin,at least we get an evening!!

We were invited out with customers to a big social event in which I we to socialise from midday to 10pm and then again at breakfast the next day at the hotel. I cannot begin to describe how tired I was when I got back home. It took me 24 hours to recover, and it took hubby 48 hours.

The nearest I've ever got to explaining it is the Spoon Theory www.butyoudontlooksick.com/navigation/BYDLS-TheSpoonTheory.pdf which isn't written for an ASD, but it does show how we can run out of 'spoons' very fast indeed compared to most people. And it's not always easy to restock the spoon supply. Hobbies do it, rest does it, but a week of activity might mean borrowing against a whole week's energy supply and pushing us into shutdown/meltdown for a long time. It's not easy for us, and it's certainly often hell for those around us. But if only we had more spoons...

just to butt in a second sorry.

DS1 is ADHD (now aged 15) and his worst age was definately around that age. I remember being in tears also, it really was a horrid time.

Huge {{hugs}} for you, and all of you. I hope that tomorrow is a different day for you, a happier day. very good advice (as always!) from Riven. {{{HUGS}}}

My son is 5 and on the autistic spectrum. To be honest the best days we have together seem to be when it's just me and him, either at home or at the park, beach or out for lunch. I would even describe them as relaxing!

The problems start when we're socialising in a group, as the tantrums can kick off even when it's people we know well.

I hope tomorrow is a much better day for you both, Yummymum1!

Thank you everyone for your replies and advice.
Today so far has been great and we have got on really well.
Woke up this morning and thought PMA (positive mental attitude) and i think that has a lot to do with it.
Hope everyone is okay today too.