Concerned first time mum

[Vittoria123]

My daughter is 17 months and I have been suspecting autism for a while now . This are the things she can do :

1. she can walk independently since 12 months
2. she has 50 words , plus can link two sentences together 3 ) sleeps through the night since 14 months
3. she can point , wave and clap
4. smiles at us and people
5. does pretend play and kick a ball 7 ) she responds to her name if not doing other things . Is it normal ?? 8 ) she can follow our point 9 ) she follows simple commands: like “ go and get teddy or “stop “ when I tell her to .
6. no tantrums or if they occurs they last less than a 1 minute
7. loves animals and good with other kids
8. plays appropriately with toys

things she can’t do

1. can’t climb down the stairs but can go up alone with her feet ( if I try and teach to go down she cries )
2. she goes tense when excited and comes out of the bath
3. she doesn’t want to hold my hand
4. not a brilliant self feeder ( still prefers me to feed her
5. sometimes she hums whilst eating
6. when out walking she always picks things up like flowers 7 can’t throw a small ball

please any advice is really appreciated
ps : already spoken with the HV , GP , family health support group and been told that they have no concerns .

Ps she crosses her fingers when tired

occasionally walks on her tippy toes

Honestly? I see no concerns either. No flags at all!
breathe and enjoy that baby. Picking thinks up when outside is wonderful! Exploring the world

I have no idea why you're worried about autism because nothing you've written fits with any of the three areas of impairment. You're describing an absolutely typical and in some ways advanced 17 month old. When she's 18 months, you can do the MCHAT-R which I strongly suspect she will pass.

If you are concerned, you should speak to your GP or HV again, but what you post is normal. If you are worried, have you looked at the Ages and Stages questionnaires?