If one more person says/does XX then I shall not be responsible for Y

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Just on from the JH responds thread - thought I would start again after my little rant.

2shoes made me smirk when she talked about lamping the next person who says shame to her...

So I thought I would start.

If one more person tsk's or stares or mutters about my child, I shall let them have the full force of my fury at their rudeness.

We took the dds out for dinner last weekend - very concerned as neither had had a nap, had a full day travelling and being busy. They behaved so nicely. Dd1 was brilliant - no meltdown or carry on really. She did not want to hold my hand going out of the restaurant ( happening more and more - she is a big girl now!)

As we left thanking an older gentlemen for moving in so dh could get the buggy through and I could get the dds past without bothering him - he tsks and mutters about kids, then shoots dh a filthy look!!!!

FGS it was 7pm - don't want to be around kids - stay home or have dinner at 8pm when most of them are at home in bed.

Deeeja - I read the article about drinking in preg causing autism - but I think it's yet another article under the heading "we're really not at all sure what causes autism, whether it's genetic, or due to brain malfunction, or what, but we've just completed a science project which MIGHT point to a cause so we'll get a bit of publicity". I just keep on pointing out to people that either it's genetic through the male line, or my DH is very very very unlucky to have married two completely different women both of whom were lushes in pregnancy/carried a particular gene/smoked during the first trimester etc etc etc and therefore both of whom had autistic children. To me, the most obvious conclusion is that it's genetic, but might be triggered by another medical issue in some kids. Of course I'm no scientist, but tbh neither are any of these people coming up with headlines after tinpot studies! NB - I drank way more in my first pregnancy (with my DD, normally functioning) than with my DS (autistic). However, I did eat more chocolate in my preg with my DS, so perhaps that will be the next study. Sorry, but this stuff just makes me angry. Every woman since time began probably drank her head off before she knew she was preg, and before the 70s all mums drank and smoked willy nilly cos there were no health warnings but autism is rising now, not then!!

oh HITC my most hated one is 'it gets easier as they get older'

Not when they're severely autistic it doesn't

"they all get there in the end". um no, they all don't actually....

My mum said DS2 (who is NT and 15 months) will be 'like that' when he is that age - DS1 was fixating on a bit string at the time, I think the bizarre point was that she still thinks DS1 is a regular kid doing regular 4 year old kid stuff.

ps I know lots of posters have 2 ASD children so I'm not being insensitive I hope but DS2 is the 'Uber Neurotypical'

'He'll get there in the end' - arrrgghhhh! That's my worst one too -not just because he might not, but because it sort of implies that all the input you're giving is a waste of time.

also as there's the overtone of - see you neurotic old bag, you're just choosing to worry over this for the fun it aren't you, you competitive mother you...

My mum, bless her, trying to help me on the language front when I moaned about DS saying only single words: "Just don't give him what he wants until he uses a sentence."
To which I replied: "Errmm, yes mum thanks for your advice, so, how have you been?"