Hi paquatch
I certainly did not say that anyone was stupid.
Neither did I mean to imply that there was anything clever about what JH did.
Where I have been consistent is in saying that everyone is looking for and negociating their own solution and if it works for their children then that is OK.
In terms of poverty:
Many carers end up giving up work and surviving on benefits alone.
That is pretty close to poverty in my books.
Broken or strained relationships with other birth children were things spoken of by others on here. I was simply pointing out that the needs of all children in a familly need to be included.
Someone on here was saying that 90 percent of relationships where there is a child with extra needs end up breaking down. That sounds a very high figure to me.
Maybe we have come at this story from the wrong angle.
That JH thought of her child in that fashion is a reflection of societies attitude to disability.
That she was placed in a situation where there was no support even when it was clear she was not coping is not acceptable either.
I wonder if, from day one she had been surrounded by people who had positive views of disabled children, who were committed to helping her cope, things might have gone altogether a diferent way.
As it is though, Immie is obviously happy and well cared for which is what it should be about for every child.