So traumatic dd had a panic attack at fireworks display

[Blossomhill]

Dd aged 8 with AS went to the local display and we went into disability bit. She has extremely sensitive hearing so had ear muffs on but I am so shocked and upset at how bad she got. We left after 5 minutes. She was hyper ventilating and screaming/rocking and was having a panic attack.
We won't be doing that again

oh dear, poor dd and poor you.

I'm really sorry to hear that Blossomhill. You did everything you could to make sure that she would be ok. I hope she's ok now. We did little quiet tiny fireworks in the back garden as it seems as if all the organised displays seem to be getting noisier and noisier every year

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Poor dd

I am in a bit of a pickle about what to do with own dd.I am meant to be taking ds (nt) and dd (sn) to a display tommorow,but tonight dd was really scared by the noise.DP is in hospital so I have no one I could leave her with.ds is so excited and has been talking of nothing else but poor dd may be really scared

Poor your dd

I underestimated how awful it would be for my ds, I even tried to encourage him to stay longer until I realised how bad it was for him

what a shame.

Thanks everyone. You live and you learn I guess and as I said to dh does it really matter if dd never ever goes again? I mean a firework display isn't exactly a life changing event. Totally not worth it

Agree. I got bored after the first 5 mins anyway.

I think it just scared me to see how much her anxiety can get to her. She hates balloons and won't even me in same room as them.

ds has AS and used to get like that over fireworks, he can now watch them if i stand with my hands very firmly over his ears and if we have them at home he can watch them through the window. im so sorry you were scared, you feel like they are missing out but they dont feel that, thats what you have to hold on to.

thanks peski you are so right. she isn't missing out and tbh i din't care if she never sees another firework again. she was obviously in pain. everytime the bangs went out she looked like she was losing her balance. it really did affect her badly.

Im in a dilema at the moment, DD (5) also has AS is quite excited for bonfire night we dont have any plans so to speak, we had just planned on a small box to let off in our garden, last year she wasnt to bad tbh, however over the last few months she seems to have become far more sensative to certain sounds she hates anything that echos and machanical sounds like the hoover and my hair dryer. I also have a younger DD whos 3 so i dont really want her to miss out. But after hearing about your poor DD Blossomhill im not sure what to do now........

The Joys of parenting ?????

My DS doesnt have AS but this year has been the first year we had been able to go to a firework display as he has hated the noise. My old neighbour used to do a lovely display for the kids and he would get all excited then one bang and he would hide upstairs He is nearly 11 and asked to go to the fireworks this year and enjoyed them.

A heard of a local farm who is doing more family friendly fireworks i.e. lots of sparkle and less bangs perhaps that might be worth a try in a few years time.

You can still enjoy 5/11 by doing a picture of fireworks and making firework biscuits.
My DC and I have just covered card in little squares of wax crayon they covered it all in black crayon and scraped firework shapes on the card (the colours all show through) it was lovely.

Hope your DD is feeling ok.

2cute - its worth a try, just dont push it. there will be lots of other bangs from other people so maybe see how she reacts with them and start off letting her watch through a window, then if she wants to let her outside. mine still enjoy them through the window and the home fireworks are usually less noisy

Having seen Yurt1's thread about firework display problems I've been wondering how to improve our school display.

This year we had one of the classrooms set aside as a "quiet room" so any families with scared children (for want of a better phrase!) could co to get away from the immediacy of the noise - obviously it wasn't actually quiet but there weren't crowds etc and there was art stuff to do. If they wanted to see the fireworks, they could step outside the door and see from there or at the fire door inside. Would this kind of thing help noise sensitive/SN children?

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