We have 5 DC ranging from 2-15.
Our 3 (soon to be 4) year old is and always has been incredibly hard work, even as a baby.
We’ve had no problems with our other DC other than normal ups and downs.
He’s at pre school and the SENCO there have made a plan for him and are asking for some extra help. I initially approached them. He doesn’t have tantrums there but is very loud, exiteable and impulsive.
I’ve compiled a list of his behaviours:
He will not as what he’s told, it will take numerous requests and eventually threats of the naughty step before he’ll do even the simplest of things. It’s exhausting.
He regularly breaks things (toys, the TV, the hoover)
Makes Loud noises, screams shouts, bangs
Cannot sit still for long
Impulsive - seems to have no control over his actions, his eyes almost ‘glaze over’
Tantrums and meltdowns numerous times a day
Aggression towards siblings when he thinks no one is looking. This is probably the worst thing.
He has firm boundaries and plenty of positive praise but it just doesn’t work and I’m fucking exhausted physically and emotionally as are our other DC.
It almost goes in cycles with no rhyme or reason. He’ll be great and calm for a few days every month or so and I think we’ve turned a corner then it’s back to square one.
Please help.