My 5 year old is in foundation and has utterly fallen apart since starting school. There's been 4 days I haven't got her in at all. I haven't had a single day she has gone in happily. The TA meets her at the office she said Friday that there had been 3 bad days. However school are absolutely insistent that there is no issues at school as she is fine once she has calmed after going in.
Our family support worker came over to observe Thursday morning to see how I'm handling it and she said I'm handling her really well and clearly know how to manage her yet school see it as a home and seperation issue.
I have had private social communication and OT reports done which school have pretty much rubbished because she doesn't react to the issues there. Ie at parents eve on weds the TA told me quite happily that she has no issue with labels because she has never reacted when they get dressed there. She also told me she has no problem with plasters despite every person who has ever met her including 2 x play therapists knowing full well she won't tolerate them. She let the TA put one on her out of fear of being in trouble.
They told me she was eating her lunch, I have banged on since October that she wasnt. Finally took her out to eat with the TA this week and lo behold, she wasn't eating her lunch.
I genuinely feel everything I say they roll their eyes at and they clearly know better about a child that has been in their school since September. I know she is masking a lot of her difficulties.
They clearly have done training on masking but don't actually understand it in practice.
What on earth do I do?