A bittersweet day...

[silverfrog]

This afternoon, we went to the playground (a daily activity - dd1's favourite thing). She wanted to go on the roundabout - a great breakthrough as she's always given it a wide berth. So I parked up dd2's buggy, and off we went. Spinning round and round, and I said "say hello to dd2", "give dd2 a wave" etc, as you do really. And blow me, dd2 waved back. Yay for dd2. She's 28 weeks. And the pure joy was tainted by the fact that she has started that horrible process of overtaking dd1 (3).

And also marred by me being overjoyed that she was imitating, and therefore showing signs of not being ASD. I do feel horribly guilty about not wanting dd2 to be like my gorgeous, cheeky, dd1.

Silverfrog - don't be sad - be overjoyed for both of them - they both reached a personal milestone today of their own kind(DD1 going on the roundabout and DD2 waving)and you were there to witness it! Hooray!

Silverfrog
nah - don't be sad. It is like admireing one child because they are good at football whilst recognising that the other has the best laugh you ever heard. They are different and they will both bring you joy and both break your heart.
My gorgeous DD went for fisrt day at school today and equally gorgeous DS2 ( with severe ASD) came with me to collect her. He 0 but she told him about her day and he asked to hold her hand not vice versa. She is way past him !
But she is hisriend and his companion and his advocate ( "don't push my, brother can't understand you so you will have to wait !!").

It is bitter sweet but they are lucky enough to have each other and, just you watch, they will learn FROM EACH OTHER! DS1 is gorgeous fabulous boy and a big chunk of that is stuff that DS2 taught him about life and compassion and friendship.
Be proud girl. Two gorgeous kids. We are lucky

Yes, those moments are so bittersweet.
I have just signed up the very physically able dd(5) for her trampolining classes with a bit of a pang in my heart.
Yesterday I had to watch ds(12) really struggle to stay mounted at his 'riding for the disabled class' as his thigh muscles have got very tight over the summer.