There She Goes - new series with SN child **Thread title edited by MNHQ**

[WonderBoy]

I've just spotted this:

There She Goes
BBC4 10pm - 10.30pm
First of a 5-part series, starting today - 16.10.18.
1/5 - One Day in the Life of Rosie Yates: It's a typical Saturday for 9-year old Rosie, who has a severe learning disability.

I'll be watching - if possible! Anyone joining me?

I agree Aam - she's doing a great job playing Rosie so far, and tonight even more so than last week. It's a shame of course that they didn't go with a LD actor, and I'd be interested to know why not - perhaps the reason for this will become more apparent in the rest of the series. I think it had to be done really well if by a NT child for it to work - personally I think it does work.

Yes I think she's doing a really good job. It's definitely good that they auditioned some children with learning disabilities I also wonder what made them go for a NT child too.

We're a few years down the road Aam compared to Rosie, and have made a bit of progress with tooth brushing. The horror of the dentist though, and the harsh necessity of a GA for any work whatsoever.

I'm really identifying with the dark humour too - though it's a bit too near the bone for me at times. I get it though, and the only people who should say these things if they want to are loving families of LD DCs.

We got to know Ben a bit more tonight. Brilliantly played, I thought, and he reminds me of a DC here.

I noticed they'd got the beer and wine on the go - I enjoyed my G&T in solidarity! 👊

Oh definatley , and only about your own child we have an eye test in the morning God help us irs going to be interesting for sure , never a dull moment.

Eye tests are one of the few things I currently worry a bit less about, but it's taken years of going to the same lovely person at hospital, and progress with being able to identify pictures has really helped too. Good luck tomorrow Aam.

Thankyou!

hazey from the other thread is hoping to watch on catch up and join us on here tomorrow - she's got her hands full tonight.

Ds sleeps very well and i am so greatful for that , when he was yoynger he would wake up ar about midnight and then be up for hours but touch wood for the past 3 years or so he rarely has a bad night we are lucky i.know

We're the opposite here - sleep has always been poor, as it used to be for you too Aam, but it has got even worse with the onset of the teen years. We're up nearly all night and often all night at the moment. Unsurprisingly, I really can't recommend longterm chronic sleep deprivation!

Duty calls here, but I was just thinking about the stand out moments for me from tonight:

• Mum discovering Rosie in the bath with bubble overload. There was just something so joyous, infuriating, tragic and comic about it, all at the same time. Not with bubbles, but been there.
• Mum, feeling washed out, worried and isolated at the baby singing group. Been there, in a variety of situations.
• The very moving and honest conversation between Mum and Dad by Rosie's cot. I felt the love, like Dad, but also when Mum said 'Duty' I completely identified with her too - heartbreaking.
• And not forgetting 'Sir F** Galahad'!!! Those moments when you're doing all the hard slog, day in, day out, and someone rides in, does one marvellous thing, and thinks they're the bees knees and they've cracked it. Absolutely.

We'll be up for a while yet, so I'll try to look in again later and again tomorrow.

Thanks to everyone for contributing to the thread so far

I thought it was aboutthe comparison about how the mum felr when Rosie was a baby ie she had a duty to her but didnt feel like she loved her to a kind of acceptance of your child and loving rhem for them becausd she obvioysly loved Rosie in the present day , i still struggle with the what ifs and how might life have been without the disabillities but comparison is theif of joy as they say and ds does bring a lot of joy and love .to our lives .

Wow, that episode broke my heart into a million pieces.

My turn for an awful night here - up until 8.30am, anyone?!

Just to say how great it is to be discussing this programme with other parents from similar families - in the sense that this programme exists at all, and that we can rarely talk candidly about our lives and experiences with those who really get it.

I hope you're feeling ok, Sleepy - it is an emotional roller-coaster, isn't it, but hopefully worth watching?

Hi all I’m really enjoying this series although bits make me cry especially the early days of realisation. My lad is now 18 & although severley disables with LDs is so lovely. Me & DH have struggled along & love & humour get you through. I can imagine the humour on the show making people cringe unless they’ve been there!

oops sorry about typos but you get what I mean! Don’t know how you lot cope with non sleepers

Welcome to the thread Golden. Your post makes for brilliant reading, (I'm not many years behind you), and it's the thread where you don't have to worry at all about typos.

Thankyou

Yes quite, Golden when the mum said to Rosie maybe your not a bear of little brain when Rosie out foxed her i totally get it and get where shes coming from i always say about ds2 that he knows far more than people give him credit for .

I'm not sure that I do cope with it, the sleep, Golden - I just muddle through, a more decrepit and discombobulated version of my pre-WB self.

It's a pity we can't enjoy all those all together in a pub-come-tea shop, just for parents like us. Maybe watching and discussing the series. It would be absolute chaos, but I really like the idea! In an ideal world, eh?

Yes just imagine Op nobody would get to eat what they ordered because the dc would be nicking each others cakes and drinks or is that just my son😂😂

Oh no, it's not just your boy, Aam, rest assured! WB is a serial thief. The number of embarrassing incidents of helping himself to complete strangers' meals and treats - I can't begin to tell you. You've got to laugh. At least in our exclusive café-pub, we'd all understand and there'd be no fear of irate reactions. Except from me, if I had mine stolen, that is!

Mine once tried to steal a lolly out of another childs mouth and he nicked a chicken nugget off a complete strangers plate as we were walking by and many, many other incidences your right though you hae to laugh

I too was thinking about Rosie and Mum outfoxing eachother, Aam. I like what you said about your DS. Similar here - I think we see only the tip of the iceberg of what's going on inside for WB. Not Bubble Chess, but we certainly play various sorts of other chess, outwitting eachother. Many people wouldn't realise this about our DCs, would they? They write them off and underestimate them.

Oh yes even his school and he goes to s special school dont see it sometimes and they know him very well! Hes currently sat on my knee giving me lots of cuddles .