Help me find a way to explain changing school...

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Hello, I’m really struggling to find a way to explain to my son why we are moving him to another school and not his siblings. It’s because he needs more support and the new school will be wonderful for him but finding a way to explain it to him, his sisters and everyone else is making me feel quite anxious.... can anyone advise me??

i'm just really concerned about the damage it will do to his self esteem, if he feels like he's moving school because he needs help. i'd like to keep it really positive... everyone at school is going to ask him why he's leaving and i don't want him to have to say "because i have special needs and can't keep up here" to everyone.

i'm thinking about telling him it's because theres smaller class sizes and a forest school and that they teach in a way that would be a better fit for him because everyone learns differently etc but i don't want to lie to him either and I'm worried if i over sell it my other kids will wonder why they are being left behind!

i just feel so aware that this is quite a momentous thing for us all and i want to handle it as well as i possibly can.... i'm really over thinking it!

Focus on the treats that they get so much more of at special school: horse riding, swimming, fun Friday afternoons, visits to local sweet shop, reward trips to legoland/Chessington world of adventures/laserquest/air hop, ping pong if they've finished their work. DS has been at special school for 2 terms and my problem is that DD wants to move to a school like his. she's especially peeved that he's going to France soon.

Ds friend moved to special school. Teacher explained to class that X needed a school that was better for him to he could be the best X ne could be.

Middle ds is 6 nearly 7 and we have been having very open discussions about his asd diagnosis and how it makes him feel and what he can do to help himself and what he finds difficult at home and school.

If your having this dialogue then you can show your child the things at the new school that are going to work for him and make him happier.