Oh PC - how horrible for you.
But you know they don't and won't understand - and you knwo full well - from bitter experience that thier way of dealing with a 'problem child' is hardly the sensitive, constructive child-centred approach you are wanting to take!
The awful truth is that they will never support you sensibly over anything like this, so you might bring less stress down on your overloaded head by not telling them anything about it, if you can help it.
You could get a home tutor all you liked, but if DS1 does have a dyspraxic or related condition, unless the home tutor, school, whoever, are addressing that in an apropriate way, then it will just put more pressure on DS1.
You have a) more professional knowledge and expertise than you parents in this sort of area, and b) are a much better parent than they ever were or will be. So take no notice of what they think! It is typical that they try and bully, browbeat and out you down when you try to discuss it. Your dad should be being sympathetic, not getting mad with you.
At the bottom of it all, I think they see a 'label' being a 'stigma' and are afraid anyone might 'talk'. Does that sound a teeny bit likely, knowing your parents?
I wnat to slap them, tbh!
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