Humming, whistling and tapping

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Oh man! DD is 8 and poss ASD (just started the assessment process). In the last 6 months she's started whistling, humming and tapping and it's driving me crazy! Today she asked me about the gum shield I wear at night and I explained that it's because I grind my teeth. Very innocently, she then said "When you ask me not to hum or whistle or tap, I grind my teeth too". I feel like I'm such a mean mum. I know stimming includes tapping and humming and so she's self soothing and that I should learn to chill out and zone out so she can do that. Esp if she's grinding her teeth instead.

Oh man- I'm so new at all this ASD stuff and I feel like I've a couple of good days with her (doing gratitude lists, mediating and talking about how our behaviour makes other feel, a bit like Social Stories), but then I feel like I'm making it worse for her, like this! Does anyone have any tips for learning to ignore THE most annoying sounds ever?!

Thanks F1. That's a good idea to ask her what's up- thanks for that tip. The penny only dropped that this was stimming when she said that - till then I just dismissed it as an annoying quirk (so told her off).

Oh. No idea where came from. Oh well

My DD hums, a lot! If she is becoming sensory overloaded the humming gets louder and louder.

Can things like cartwheels be a stim? Dd is another hummer and singer and for the past few weeks wants to cartwheel all the time. I am wondering is she is add and not asd although I know lots cross over so was curious about this too?
She can't sit still unless it's something that interests her and even then she will often watch tv standing k. Her head

waitingforsleep I'm too new to ASD to know but didn't want your post to go unanswered. Have some and , as it's too early for

WaitingForSleep, I am no expert but maybe its sensory seeking? My DD seeks constantly, she jumps everywhere and craves movement. My DD sings a lot too!

It's all so confusing isn't it as all sounds so similar. I thought maybe that too but how on earth do you know which?