Hey everyone, thanks for the replies. I've been in contact with everyone, trying to really get the ball rolling & whilst the school think they can push it & get it done before the summer holidays. The case officer has said that it was pretty much impossible but as I was being stubborn she then said that they'd all try but to expect it to be done by October half term at the earliest, but not to be surprised at having it all sorted by Christmas 
Friolero, yep he definetly needs an EHCP to start, I started looking for schools in December & when I finally settled on one they said that they don't take kids without an EHCP
JudyCoolibar, the process was actually suppose to start in January & whilst the school were & still are very eager, it was the LA that held it all up & refused the first request for an EHCP, they said the school needed to do more for DS etc & based their decision on a 20 min EP report
and its taken so long for everything to come together that the school have only recently felt confident that we won't get turned down again.
They think the LA is trying to be difficult as he's not the only one they've turned down for an assessment, but DS' issues are pretty obvious & far too serious to be handled in an ms setting.
He has ASD, won't speak in public/outside the house even though he can at home, can't handle physical contact, so small bumps or nudges are intolerable etc he's almost completely isolated at school.
He has a desk outside the classroom, he eats with a small group of kids in a classroom instead of in the lunch hall & he rarely goes out to play at lunchtime, as the chance of someone knocking into him is too high & it takes far too long to calm him down.
The LA said that all those measures weren't helping DS but were enabling/encouraging him
so the school had to prove it wasn't just a stubborn child but actual issues caused by his ASD.