SEN register for not playing co-operatively

[Stellababe78]

Hi,

I just received my son's nursery report and his teacher has written on it that she has registered him on the Special Educational Needs register to help his ability to play co-operatively with his peers. This is the first I've ever heard about it and I'm really upset. This report is being sent to his Primary 1 school and I don't want his teacher having a preconceived idea about him. I feel that this wasn't handled well at all and I'm devastated incase there are any consequences for him. What does this mean for us? I'm very anxious

Nothing on a report should come as a surprise. You should have been spoken to about this and told what the problem is and what they are doing to help.

Teachers will form their own opinions

Sorry pressed post too soon.
Teachers will form their own opinions after the child comes in their care. There won't be consequences but there should be continued support if he does need help.

I would be asking the nursery why they haven't communicated this before now though.

How long has your son been at the nursery?

How many parent meetings/reports have you had?

Has nothing at all been said about his play skills - no 'X finds it difficult to share' or 'X is finding it hard to join in an established game' or 'X will play alongside his peers, but isn't yet ready to join more structured games' or similar?

As to his school placement, if he does need support to join in, and encouragement to mix with peers, isn't it better that his teachers are aware of that?

He just has next week left and that is his nursery year over. She said to me one day a few months ago when I was dropping him off "can I have a quick chat about DS?" Then proceeded to talk at the door of the classroom with all the other parents and kids coming in and out. She said they were having some trouble with him sharing and that he can be a bit rough when playing or snatching and isn't realising that he can hurt people. I told her I was mortified (as you do lol) and that I would work on this with him at home (which we constantly try as he can be awful at sharing and a bit rough). But she said it quite casually and then said something about keeping an eye on him and that could I sign something to say we had talked. I signed the form - which in hindsight, was it something to do with stage 1 of the Special Educational Needs register?
She wasn't clear at all and I definitely did not understand the gravity of the situation. I feel she was very unfair

It's never a good idea to sign something without knowing what it is!
TBH it could have been informal or it could have been to agree to him being on Sen register.

I'd suggest you arrange a meeting with nursery and ask them outright. Ask what they think da struggles with, how they've helped, if they've any suggestions for you and how they think it looks like to school for DS.

It may not be all as bad as you think - plenty of children develop at different rates and he may just be a little socially behind.