Constantly threatening to kill himself

[shazzarooney99]

So to give you a bit of background,my child is 8, hes been in the system since he was 2 and a half after the health visitor said he had developmental delay,he had some very strange behaviours, very repetitive ect.

Anyway he started nursery who got an ed pych out who said put him on school action plus immediately, anyway behaviours continues at home and started settling down a bit at school.

We are under salt, peadatrician,audiologist (for hypercussis) Private Ot came into school and basically said he has sensory processing disorder.

Now we have been back and forth to cahms who have said they can do nothing for him as he needs an Asd aseessment.

Meltdowns are not as frequent as every day as they were, however they are getting worst where he is trying to kill himself or is extremley aggressive and will throw anything in sight hes has smashed a number of items including my phone, his brothers iphone,xbox and the list goes on.

I have had him to hospital twice for threatening to kill himself, i should have taken him more to be honest but we ride it out.

We are currently waiting for the ed pych to come into school and has a salt asssesment done which points to autism.

But what can we do? how can i stop this? i havent put this on the sen boards as i thought i may get more answers here.

Thanks for being patient and reading all this.

Ooops sorry i copied and pasted from another board.

He sounds desperately unhappy.

Does he have an EHCP plan. I strongly suspect he needs a more specialist school setting and that mainstream is just too large for him to cope with. The only way you will get that is via an EHCP plan. The other alternative is home education but not an easy choice either. He does not need a diagnosis for this as it is based on need and multiple visits to A&E and self-harming are clear evidence of mental health problems that need support regardless of if he is still performing academically.

One thing that did help ds2 with his mental health problems a little was an adult "buddy" provided by social services who just came to play. No demands. No criticism. Just a bit of light relief and fun. It broke down with ds2's typical bad luck when the guy assigned had an accident and couldn't come for a while but the principle was good.

We are going through the process of an ehcp at the moment, and i think your right regarding school, its not that school are doing anything wrong, i just dont think he can cope with it.