Four years ago we were told he had "some" indications of ASD and were sent away, he's not had any help since and has been very hard work. He struggles at school as he can't speak up and needs help and is very frustrated at home sometimes.
We had another appointment with a different specialist last week who after half an hour said it was obvious he had ASD and probably ADHD too. She was brilliant and is trying to put things in motion for him to get some help but it will take some time.
We've never told him he has ASD and he gets very very upset if he thinks he is different to his friends in any way. I'm not sure what to tell him but he needs to know as he has another appointment coming up. After the last one he cried because he thought she was saying he was stupid (she wasn't). I don't know what to say to him.