For any one that remembers, I was xenzani, we finally got a diagnosis for dd2. She has ASD which I knew but it's now official.
Basically being left to it although the clinical psych wants to see if her team can offer anything.
They both acknowledged that girls show differently which was good. The home and school observations are what swung it seeing as she passed the ADOS.
Very relieved to get it as it means I was right. I want to take the letter to her old school who had her down as naughty and basically pushed her out. The PRU that she is still at will need to change a few things but the clinical psych said that the LSA there works brilliantly with dd2.