New to SNs really not sure...

[MilkshakeMonkey]

Ok sort of new..
DS (5) has had 'explosive' behaviour from about 18mo. Initially I thought it was being a toddler. Then he got to 2 .5 and his sister came along, so put things down to that. Then there was some improvement as he reached 4, up and down abit until 5 then nose dived again.
In March (5.3 yrs at this stage) The school advised we saw gp and got SENCO involved. During a horrendous Easter hols I went to gp out of desperation for not only my DS but my family. SENCO then also arranged CAF and school nurse involvement.

Now... We seem to be on a better run again (although still has violent outbursts not as regular). We also now have all the help kicking in. School nurse has organised us a unisafe course for next week, I have TAC meeting
Monday, CAF was done last week, community paediatric appt in 2 weeks and SALT appointment coming up (awaiting date)
It feels abit overwhelming all of a sudden.
But my worry (I think it's a worry) is that we are going through a good spell, so is there any point going through it all?
Am I wasting people's time?
Is this just normal to have a 5yo who can get really angry/violent/explosive?
Surely if he was on the spectrum it would constant, not in waves of good/bad times?

Sorry if none of this makes sense, I'm feeling confused/overwhelmed by it all

Hi milkshake and welcome to the board.

Dont discount Asd just because his behaviour is inconsistent! Often stress levels vary and this can change behaviour patterns!

If you are worried it is always worth asking for an assessment, dont worry about "labels" if a child is behaving in an unpredictable way they will get "labelled" as naughty or spoilt!

If your Ds has Asd it would be better for him if he had a diagnosis then he would hopefully get some support at school and you could work on some strategies at home.

Good luck

Thanks Ineedmorespace

I assumed they would just put it down as a phase, but you feel this 'up and down' behaviour can be normal with asd?

Also, I forgot to ask if there's anything the more experienced of you feel I need to ask at TAC?

I think as it's taken this long to get here, I need to see it through.

Reading other threads on SN I see lots of you have had battles, is this the norm? I'm not sure how the whole thing is going to go, 3 'professionals' have asked me so far if i feel he's on the spectrum. I have responded with I don't know, but something's not right.

Had TAC this afternoon. Just seemed to be a paperwork exercise, didn't feel it progressed things at all. Although interesting to hear teacher saying things that I find too (although I didn't know it was worth noting IYSWIM)

Have CAF doing home assessment in summer hols and TAC again inSeptember.

I guess I will get more from peads appt?

Its all part of moving things forward for you and your Ds milkshake take one step at a time and one day at a time!