DS doesn't fit in anywhere

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DS was just diagnosed with high functioning autism.

He likes the children in a school but his social skills aren't always the best so he's on the peripherya bit.

I brought him to an autism support group today hoping to meet some similar children but they were all a lot further on the spectrum than him - so much so that he would have nothing in common with them. It's the only support group for miles around.

I feel DS is stuck between two groups and doesn't fit in anywhere.

To be honest Dd3 prefers to be on the periphery, she can manage social interactions in a small group or one to one for short bursts of time but is just as happy plugged in to her gadgets doing her own thing!

I think parents worry more about social stuff than children with Asd. I am a self diagnosed aspie so I dont feel worried about Dd3's social stuff, I just go with what she feels she can cope with and I go with what I can cope with.

You could try Beavers or Cubs though and see if he finds a friend or two there!

Good luck

There are loads of kids that don't fit in anywhere. I wonder where they all hang out?

I suspect that they just go to mainstream activities that are more inclusive which are hard to find as they don't advertise themselves as such, and often it is down to the peers anyway.

DS goes to an ASD social group. At first I thought the children there were much more severe than ds, and they may well be, but ds loves going all the same and spends the whole hour and a half laughing with them, at them, at himself, at the staff attempts to introduce a new activity to someone who is reluctant etc etc.

DS also goes to lots of VERY structured mainstream activities where he can be with other children but the demands on his social interaction and communication skills are greatly reduced. This also works well.

Some local authority's have a scheme whereby they make sure that a 1:1 (if that's needed) is on standby so your dc can access things like Cubs/scouts. It's part of a policy that no child should be discriminated against if they want to join a club/group. Ours is called pip- ask your LA. It's sometimes the same people who run holiday clubs at ss.