No formal diagnosis, we are just a beginning of process for DD1 to be assessed for social & communication difficulties after hospital admittance (possible aspergers). I have missed so much time off work this year/18 months for school refusal, meltdowns and time signed off to recover myself (let alone normal school closures/general sickness which has bumped it up so job hanging by a thread). Lone parent with 2DDs and bloody scared and stretched to the max so any advice helpful.