I give ds all this to eat and i dont give a crap!!

[redbull]

he has
tea in the morning and before bed
bovril
pizza (everyweek)
chips (everyweek)
crisps everyday
chocolate everyday
fruit shoots most days
sos rolls in his push chair
chinease once a week
billy bear meat
bernard matthews dinosours
youngs flipper dippers
yazoo milkshakes
i dont care if i have to bribe him with chocolate to eat i dont care if he drinks all this crap as far as im concerned with his sensory problems its a blessing he eats this

Ha ha do you know I have a Boden top, unfortunately it doesn't do casserole sauce stains very well, so I'm back to buying clothes from supermarkets (Sainsbury's do quite a good range now).

I did buy some trousers in the last sale but I only wear them away from children (so once a year )

if anyone is vaguely interested I have a second hand boden top which I bought for a fiver and dd has a few boden items which are passed from turquoises daughter who has had them passed down from turquoises friends daughter before, so they are approximately 3rd hand

will you all send me to conventry now?

coventry

AH I like Boden kids stuff for ds1 as it has elasticated waists so easy for school. BUt alas they never seem to have any in the sale so he gets it for xmas form il's/

Hi, what an interesting thread. I have four children, all brought up the same, same food etc, boundaries etc.
DS1 - Will not eat any fruit or any veg, except potatoes. Will not eat tomatoe based sauses etc. Likes white bread and butter. Will eat cereals and often eats 3 bowls for breakfast with full fat milk. Doesnt like cakes or chocolate much and wont eat crisps at all

DD1 & DD2 Twins- will eat absolutely anything, fruit, veg, wholegrains, pasta sauces etc. DD1 wont touch cake or choc but loves crips. dd2 loves, cakes choc, crisps, ice cream sweets

DS2 - IS nil by mouth

My point - children have their own likes and dislike and you can only guide them in the right direction, ultim ately, they grow and make their own decisions about food. As a by the by and probnot making much sense, ds1 who has never eaten fruit, veg or fish or wholegrain bread (or all the other stuff that helps brain functioning and concentration) has just left school with 11 gsces, 8 grade A*, 2 GRADE A and 1 grade B. So dont despair if your child wont eat totally healthy, organic food, you can only do your best and its not worth beating yourself up over.

jimjams
You made me laugh I always end up wearing dd's food. she coughs a lot when eating. although I have tried to train her not to do it towards me she always does...........

Well of course one of the best things about DS1 and his eating is that he'll never be swayed by a marketing campaihgn coz he really does not give a damn.

with the two who aren't AsD, I am careful. I do believe firmly that a little of what you fancy might not do you any good but it won't kill you either, but they have an excellent balanced diet. We do the veg box thing although we're anything bt middle class, trust me ont hat LOL!

What does get to me though, is DS1 is a particularly handsom (albeit a dodgy haircut he insists on atm) little lad who looks and sounds anytyhing but SN- as lots of the higher functioning end of ASD do. Indeed, he's the one you'd be pointing at going 'youngest Prime Minister of Uk there, you know' with a grin. which then translates into so why is she feeding him that? Why doesn't she amke him drink the water at school when the others do(By the by, I ahd to get a letter from the paediatricians to give him pure juice instead of the sqaush they prefer ). So OK I'm paranoid, i'll happily admit, but having a SN kid who looks like Mr NT Genius Of The Year makes you like that sometimes. Like when I go out into town and he's been awful and I get back here to see a dozen threads on 'why don't parents control their kids' and I think so which of you lives in Cwmbran....

And of course the delivery driver from Asda (can't tkae Sam to shops alone) doesn't know about the SN., and neither do most of the parents at school coz they're clicky and I haven't been able to explain (some do), they just think he gets special treatment.

Do you know what, sorry, scrap that post, I don't want to argue, I will ask for it to be deleted, it was ill advised.

i have three with autism, my 2 oldest will eat anything and always have done, my DS has a limited diet he won't eat messy food, mixed up food, food with sauces and foods are not allowed to touch each other, he won't eat anything with bits in it. he will only drink tea, coke & water.
we have an allotment as we thought it might help with DS diet, the only vegs he will eat are pea or sweetcorn, he takes them like pills, 1 pea in his mouth then a drink, i can get him to eat 9 peas now, i think some of it is sensory and some of it is done to rules that he doesn't share with us! like he will eat certain things only on certain days or in certain places!
we recently went to lanzarote where he ordered an adult meal of whole grilled sole, it came sprinkled with herbs, and he ate the lot

you have a valid point www

Peachyclair, are you my long-lost twin?! Those are exactly the two things I used to eat. Jars of 'toddler food' vegetable and lamb stew, and chocolate pudding in little tins. I had a reputation as a fussy eater at primary school but I remember sitting there knowing that I could not physically swallow certain things, they just made me gag. My mum had to go to the school and complain eventually because the dinner ladies were making me sit with my bowl of semolina or whatever when everyone else had gone to play and clearing the other tables away around me . Scarred me for life it did!

trefusis what a fantastic post.

www, agree re inflammatory title.

i've observed though, that there have also been many inflammatory titles on the other side of the trenches.

nothing wrong with the op says how a mum who spends her life having to explain feels

When it got to the third year that ds1 hadn't eaten a single fruit or vegetable too be honest I didn't give a crap. If I did I'd have been 6 feet under by then. Sometimes you have to switch off and pretend that a bag of crisps= a portion of vegetables. And I'm not the first person to have done that as Charlotte Moore writes about it.

Am going to copy shamelessly because I think she writes so well:

Sam takes a packed 'lunch'- a bag of plain crisps, some gluten free biscuits, some raisins, an apple, a bag of Whizzers (dairy free Smartie wannabes) and a small marzipan cat made by my mother.He'll eat about half of this. Guess which things he'll leave. George doesn't have a lunchbox, because at the moment he chooses to deny that he eats anything at all. So I smuggle supplies into his taxi on Monday mornings. On arrival, Pat, the taxi escort conveys the supplies to George's teacher by similar sleight of hand. They are kept in the classroom in a drawer to which George has unrestricted access. Most days he won't eat unless nobody's looking- or until everybody's pretending not to look. The drawer contains Twiglets, crisps, Aeros and Bourbon biscuits- George is not on the gf/cf diet. Some days he gets through quite a lot of these, but today was not one of those days. The note in the home-school book says "G. has eaten nothing except a small tube of Parma Violets".
I don't think Parma Violets count towrds the recommended five daily portions of fruit and veg. For years I've been mentally straining to accredit goodness to the horrid things my children eat. Crisps are only potatoes really I tell myself; ketchup is a vegetable. It had better be, because its the only one George eats."

And the only medical advice I've had when I've raised ds1's eating problems(no fruit, no veg, just bread) with various medics is "oh well he looks pretty healthy on it".

You see there is no help available. Although once you start reading around autism you realise it is a huge and very common problem. BUt no funding to treat it (it's very very hard to deal with).

Jimjams, I'm sorry, I'm unnecessarily arguing about semantics and it's not worth it or fair really. I guess plenty of you on this board have far more to worry about than whether I give a shit about what you feed your children.

I apologise.

So what is redbull supposed to do?
Actually, i suspect that many a child on the autistic Spectrum did actually die of starvation, or else was force fed through a tube and was made worse and ended up in an asylum.

This is a SN thread, about tryoing to care for a child with a little understood condition in a world where you have to explain everything top other people i thnk Trfusis' post is good and honest, but redbull has had to do the whole explaining thing quite a lot.

There are lots of helpful informative supportive threads about food on Mn and there are plenty whch are steeped in judgmental stuff and people dealing with very very stressful situations with their children perhaps find it a bit wearing?

yes it's an inflammatory title, but you only have to read a little to understand that some people live different lives with different priorities, an calm down a bit, don't you?

Blu, I have already apologised AND asked for my post to be deleted, not a lot else I can do.

x-posted, all done and dusted