Have been doing a bit of reading around and much of what I've read confirms a long standing suspicion. I think DD (5) is very mildly autistic. I would have said aspergers, but that isn't used any more I don't think. At this stage she is doing pretty well but we do struggle to manage her behaviour at home sometimes causing pointless distress all round. I think, given that resources where we live are very stretched that pushing for a formal diagnosis at this stage is pointless (I.e. I don't think she needs classroom support, for example), but that we need some good suggestions for resources to help us parent her better.
Thanks for reading and for any suggestions you might have.