Not looking forward to school restarting

[Perchkin]

It's actually making me quite anxious and giving me sleepless nights :(.

Thinking of all of you who are feeling the same about your DC going back to school after the Christmas break.

Fingers crossed it all turns out better than we imagine x

I love the few hours peace that I get each day, but the first week is horrendous with the tiredness and the sensory overload that unleashes the minute they get home from school.

I had a bad dream last night about it. I hate school. Our break has been so good and I hate to let it go.

Another one dreading the return to school. Ds3 has only been at school a term but it is already causing him major anxiety. For weeks leading up to the holidays he would wake up in the morning and ask, "what day is it today?", only relaxing when I said it was a Friday. Even on Saturdays and Sundays he asks (several times a day!) if it is still the weekend. When DH returned to work after a week off last week DS had a major meltdown because he equates DH going to work with a school day.

Another dreader here. I love having my boys home - we are all so much happier in the school hols! I also didn't like sending off in the dark, rain and wind :(

We had an awful night and DD2 was saying she was far too poorly for school.

I took her in and said to her teacher 'DD2 wants me to tell you she's very worried about coming back to school.' Her teacher gave her a hug and said 'I was a bit worried too, DD2. I didn't sleep at all well.'

What a lovely woman.

Aww lougle that is so nice of the teacher!

We don't start until tomorrow. We just made paper boats and the kids are now floating them in the bathtub. This is how I want to spend my days instead.

Yep dreading it here too, back tomorrow.

Ds has had 3 weeks off of school and ALL his self injury has cleared completely, not a mark on him. A few days of being back at school and he will be smothered again. The getting anxious will start again. Every morning when I have woke him, I get 'im not going to school' until I tell him its not a school day.

We are not back till tomorrow either but am already nursing a bruise on my shin in response to mentioning the dreaded S... word. Tomorrow is going to be fun!

me too.
DS seems quite keen though, but then he always does.
One day he will be able to link what he is feeling to what is causing it and that will be a whole new ball game.....

Back tomorrow and feeling sick at the thought of the drop-off.

, and (((hugs))) all round.

I'm dreading it too Ds is back tomorrow it's been lovely having the holidays .' Is it school today' first question when waking has started over the last few days and Ds has counted down since the last day in December.

I hope all todays returners managed to get through the day - parents too.

My DS goes back tomorrow and while he is not displaying obvious stress about it (he is even looking forward to it), he has been quite quiet today (for him). We even had a short car journey in virtual silence. For a child with non stop verbal diarrhoea I know it's a sign of anxiety :-(. He's also woken up the last two nights because of "bad dreams".

I feel so much anxiety at the thought of tomorrows car journey and drop off. Then I will want the day to rush past until I can pick him up again - whilst at the same time dreading what DS will be like at pick up :-(.

I'm working hard at being a smiley, fun, happy mummy today in the hope that he won't notice anything is bothering me! We've just got some new lego to build together and I've also let him spent time playing games on the PC. It's hard work keeping both our anxiety levels down!

Thinking of all of you in the same boat.

We had lots of tears last night and this morning but actually it went quite well.

Despite telling me she wasnt going , she did and she came out happy, thank goodness!!

She was very cuddly when we got home but has now gone off to play upstairs so anxiety levels must be fairly low.

Good luck to everyone else

Lougle could you clone your Dd2's teacher pls, she sounds great

Thanks polter

Well done Ineed it sounds like DD is holding it together

Polter I hate it when they have tummy ache. It's so real, isn't it.

I thought I'd update here, as well as my other thread

As I picked up DD3 from her classroom and started to walk to DD2's classroom, the SENCO was waiting for me and asked to 'walk and talk'.

She's asked permission to put DD2 in their 'Dragonflies' group. It's a nurture group for 5 children - a mix of Y2 (DD2's year) and Y3. It means pulling her out of class twice per week, but at this stage the SENCO and I agree that it's far more important to deal with this side of things than to have time in the classroom.

I got around to DD2's class and DD2 was stood inside the doorway, popping some bubble wrap on a side unit, away with the fairies. Her teacher said that she'd done well, but had complained of tummy pain on and off all day. The teacher felt it was anxiety rather than illness. I'm absolutely made up by that for three reasons:

a) DD2 has actually told the teacher that she has a problem (in her old school she'd come out of school with a blazing fever and wouldn't have said that she was ill to anyone, because she thought that the teachers must know she's ill).

b) The teacher has taken it seriously enough to tell me - would never have happened in the old school - it was always minimised to DD2 and then not even passed on to me.

c) The teacher has seen past the tummy pain to the cause of it.

I asked DD2 about the tummy pain and she said 'it's better now.' So I said 'did it get better earlier in the day, or at the end of school?' She said 'It got better in assembly, because assembly is nearly the end of school!'.

So, slowly but surely, they're putting support in the right places.

I must ask the SENCO whether dragonflies is as well as ELSA, instead of ELSA, or is classed as a sort of extended ELSA, tomorrow.

lougle, I'm glad that the school is better than your last but it still makes me teary eyed that your daughter and a lot of ours struggle at school. I also feel bad that you had to "walk and talk" because I hate that myself. I want to pick up and leave with out any discussion like all the other parents. I'm glad she is getting better support though and I hope that continues.

I quite enjoy 'walk and talk' because it gets the job done and I feel like it's a more 'equal' conversation, than sitting in an office where one person knows what the agenda is and the other just has to wait to find out.

Thank you, though, Tea. It shouldn't be like it for any of our children.

Oh what a terrible start to first day back. Taxi was 40 minutes late and it wasn't ds's usual driver or escort.

Ds was getting very stressed wanting know how many minutes until the taxi arrived. Then refused to get in the taxi. Got him in eventually, but stress he could do without on first day.