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'This Is My Child': our long-planned campaign on children with additional needs

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RowanMumsnet · 10/06/2013 12:51

Hello

As some of you will remember, we started this thread a few months back to get your input about a possible campaign around children with additional needs.

The thread was hugely informative - thanks very much to everyone who gave their views. Many of you were asking for a broadly-focused campaign encompassing visible and non-visible disabilities among children, teenagers and adults, and across many platforms (poster advertisements, television campaigns and so on). Much as we'd like to do this sort of thing in an ideal world, realistically we're bound by the resources that are available to us. We've also found, over the years, that campaigns with a very specific focus can do much better than those with more general messages. In addition, we're mindful that many of the big campaigning organisations in this space have already undertaken more general awareness-raising campaigns to do with capacities and needs of people with disabilities, and we try not to re-invent the wheel (although we're always happy to add our voice to such campaigns when asked).

So we've decided to go with an awareness-raising campaign focused on the ways in which caring for a child with additional needs can change a family's life, and the myths about disability that can have negative impacts on such children and their carers. We're going to call it This Is My Child (again, thanks for all the input) as we think it's simple, arresting and suits the aims of the campaign best.

We're going to be addressing myths like:

MYTH: children with behavioural disabilities are just naughty and need a firm hand
MYTH: people in receipt of disability-related payments are likely to be 'scroungers'
MYTH: children with additional needs in mainstream schooling are drawing resources and attention away from other children
MYTH: it's easy to get a Blue Badge and mobility vehicles
MYTH: a non-expert can accurately judge the capacities and potential of a child with additional needs

We're going to be putting up a myth-busting page (similar to our We Believe You myth-buster here) which will be heavily featured across the site and promoted from our social media accounts, hopefully with some mainstream press coverage. We're also going to be featuring guest blogs on the topic and holding an event on Twitter using the hashtag #thisismychild; watch this space for details.

There are a few things we'd really like your help with:

  1. Do let us have suggestions for myths you'd like busted (there's a limit to how many we can do, but it would be great to hear your thoughts).
  2. Do you have any Top Tips for how to deal with situations in which you - particularly as a parent or carer - have been subject to ignorant or hostile responses from members of the public when out and about with your child? We'd love to put together a list of ninja ways to defuse, inform or simply get rid.
  3. To go with the 'This Is My Child' theme, we're asking for MNers who are parents of or carers for children with additional needs to send in pictures of their child, which we will use for a photo gallery on the site. These can be completely anonymous and needn't be linked to your RL or MN name if you'd rather not; the idea is to personalise the issue for members of the public. If you'd be up for doing this, do please send in a digital photo (a roughly 500-pixel-sized image in a jpg, gif or png format) along with a caption (which can be pretty much anything you please: 'This is my child. He's eight and he loves Star Wars' - that sort of thing) to [email protected], with the subject heading 'This Is My Child, FAO Campaigns Team'.

Thanks for reading this far - as ever, do please let us know what you think.

OP posts:
marjproops · 15/06/2013 18:15

starlight LOVE those answers, think Ill use them next time!!! Grin.

myth- (if it hasnt been said already_ were all neurotic parents. we're pests and a drain on 'services' time.

fact- WE have to speak up for our children when they cant , even though it should be obvious they have a disabilty. WE have to fight for them and make ourselves heard.

If that makes me neurotic, so be it.

infamouspoo · 15/06/2013 18:45

'Myth - that people who complain about words and jokes that mock, insult and demean people with sn are just the professional offended.'

I'd like that on a placard to smack people with.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 15/06/2013 19:56

Well..

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 15/06/2013 19:58

This campaign is much needed..given that someone on another thread just said that I shouldn't take my DD to cafes unless i am homeless and have no choice, as if she disturbs anyone I am "gleefully expecting them to share in my misfortune".

And there was NO outrage at that post.

Very sad indeed IMO.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 15/06/2013 20:04

In fact it's just a total rerun of THE hideous panto thread again.

A step too for for me I'm afraid.

Adieu :)

hazeyjane · 15/06/2013 20:22

Fanjo, there has been outrage, it was a vicious remark to make, it has been reported, and I hope it is deleted. Idon'tknow if you have been back to the thread, but several people have been onto support you.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 15/06/2013 20:24

Thanks, yes, I am heartened that there wS.

It just felt like the awful panto thread for a while there.

I am just having a sensitive day I think Blush

marjproops · 15/06/2013 20:38

all this stuff should be taught in schools to m,ake (hate this word but cant think of another) 'normal' children aware.

ALL adults should be taught all this so they are aware, they wont stare or judge (almost makes me laugh when they stare at DC yet theyre little tarquins are the ones being proper brats and they dont have the sn 'excuse').

another answer- mine has disabilities, whats your excuse?

but we end up sounding bitchy and rude dont we?

penny100 · 16/06/2013 08:30

Sorry if someone else has said this already but I really am sick of people casually using the word 'autistic' as an insult. It seems to be in really common usage at the moment. It cuts like a knife, it's so hurtful when it's spat out as a slur. The people who use it would never dream of using the word 'spastic' as an insult which was common in the 1970s but which mercifully is socially unacceptable now.

MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik · 16/06/2013 10:48

Just wanted to say this sounds great. I don't have children but if you'll let me I will cheer from the sidelines for this campaign. Smile

HotheadPaisan · 16/06/2013 10:51

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MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik · 16/06/2013 10:54

Great! Smile

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/06/2013 11:16

Am off.

I find it hard to take this campaign seriously when someone posts that I need to call ahead and warn a cafe that I am taking DD there so people who don't want to endure her noise can finish up and leave, and MNHQ refuse to address it as the poster "wasnt being intentionally disablist".

Not a place I feel comfortable posting in now.

Thanks to all of the lovely and supportive posters

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Dawndonna · 16/06/2013 14:14

Mumsnet.
Fanjo has a point. You would have deleted a racist post, even if it had been unintentionally so.

autumnsmum · 16/06/2013 16:22

No fanjo don't go I've always found you're really helpful

GobbySadcase · 16/06/2013 17:06

Fanjo has a very big point. Unintentional disablism isn't acceptable. Unless all other isms are ok 'if you don't really mean it'.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/06/2013 17:15

That cafe thread is even more like that dreadful panto thread now. Only read the recent posts if you feel strong.

MNHQ eventually took quite a firm line on the panto thread but that thread is just being left unmoderated.

I am sorry to go..I do like helping people and contributing. But I can't go through the way these threads make.me.feel IRL any more.

ShadeofViolet · 16/06/2013 17:45

While I find the thread about the cafe upsetting, I think it does highlight a point. These are the kind of prejudices that we have to deal with every day. People who think you shouldn't ever be allowed out, shouldnt be in public.

We went to the aquarium the other day and DS was very excited (its his favourite place) He was shrieking with happiness and jumping up and down. A man in his forties pointed out to me that DS would scare the fish like that, and that if I couldnt control him I shouldnt bring him to the aquarium :(.

ShadeofViolet · 16/06/2013 17:46

I did wonder actually what he thought I should say to DS. 'please dont enjoy yourself' or maybe 'you should be miserable at the aquarium'?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/06/2013 17:50

I'd feel comfortable to stay if loads of decent people had stood up and said "what a horrible thing to say"...or if disablism was viewed like racism.

But instead I get flamed and accused of all sorts. Very sad.

Makes me feel physically ill when I read views like those expressed on that thread.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/06/2013 17:51

And of that ignorant twunt at the aquarium

GobbySadcase · 16/06/2013 18:04

Just goes to show that whilst this campaign is a good idea HQ also need to challenge any disablism, intentional or otherwise, in the same way that any other protected characteristic would be challenged on here.

Bluebirdonmyshoulder · 16/06/2013 19:02

Fanjo I've reported your post to MNHQ purely to alert them to this issue.

I completely agree that MNHQ often let disablist stuff (intentional or otherwise) go when there's no way anything remotely approaching racism or homophobia would be allowed.

I've had a post deleted before where I was pretty angry about another poster's blatant disablism. I got deleted and the other poster didn't.

Come on MNHQ, great campaign but you need to set the standard on here first.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/06/2013 19:22

Thanks. However they told.me by email to deal with it on the thread as they thought the disablism was unintentional. :(

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 16/06/2013 19:23

Hence my disappointment