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'This Is My Child': our long-planned campaign on children with additional needs

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RowanMumsnet · 10/06/2013 12:51

Hello

As some of you will remember, we started this thread a few months back to get your input about a possible campaign around children with additional needs.

The thread was hugely informative - thanks very much to everyone who gave their views. Many of you were asking for a broadly-focused campaign encompassing visible and non-visible disabilities among children, teenagers and adults, and across many platforms (poster advertisements, television campaigns and so on). Much as we'd like to do this sort of thing in an ideal world, realistically we're bound by the resources that are available to us. We've also found, over the years, that campaigns with a very specific focus can do much better than those with more general messages. In addition, we're mindful that many of the big campaigning organisations in this space have already undertaken more general awareness-raising campaigns to do with capacities and needs of people with disabilities, and we try not to re-invent the wheel (although we're always happy to add our voice to such campaigns when asked).

So we've decided to go with an awareness-raising campaign focused on the ways in which caring for a child with additional needs can change a family's life, and the myths about disability that can have negative impacts on such children and their carers. We're going to call it This Is My Child (again, thanks for all the input) as we think it's simple, arresting and suits the aims of the campaign best.

We're going to be addressing myths like:

MYTH: children with behavioural disabilities are just naughty and need a firm hand
MYTH: people in receipt of disability-related payments are likely to be 'scroungers'
MYTH: children with additional needs in mainstream schooling are drawing resources and attention away from other children
MYTH: it's easy to get a Blue Badge and mobility vehicles
MYTH: a non-expert can accurately judge the capacities and potential of a child with additional needs

We're going to be putting up a myth-busting page (similar to our We Believe You myth-buster here) which will be heavily featured across the site and promoted from our social media accounts, hopefully with some mainstream press coverage. We're also going to be featuring guest blogs on the topic and holding an event on Twitter using the hashtag #thisismychild; watch this space for details.

There are a few things we'd really like your help with:

  1. Do let us have suggestions for myths you'd like busted (there's a limit to how many we can do, but it would be great to hear your thoughts).
  2. Do you have any Top Tips for how to deal with situations in which you - particularly as a parent or carer - have been subject to ignorant or hostile responses from members of the public when out and about with your child? We'd love to put together a list of ninja ways to defuse, inform or simply get rid.
  3. To go with the 'This Is My Child' theme, we're asking for MNers who are parents of or carers for children with additional needs to send in pictures of their child, which we will use for a photo gallery on the site. These can be completely anonymous and needn't be linked to your RL or MN name if you'd rather not; the idea is to personalise the issue for members of the public. If you'd be up for doing this, do please send in a digital photo (a roughly 500-pixel-sized image in a jpg, gif or png format) along with a caption (which can be pretty much anything you please: 'This is my child. He's eight and he loves Star Wars' - that sort of thing) to [email protected], with the subject heading 'This Is My Child, FAO Campaigns Team'.

Thanks for reading this far - as ever, do please let us know what you think.

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GobbySadcase · 17/06/2013 14:13

It's full, but AIBU.

tabulahrasa · 17/06/2013 14:14

That thread was just so depressing.

I find it so upsetting to think that there are actually people that I might pass in the street who think that's it's entirely reasonable that a mother with a child with a disability shouldn't use a service in case that disability mildly inconveniances some other people.

routineandrules · 17/06/2013 14:14

Thanks im going to read it.

GobbySadcase · 17/06/2013 14:15

And they insisted on using 'sn children too' (teeth itch).

tabulahrasa · 17/06/2013 14:18

In fact it's worse than that...one of them was a teacher. Sad

Dawndonna · 17/06/2013 14:22

Thank goodness it's finished. That just knackered me, yesterday. Really upset me too. Idiots!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 17/06/2013 14:23

I probably wont post again on a thread and mention my DD's SN.

Which is hard as I only have one DD.

Have just been forced into my box by the bastards on here (sorry but they are) who accuse us of being touchy/derailing/a brigade/bitter whenever we mention our kids.

It is utter bullying.

I hope MNHQ could see it on the thread.

eggandcress · 17/06/2013 14:25

I am now pleased with MNHQ as I complained about a thread and it has been deleted. I am sure it got lots of complaints actually.

eggandcress · 17/06/2013 14:26

Sorry I meant complained about a post on the cafe thread not an entire thread gosh I am not that articulate!Blush

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 17/06/2013 14:34

The very worst post IMO has now been deleted. Thanks MNHQ.

Eyesunderarock · 17/06/2013 14:35

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eggandcress · 17/06/2013 14:37

I think we are both thinking of the same one Ellen

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tabulahrasa · 17/06/2013 14:44

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HelenMumsnet · 17/06/2013 15:29

Just a reminder, folks, that personal attacks are against our Talk Guidelines - and will be deleted.

Eyesunderarock · 17/06/2013 15:46

Confused OK, naming someone is a personal attack?

HelenMumsnet · 17/06/2013 15:55

@Eyesunderarock

Confused OK, naming someone is a personal attack?

Yes, if it's to criticise them/accuse them. Even if the accusation/criticism is true.

So I may be the vilest fattest cow of all time but to post "HelenMN is a vile fat cow" would break the site rules.

Eyesunderarock · 17/06/2013 16:01

OK, but my post contained no insults or criticism, and I'm sorry if you thought that it did.

tabulahrasa · 17/06/2013 16:10

Well without naming any posters - even if it was purely to say I didn't know if that was them or not. Hmm

I suddenly realised that people who thought that children with a disability that involves a noise should be removed from a cafe in case their disability upsets others could not just be a passerby or a neighbour, but could be teaching my children.

I maybe should have added or their dentist or other professions - but it just didn't occur to me to do that. The point I was trying to make is that anyone could have those views and I'd never know, not that I was accusing or criticising any particular poster.

HelenMumsnet · 17/06/2013 16:10

@Eyesunderarock

OK, but my post contained no insults or criticism, and I'm sorry if you thought that it did.

Well, as we read it, you were responding to tabulahrasa's posts that said "there are actually people that I might pass in the street who think that's it's entirely reasonable that a mother with a child with a disability shouldn't use a service in case that disability mildly inconveniances some other people" and "In fact it's worse than that...one of them was a teacher" - and in doing so you named another poster as the poster tabulahrasa was probably thinking of, therefore implying that those were her (the named poster's) views.

HelenMumsnet · 17/06/2013 16:12

@tabulahrasa

Well without naming any posters - even if it was purely to say I didn't know if that was them or not. Hmm

I suddenly realised that people who thought that children with a disability that involves a noise should be removed from a cafe in case their disability upsets others could not just be a passerby or a neighbour, but could be teaching my children.

I maybe should have added or their dentist or other professions - but it just didn't occur to me to do that. The point I was trying to make is that anyone could have those views and I'd never know, not that I was accusing or criticising any particular poster.

Your post was only deleted tabulahrasa because it contained a C&P of a deleted post. You'll see that our deletion message says, "Replies may also be deleted"

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 17/06/2013 16:45

Fine, I probably shouldn't have mentioned that particular poster by name, even though I just called her irritating and ignorant. I didn't name the poster with the really vile opinions.

theDudesmummy · 17/06/2013 17:18

Wow this thread really veered off in some different directions! I have submitted a pic of my DS now, hope you use it!

RazzleDazzleEm · 17/06/2013 18:30

Really crucial to make it as un acceptable to use degenerative language like mong, retard etc as it is to use degenerative language about race.

Running people down with words like that is abuse and its all linked to dehumanising abuse - think Nazi's - Jew Dog....even degenerative literature about Marie Antoinette played a large part in her eventual beheading.

tabulahrasa · 17/06/2013 19:20

Have you seen the r word campaign?

It's American, but it's quite handy sometimes to be able to go - here's it's unacceptable.