I know there are worse things in the world but feel so teary - Lotbags has to wear glasses :-(

[Thomcat]

I know it's silly, I know that in the grand scale of things it doesn't mater and so many people are going through much, much bigger things, ............ but .............

I just feel gutted.

a) it'll be a living nightmare trying to get her to wear them. Zero tolerance for anything like that. I'm sure we'll get there but it really will be awful battling with her day after day. it's upsetting, draining etc, etc, you all know what I mean I'm sure.

b) It's one more thing the poor love has to contend with. She's forced to walk and stand every day, being pushed every which ay and now she has to contend with this as well, it just seems so unfair and love is f'ing bitch.

c) If there are any nasty little kids at her new school in September it's just one more thing for them to pick on.
The short kid with the funny walk who can't talk properly and wears glasses

I just love her so much and I want to preotect he and I want everything to be ok. I've been dreading this day.

I know there are worse things happen at sea and all that, you know me, I always try and see the positive and all that, but today just feels like a shit day, and I'm allowing myself a moment of -

I f'ing hate that she has to wear glasses, I wish she didn't have Down's syndrome, life is a wanker and why us.

(Doesn't help that Lotbags ghas been up at between 4.15am and 5.15 every day this week, so extra tired and emotional)

Life - if you are listening - piss off and leave us alone now will you.

Aww tc, it will be ok

Ds2 has been wearing them since he was a year old, he's my little mad professor

I can send you LOADS of pics of him to cheer you up with his little speccy smile if you want

Glad you're feeling better today TC. I saw the thread last night but didn't post as everyone else had already said it better :)
I'm sure she will be fine, you know... from what I've read of her she seems to be a plucky little one. (And gorgeous, from the pics I've seen :) )

lou, would love that, just so i can have pics of him to make me smile. Send em to my work email, I'm back there as of the 6 June. Cheers hon'. Will catch up with you then, by email.

Foundintranslation - cheers love. Btw - my home email still not working so can't respond to you in the way I hoped yet.

So glad you're feeling a bit better, TC - drove past the end of your road today (in a rush, late as ever!) and thought of you x x x

TC, my foster sister has DS and tho it took her a few weeks to adjust to wearing fairly thick lenses she adapted very well, the harder part was when she no longer needed her hearing aids

Sending you both a {{hug}}

Oh TC I am sorry you felt so bad and are having a hard time.
You know, she is so lovely. And loads of kids wear glasses, I'm sure she won't be teased. She will just look fab.
And as others say, if it helps her to see suddenly it may improve lots of other things!
Just repeating others really, but wanted you to know I'm thining of you too.

bless you all

Feel a million dollars today, well it's more that I don't feel like a sack of shit.
DD1 went to bed at7 and got up at 7.30am. I think that may be a first, ever, ever! WOW.
DD2 went through the night and woke me at 7 for a snuggly feed.
The sun is shining and all is well with the world.
I may have another small blip when the glasses arrive but, hey ho.......

Isn't it amazing what having some sleep will do? Dh would always grimly comment, when ours wouldn't sleep, 'They torture people like this you know'

I'm 100% sure that Lottie will look utterly fab in her glasses. I was so happy to be able to see properly, as was dd when she had her glasses, neither of us ever had to be prompted to wear them, Lottie may well be the same.

When dd had her glasses for the first time in year 2, half the class started to nag their parents that they wanted them!

Hope you get another good night tonight, hugs to you all.

Sorry I missed this yesterday, TC. :( I'm glad you've finally had a decent night's sleep though. xx

sent them tc

thanks a lot, esp lou for pics, can't wait to see them

Hi

Sorry, I didn't realise there was someone on here with such a similar name

My dd was 3 in Feb. She has got a genetic condition that affects her eyes among other things, so she has worn glasses for the last year. She is also one of those kids that doesn't take to new things easily, and I felt like you about the whole glasses thing

It did take a while for her to get used to them. During that time, we used to find the glasses wherever she could hide them (in the corner behind the telly was her favourite!) Katie also denied all knowledge of where they could be... I never thought a 2 year old could be so flaming crafty!

I think it helped because Katie helped to choose her own frames this time. We also didn't force her to wear them constantly straight away, and sort of edged her into wearing them more each day.

Good luck, and take care.

S xx

TC - it is awful and it seems that its the tiredness thats pushing you over the edge.

I always remember you writing that lottie wouldn't be lottie if she didn't hace DS and it really hit home with me when I was going through my CVS with DS - I even still have your article from Eve magazine which does the rounds of so many people and one who has had a son with DS and found it really helpful.

Can you get some more help to give you a break maybe - can DH get up with Lottie for a while in the morning??

This could really change Lottie's life for the better too - imagine not being able to see properly for ages and then all of a sudden she can???

Oh - can't believe thee's another tomkat/thomcat on mumsnet and in the SN too! oh
hmmmmmm.

Ok she hasn't all the SN stuff your l'il Lottie has to deal with, but DD1's mate in reception has just been prescribed glasses (and her dad got lovely blue frames to match her eyes).

She is the star of the classroom. My DD wanted to take her sunglasses in to compete.

Kids...unpredictable mostly.

Love that there are kids who really want to wear glasses. Bless 'em

Thomcat, I've only just spotted this.
Katarina also wears glasses - and she looks so cute with them on. I'm sure Lottie will, too.
We never had any problems getting her to wear them thank goodness.

Other than that, I completely understand where you are coming from. :( :( :( I too was upset when we found out... yet another attachment for her dear little head (she also wears a hearing aid on a metal headband at the moment) and it just sucks. Why her? Why does she keep getting the shitty end of the stick?
Can I just reassure you though - dd has never ever been teased at school (and I would find out - her big sister is in year 2 and on the same playground and lunch table). She's become a bit of a school star really and whenever she can do something new the news spread like wildfire.
I was worried too - it's not only the glasses, the DS, the hearing aid, but she's also got various big scars on her upper body - a big one from heart surgery and then a few that look like extra nipples from chest drains and the children all get changed for PE together in the classroom - but it's never been an issue. Katarina gets invited to more parties than her big sister, and everybody seems to want to say Bye to her at the end of the day.
I was a helper on a school trip recently and being in Katarina's group was a much sought-after commodity for her classmates.
I'm sure gorgeous Lottie will be a much-loved member of school.

a bit late, as I missed this thread on Friday, but I am glad you got some rest and felt a bit better about things.

I started primary school sitting at the front desk, squinting at the board. It wasn't until I was 8 that anyone realised that I was short sighted! I wore horrible NHS glasses at primary school and hated every minute of it. I pleaded with mum to buy me proper specs - and I ended up with a pair like Dame Ednas.
I don't think there is such a stigma to children wearing glasses as there used to be. Lottie will be fine at school I am sure.
Think of some cbeebies characters that wear glasses, and persuade her how nice they are - just like xxxx wears (GB trying in vain to think of any spec wearing characters??)

Thomcat, when my big dd was little, i went to a parents evening. The teacher remarked how good she was at wearing her glasses. Glasses? Little toad had pinched an old pair of mine, taken them to school and had been wearing them in class 'because they make me look clever like Joanna!"

So there you go. Lottie is going to look like Joanna! And obviously everyone wants to look like Joanna (whoever Joanna maybe....)

If you ever come to France, the opticians here stock divine kids glasses.

My dd3 has to see the optician next week, and she is just desperate to have a pair of glasses that she has seen in the local opticians.

Lottie will look gorgeous in hers.

ggglimpopo

I am ROFL at Joanna.

TC hope you are feeling better about all of this.

ggg, agree - French kids (and Spanish too) always look very chic in glasses.

Geekgrrl - thanks for your lovelyu post

and

ggglimpopo - pmsl - how bloody funny is your DD. Proper tears on cheeks at the picture of you discovering your dd wearig glasses through parents evening. Hysterical Bless her

TC I was worried when dd neede glasses - I always thought they made her look a lot more SN IYSWIM?
However they have helped her SOOO kuch that she wears them off her own bat now, she looks adorable in them.
like you for us it was just one more bloody thing...
Bless hope your week has improved xx