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I know there are worse things in the world but feel so teary - Lotbags has to wear glasses :-(

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Thomcat · 26/05/2006 21:38

I know it's silly, I know that in the grand scale of things it doesn't mater and so many people are going through much, much bigger things, ............ but .............

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I just feel gutted.

a) it'll be a living nightmare trying to get her to wear them. Zero tolerance for anything like that. I'm sure we'll get there but it really will be awful battling with her day after day. it's upsetting, draining etc, etc, you all know what I mean I'm sure.

b) It's one more thing the poor love has to contend with. She's forced to walk and stand every day, being pushed every which ay and now she has to contend with this as well, it just seems so unfair and love is f'ing bitch.

c) If there are any nasty little kids at her new school in September it's just one more thing for them to pick on.
The short kid with the funny walk who can't talk properly and wears glasses Sad

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I just love her so much and I want to preotect he and I want everything to be ok. I've been dreading this day.

I know there are worse things happen at sea and all that, you know me, I always try and see the positive and all that, but today just feels like a shit day, and I'm allowing myself a moment of -

I f'ing hate that she has to wear glasses, I wish she didn't have Down's syndrome, life is a wanker and why us.

(Doesn't help that Lotbags ghas been up at between 4.15am and 5.15 every day this week, so extra tired and emotional)

Life - if you are listening - piss off and leave us alone now will you.

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Thomcat · 26/05/2006 21:39

I meant life is a f'ing bitch, not love btw

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BudaBabe · 26/05/2006 21:41

Oh sweetheart. Life is a fing b*. Yes worse things happen but as you say she (and you) have enough to deal with.

No advice I'm afraid but sympathy (and a hug for your wee girls).

Californifrau · 26/05/2006 21:42

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Blandmum · 26/05/2006 21:42

Oh bless! Poor little sausage!

If I can say something in their favour thp, you can get the most fantastic ones for kids now. dd has a very snazzy BMX pair that make her look so sophisticated.

I undertand that this must just seem like one bloody thing too much, but having see pictures of your little stunner nothing could make her look bad!

RE getting her to waer them, you might be pleasently surprised. I've got bloody awful sight, and when I wore glasses for the first time as a kid I couldn't get over how great it was to be able to actualt see things....took to them like a duck to water.

Hugs to you though.

Socci · 26/05/2006 21:42

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desperatehousewife · 26/05/2006 21:43

oh thomcat - i'm so sorry. life is shit and is really unfair, and you rant away. I'm so sorry that you are struggling with this today - as you say you always seem such a strong, positive person - and you know you'll be back there with a smile on your face and coping because you have to and because you love your daughter so much. But it's absolutely right that you have a rant about it - and this is the place to do it!

I wonder if we could get away with a really vile swear thread - just to make us feel better about shitty life at the moment? Or might MN Towers ban us?

shit, wank, bollocks....want to add anything?

Take care, easy on yourself and dont' feel bad about being pissed off
xx

unicorn · 26/05/2006 21:44

ahh TC you sound shattered love.
You are in that horrible zone known as sleep deprivation where the slightest thing can set you off.
Lottie will be absolutely fine - she is a gorgeous little thing and will not be any less with the glasses. But you are working yourself up to a tizzy, and your anxieties may rub off. So Mrs, have you anyone to give you a break whilst you 'replenish' your well?(although that sounds rude!)

She will be fine - you need to take care.
xx

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LittleMerlin · 26/05/2006 21:47

Thomcat - my DS1 has recently had to start wearing glasses and I was dreading it. But, luckily he has a friend in his class who wears them too and another boy who has to wear eye patch as well so he doesn't feel the odd one out. And also, just to echo what Martian said, I really think that his eyesight was far worse than we realised and that a lot of his behaviour was down to frustration - because he can now see so well he happily puts them on when he gets up without any prompting - even is OK about wearing a patch for 2 hrs when he gets home from school as well. Not sure how old your DD is, but I'm sure she will get on better with them than you think. Good luck!!

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Thomcat · 26/05/2006 21:52

! Thanls girls. Off to read Dingles thread, thanks for the link.

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lilibet · 26/05/2006 21:54

So sorry that you're feeling crap TC, when I saw the thread title my first thought was how gorgeous she is going to look.

It will be hard for you both at first but as with everything else it will get better.

Is there anything that you can do to get more sleep? Or is that a really stupid question? If It is please feel free to vent your frustration and tell me to f off Grin

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Thomcat · 26/05/2006 21:59

Ohhhhhh, god knows what to do about the sleep thing. I'll have to do something if it continues into next week. DD2 is still having 2 feeds a night and I start back at work the week after next Sad

Just feels good to come on here and swear really!

BOLLOCKS

Doesn't help, but feels nice anyway Smile

Thanks for your posts and support etc, much appreciated right now while I wallow and drink this bottle of wine.

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Christie · 26/05/2006 22:01

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hunkermunker · 26/05/2006 22:04

Oh, TC, my love Sad

If there are any mean kids at Lottie's school in September, the decent ones will beat the crap out of them if they dare say one thing to Lottie, I'm very sure of that. And there will be more decent ones than mean ones, so don't fret about that.

See you soonish but ring if you want a chat, any time - enjoy half term with your girls, my sweet x x x

MrsPotatoHead · 26/05/2006 22:06

Same as Christie's dd - my dd aged 6 was desperate for glasses and actually has a pair of clear glass ones that she wears sometimes, so it doesn't mean she'll be picked on.
All the best though, it's rotten when you feel it so much for them.

Blossomhill · 26/05/2006 22:30

Thomcat :( Life really can be so unfair at times you are so right.

Lots of hugs to you tonight and rant away, that's what mn is for!

The fact you are getting so much broken sleep must be making you feel even worse. I have been there and it's torture. Fingers crossed Lottie starts sleeping better soon.

rivers · 26/05/2006 22:30

Hi TC,

This is the first time I have posted on MNet for about a year so I am sure you don't remember me! My DD has a tracheostomy and started mainstream last Sep. She also had to start wearing glasses before she started school and I was very upset. Like you I felt she had so much to cope with so why did she have to have something else different. I thought that she would suffer so much bullying as along with having the tube in her throat she now had glasses!!

Fortunately I have been proved very wrong as she appears to have been accepted by everyone and to be honest I think she looks even cuter with her glasses on! When I ask her what she would do if any children were horrible to her she signs she would fight them in the playground but thankfully it hasn't come to that!!

I know things will seem better soon and it is great that this board is here to be able to vent when things seem bad.

Just wanted you to know that I knew exactly how you feel.

Take care and hope you manage to get more sleep soon.

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Thomcat · 26/05/2006 22:37

River - course I remember you, very well. So nice to 'see' you. How's everything else.

Right - have a headache and am drained so am off to bed.

Thank you all for your posts.

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Heathcliffscathy · 26/05/2006 22:46

TC....:(

life sucks. it really does sometimes. nothing else to say except hang in there gorgeous.

x

anniebear · 27/05/2006 06:37

Totally understand about the glasses, I think I was close to tears when Ellie had to have them

Just thought she had enough problems without adding glasses

and I know glasses are lovely nowadays and Ellie really suits hers, but I would still rather she didn't have to have them

sorry you are feeling so down at the moment

Blu · 27/05/2006 07:50

Oh TC.
I daresay today is another day, and you have taken a deep breath - but it is one long bloody round of obstacles and booby-traps, isn't it?

DS's best friend at school is the one who wears glasses, and DS has just failed his routine school eye test. I am half wondering whether he failed it deliberately because he has been pestering for glasses since he met *, or whether he has inherited dp's family's dodgy eyesight. I don't want him to wear glasses, I feel he won't look like my DS any more - but at least we know that, amongst some 4 year olds, glasses are an object of desire - and lovely Lottie will have an admirer in BoyBlu, for one!

Northerner · 27/05/2006 08:43

Hi TC!!!

Haven't seen you around for a while hun and just wanted to say Hi. Sorry you feel shit atm, it is so not like you and you are entitled to feel like this, things just get on top of us every once in a while don't they?

Hope someone is at home looking after you. Good luck with the going back to work thing!!

xx

Twiglett · 27/05/2006 08:48

Lottie is beautiful .. with or without glasses .. Lottie is beautiful

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Thomcat · 27/05/2006 21:08

You're all great Smile feel better today, about the glasses. LOL at hoping I was still asleep when you were posting though Sobrnow, nice thought hon but Eve woke me at 4am and Lottie was up and kissing my shoulder at 4.45 am!

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