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Aibu.....flippant asd comment

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Reecieroo · 02/05/2013 21:53

Sooooo a little bit of background, my ds is 3.8 and at start of dx process for aspergers/asd. Anyway I take my dd to a baby group and everyone was chatting, it's a small group of 6, we were chatting as usual about a couple of babies who are very cute chubby babies and how hv moan about their weight unnecessarily. Out of the blue one mum said 'oh it's like when a child is naughty or a bit different they diagnose autism, for gods sake' ............I was a bit taken aback I'm new to the group and they don't know about my ds. I was a bit shocked, is this what people think of children with asd?! I really wanted to say u can have my son for a week if u like and u can decide if he's a bit naughty!

Just having a moan really, guess its first of insensitive comments to come. I felt like a fly on the wall iysim? I don't wanna go back now :(

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zzzzz · 02/05/2013 23:23

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Plus3 · 02/05/2013 23:27

Zzzzz I would love to say that and watch said spluttering!

Dinkysmummy · 02/05/2013 23:31

zzzzz

Unfortunately Reecieroo some people have this inability to use even a small proportion of their brains!

Yanbu, but it does suck

(I told my bro that dinky might have an ASD, he said "she didn't look like she had learning difficulties" some people just are not very clued up)

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Blessyou · 02/05/2013 23:37

I get, "but he seems so clever, what makes you think he has autism?" quite often

Ask the panel of Specialists who diagnosed him. FFS indeed.

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coff33pot · 03/05/2013 00:33

I saw a quote somewhere and I was saving it for the right moment. I think its time to use it.

It said...

My child doesnt look "Autistic" and you dont look ignorant......
Yet here we are.

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ouryve · 03/05/2013 12:20

Love that one, coffee.

Stressedtothehilt · 03/05/2013 13:40

With dd1 ADHD I have had But she can read and write, But she doesn't swear all the to,e, But she is not like that kid at XYZ school, She doesn't look Different, if you give her sedatives she will be fine, Just enlist her in the Army at 16 they will sort her out, Nothing a good belting wont solve! And ,and many more!!!

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Reecieroo · 03/05/2013 18:46

Some brilliant comments, I will speak up next time!

She didn't know anybody's background so it was pretty inconsiderate, all family's, races are affected by autism so it was a dumb comment.

.............now where's that thread that was naming people as bastards she needs to be added :-0 xx

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frizzcat · 04/05/2013 15:41

Sorry just noticed this and have duly added ignorant person to the numbskull bastard category - maybe I need to resurrect that thread

accordiongirl · 05/05/2013 09:50

My sons on the spectrum but I think you're over reacting. She was just chatting and talking about doctors jumping to conclusions. Out of her bottom, mind you! But I wouldn't take offence.

accordiongirl · 05/05/2013 09:52

This stuff gets easirer once you have dx cos once you know what you're talking about you can confidently "explain" things to people...

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beautifulgirls · 05/05/2013 11:43

I'm with accordiongirl on here. Before we had to deal with ASD I wouldn't have know what it was and would have been one of those parents in a similar conversation who may have spoken out with ignorance based upon inaccurate media perceptions. Don't take it personally, it wasn't directed at you individually. I think that we do need to help people to understand the reality of ASD and that it is not an excuse, it is a real disability. How you do that is down to how you feel about things. If you can't talk about it why not print out some info and let her have that? Whilst it is tempting to be brazen in the way the second post here suggests I'm not all that sure it really helps to educate people myself, but then that is just my opinion.

coff33pot · 06/05/2013 00:25

The outlook I have on the second post is it may just educate someone to think first, speak after and not necessarily open ones mouth before putting brain into gear :)

Now if the conversation had a different twist as in a question/debate form as in they are interested in other peoples views....then that would be different and lead me to WANT to help the awareness side of things :)

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