maybe wrong place but could do with advice 're pg

[redwellybluewelly]

I've been a lurker and occasional poster for a long time but have namechanged after was outed in RL.

DC1 is two and a bit, hemi CP and seizure disorder after oxygen starvation during a mismanaged labour. Doing well but parenting is different, lots of input and therapy but overall we manage.

I'm 17 weeks pregnant. DH and I haven't told a soul yet, no intention to tell until 20week scan; and even then we are planning on just telling work.

I'm terrified in a way I didn't think I could be. I've posted in pregnancy and got good advice but I don't think people "get it", baby is wriggling and letting me know he/she is ok but I haven't bonded, can't contemplate having a healthy newborn in my arms as it were

Just wish we could be happy and carefree like the mums to be in boots and M&P, if anyone has ajy words of advice or a mantra it would help us to hear it..

[redwellybluewelly]

Hi hazeyjane I wanted to pm you to thank you for your support, but can't on my phone.

I was upset when I titled the thread but coukd probably have phrased it better. However my consultants letter wasn't posted until the day after my MW appointment, almost two weeks since the consultant had dictated the letter judging by the letter heading.

Have kept the postmarked envelope and the letter to show him when we next see him.