I am calling on your collective wisdom re ds2. He has always been quite challenging but in these last few months has had more and more angry outbursts where he is screaming and kicking and especially has taken on hitting his db as soon as a conflict arises.
After a discussion a few days ago, it emerged that ds2 cannot control himself in these situations. In his own words, 'he is so angry that he has to hit his db'.
When he is calm, he knows that he needs to go away and calm down or ask for some help but in the mist of things, he just can't think about it, everything escalates...
It is to the point where I am wondering if it is a good idea to leave them together alone (Is it safe for ds1?). I left them for 15min on the playground last week whilst I was having a much needed chat with ds2 teacher, ds1 came back with a big red mark on his leg where ds2 had kicked him....
So far, I have send anyone too angry to cool down in their own bedrooms. I've had chats. I've tried to send ds2 to bed earlier as a 'punishment' but this just did not work. He either just accepted it or kicked a huge fuss, lots of resentment towards me but not a lot of learning out of it iyswim. So what would you suggest?