I am trying to get DLA for DS3 who has an anxiety disorder and is very near to getting a diagnosis for ASD. (Waiting for feedback session - but CAMHS have indicated that it is very likely having seen the ADOS) (BTW I did post on this as chives22 before - but am using one name now - my life is complicated enough as it is!) I was initially refused, I then wrote (typed out) 5 extra sides of supporting information, refuting what they said in the written statement of reasons for refusal and detailing examples for each section of the form. I was very careful to follow advice given here to keep pointing out what DS3 can't do in the same way as a NT 10 year old and to use the 'on a bad day, ... on a better day' way of explaining how DS always needs additional help, even if the amount varies. And I have been following the Cerebra guide!
Now I have a letter saying their decision remains the same, and they made it looking at my new evidence, original claim form, a medical report I sent and a medical report they asked for. Am I allowed to see a copy of this? And I don't see how a medical report can give much of a picture of DS's care needs at home. I don't understand why it is proving so hard to get DLA. DS2 with HFA has LRM and MRC. Is it because DS3 doesn't have a diagnosis yet? But I know that's not meant to make a difference...