I have wrote my resignation letter because I feel too tired to work anymore

[OwlLady]

and I feel the stress of working and caring is pulling me in all directions and i feel tired, anxious and emotionally and physically ill all the time and I am getting little joy out of anything

Has anyone else done this in order to have a rest? will i never work again?

(I think saintlyjj will come and tell me off now)

[cornsconkers]

Sorry for hijacking your thread owl lady - just couldn't believe it when I saw this thread which reflects exactly how I feel!
Knackered, stressed, had enough!
ds has just been bumped up to HRC ( still no firm dx so pretty amazed) so I feel more confident about giving up work but....what about when he's older.... Will I regret it if I can't get back in and he's financially dependent on me...
It's that more than anything that is worrying me. Especially with all the changes being brought in to benefits by this government.

[OwlLady]

and today to top things off I was completely demoralised in front of staff I have to manage because tosser at the top wanted me to explain my personal circumstances
at least it has made my mind up

sorry corn to you too

[JackJacksmummy]

I am also considering doing this. It's hard work having to explain why I am late for work after an appointment with the senco has over run or that I have to take yet another day off for an assessment or to feel like an involved parent so I can observe DS in SN facility that he goes to.

Not to mention the exhaustion from constantly chasing after him until 10-11 at night when he finally collapses!

Just need to work out if its financially viable and being that he now gets dla it may be that I could at least cut down and claim carers allowance. Only thing that's stopping me is that work is my escape!

I am also training to be a SEN TA which is voluntary but what I'd like to do is help out more at DS's school to get more experience and possibly a "foot in the door" and not working will enable this too!

[OwlLady]

work has always been my escape to, it isn't anymore, it gives me more headaches than at home

I think people are less understanding as they get older as well as they think they are more independent

[notactuallyme]

I left just as I was qualifying; I did qualify but knew I wouldn't be able to work in that field. Ds was constantly being picked up due to illness at nursery and I couldn't do both. I went back to a different field about five years later. Its still hard and I work part time. You Are Not Alone.

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Chocjunkie, is that right? I thought they ask what you earn per annum? Or perhaps that is just because I'm self-employed.

[OwlLady]

I have handed it in. I feel relieved tbh

[cornykrueger]

oooh well done
I'm still pondering...

[LateDeveloper]

OwlLady - good for you for resigning from a stressful job. Have a good long break and take stock.

I've just given up a 4 day a week job to do what I hope will be a more manageable 2.5 days mainly from home. However I'm keeping my childcare for three days as I need the respite and I want him to stay in the system - round here the majority of even quite expensive holiday childcare for children with disabilities is only available if both parents are working.

Ds is lovely but at 7 is becoming more hard work and I fear if I gave up work I might find it difficult to go back at a later date.

I'm trying to convince myself that he will be calmer at 14. At seven I can still pick him up and carry him when he has a meltdown. Maybe I'll spend my free time working out in the gym and forge a new career as a body builder

[littlefirefly]

Well done for taking the plunge OwlLady!

I haven't been able to work for over a decade due to DS's autism, as I'm a lone parent and have no partner to depend on. I find we manage well enough financially, as DS gets HRC and the increased rate of CTC on top, plus my Carer's. And although DS is at special school, I find I need to spend his school hours doing the normal daily things that most parents can do while their dc are self-occupied, which DS can't do. It also means I can attend things like talks and courses on autism, so I'm more able to manage his needs.

I do go to the gym during school hours as well but I see that as taking care of myself so that I'm healthy enough to deal with DS - mentally and physically.

[chocjunkie]

IAE - not sure if it is different when you are self employed.

I am employed and my earnings and childcare does vary.I have to fill in a form every 2 months and submit pay slips and childcare invoices and then the DWP calculate/decide for which week I do qualify and for which weeks I don't. in my case it absolutely has nothing to do with my annual income but with my weekly take home pay (after deducting 50% of my childcare fees and 50% of my pension contributions). So yes, I work and I do qualify for carer's (most weeks at least).

[inappropriatelyemployed]

Thanks. They take it on a yearly basis if you are self-employed - so you submit your annual accounts and what you earn in one tax year, affects whether you can claim in the next.

[chickensaresafehere]

I was made redundant early las year from a part time job that I loved.
I panicked & found another job which was more hours & more hard work!!
I just couldn't cope & handed my notice in after struggling on for 6 months.I didn't want to let my family down & had worked all my adult life,so the decision to leave was a bit fraught.
15 months on & I'm still out of work,but I feel I have more time to deal with all the responsibilities of having a child with a disability & I feel alot less stressed myself.
I would like to get back to work but I am not putting pressure on myself to find a job,as it will have to be the 'right one'.

[magso]

Well done Owl Lady for handing your notice in!!