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Friday night thread....yes I know it's early!!! :(

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Badvoc · 28/09/2012 13:14

Sooooo.
Been a bit of a shitty week casa Badvoc.
Dh is in the US and will be til next Thursday.
Ds1 is doing really well, another head teacher award yesterday for his writing :)
Heis also coping well with dh being away.
Ds2 however....
I realise I am going to sound a it mad but it's like deja vu...
Ds2 has suddenly become very distressed going to pre school. We had no idea why. Manager says no problems.
(Ds1 was bullied by the same child from nursery to year 2 and had a horrific effect on him.)
Took ds2 to a messy play session at pre school yesterday afternoon and...omg...
A child was so awful to ds2. Really singled him out. Hurt him, took all the things he was paying with....was a nightmare.
So.
Am pretty sure he is the reason ds2 is now so unhappy.
What should I do?
I am in bits.
It's all coming back...the same feelings, the same sick dread in the pit of my stomach...
Didn't sleep last night and can't eat :(
Wwyd?

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wasuup3000 · 28/09/2012 17:25

Just arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!! Phew

zzzzz · 28/09/2012 17:28

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moosemama · 28/09/2012 17:59

I've had ds1 home sick all week. Started with a call from the school mid-morning on Monday. He'd been in the toilets in a state of distress for over an hour, with the HT and SENCO loitering in the corridor outside and Head going in regularly to check on him. He was worried it was a gluten insult, following a family birthday party the day before, but it turned out to be Norovirus. He was throwing up by the end of the day, then dh, then most of the wider family, but fortunately not me, ds2 or dd.

He's been on toast and other bland foods all week. Was bouncing off the walls by yesterday, so tried him with a bit of cheese at lunch, seemed ok. Then dh took him to secondary open eve last night and he projectile vomited and had explosive diarrhoea simultaneously outside the entrance with almost no warning, despite not having either since Monday evening. Fortunately dh noticed him go green and managed to get him out of the school hall just before the Head started his speech!

Poor ds. He said to dh "daddy, I was sick both ways". Dh asked what he meant and he said, "First my mouth was sick, then my bottom was sick as well". Sad He won't have it that bottoms can't be sick, because that would mean he's pooed himself and he absolutely can't accept that.

I am still hobbling. Have been called for more xrays tomorrow though. Had a couple of really painful episodes this week when my whole foot, ankle and part of my calf swelled up to silly proportions and went a very interesting mix of colours. I have also developed an odd hard lump on the front of the joint, so I think that might be mucking with the blood supply somehow. It's been nigh on 8 weeks now and I'm up and down to the school on crutches 3 to 4 times a day. Hmm

Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 28/09/2012 18:04

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggghh here too. Dd just pooed herself watching tv. (nothing new in it's self.... I can say this to you guys without too much Blush) but today she said it was a bit different. A bit like a poo and a bit like wee, and pulled her tights down to show me sending puddles of poo all over the shoes on the cloakroom floor. I'm afraid I saw Angry when she started dancing about in it and laughed because I tickled her when I scraped it off her leg! Shes in the bath and I'm hitting the Wine

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moosemama · 28/09/2012 18:19

Wine Lola, we can sit together in the House at Poo Corner! Chocolate might not be a good choice of snack this evening though. I have cinnamon and raisin cookies or iced buns though?

I am sure I can still smell it, but then the vast quantities of wind coming from ds1 on a regular basis may have something to do with it.

zzzzz · 28/09/2012 18:22

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moosemama · 28/09/2012 18:27
Grin

How about B

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StarlightMcKenzie · 28/09/2012 18:29

Cheeky school gave DS money for the McMillan coffee morning then asked me to pay them back Hmm

StarlightMcKenzie · 28/09/2012 18:30

But I guess at least DS didn't dance in poo!

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StarlightMcKenzie · 28/09/2012 18:37

They did one class at a time, heavily supervised and parents coukd join them. Tbh, since it was a special school, they used the opportunity well getting the older kids to bake, serve, tidy, make small-talk with parents etc.

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notactuallyme · 28/09/2012 18:51

hi all - almost peeked in and ran away again! still finding it hard to join the community, as it were, and thought i'd stumbled on a fight! Really sorry that this has happened badvoc - do go again, or you will never know if it got better/ was a one off/ got a chance to say something.

had a really nice week on some fronts; ds offered a space out the blue by his fantastic school on a programme, and some success on the wetting.

That's all my news: intrigued by the son going to coffee mornings!

Going to open some lovely wine later ; dh out for the night so lots of telly, rubbish magazines and cr*p food.

AttilaTheMeerkat · 28/09/2012 18:53

Hope you all have a better week next week Badvoc and Moosemama. It can be difficult when Dh is away on business as well as you're left holding the fort. Shoppingbags has suggested some good tactics.

Moosemama - hope your DS feels better soon. I lost half a stone due to norovirus; I had never felt so ill in my life. Was sick both ways at the same time too, I thanked my stars for a well equipped bathroom!!. I did not eat anything at all for just over four days, stomach was way too sore.

Great stuff star re DS's tennis lessons.

DH is away for a couple of days in the Channel Islands soon, cannot go with him unfortunately.

Ice bun sounds good!.

Anyone for some Magnum ice-cream - its their new chocolate and vanilla in a liter tub.

we're going on holiday for Christmas!!. No inlaws to worry about - yay!!!

schoolworry · 28/09/2012 18:55

Hi all - really need a Wine or 3! Sick and tired of school now - it's all going pear-shaped. Ds was in trouble for being rude to a teacher who was rude to him. He was sitting down in PE so she asked him why and he said 'because you're horrible' so she said 'and you're not!' before walking away' Shock. There is a back story as she was totally out of order last week by comments she made to other children about ds that he got to hear about. There has been other incidents recently and it seems that they are happy to jump on ds for any little thing while it's o.k for them to act inappropriately. Gulps Wine

StarlightMcKenzie · 28/09/2012 19:06

Poor thing school worry!

what on earth did you think we were fighting about?

signandsmile · 28/09/2012 19:25

Hi everyone, sorry you have had such crappy weeks, Sad It was my few days away flolloping at Butlins, which I have to say was fab... (I am the sad individual who has now almost finished the Christmas shopping, Blush). and today when I took ds swimming he managed not to thump the horrid girls who pushed in front of him of him on the pirate ship slide... (I told him in a loud voice how proud I was of him, for being patient when they were being mean.) (passive agressive moi?? Grin)

Lolaismyfavouriteandmybest · 28/09/2012 19:36

Haha Moosemama Just asked Dh to get me giant chocolate buttons from the shop. Not the best choice was it Grin

And yes I can still smell it (and it was bad) but dh who wasn't in when the explosion happened can't smell anything

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ouryve · 28/09/2012 19:45

Kids used to try to take things off DS2 because he couldn't answer back (NV) and was pretty passive back then. Then a child tried to take the wrong thing off him and he saw red and belted them one! Of course his 1:1 had to make all the right noises (no we don't hit each other) but when she related the incident to me we were both pretty pleased because we were both becoming concerned that other children were seeing him as a bit of a pet and finally, he'd come out of his shell and made his feelings known, to quite impressive effect.

I overheard the kid concerned grumbling to his grandma on the way home. His grandma took one look at who he was referring to and said "well you must have asked for it."

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moosemama · 28/09/2012 19:47

Notactually, don't run away - we might disagree with each other occasionally, but it's very rare for us to actually fight. We all have different experiences and opinions to bring to the board and whilst we don't always agree, we tend to discuss them without resorting to main MN board tactics, iykwim.

Glad you've had a good week. Wine telly, magazines and cr*p food sounds like the perfect Friday night to me. Smile

Attila, thanks for the well wishes. It certainly is a nasty virus. Ds already struggles with his weight and was hugging the 2nd centile before this - weighed him this afternoon and he's now closer to the 1st. Sad

Very Envy of you going away for Christmas - I'd love to do that but there's no way we'd ever get away with it, partly due to ds1, partly because of wider family politics. We have however managed to avoid visiting people on Christmas Day for the last three years, since I put my foot down when heavily pg with dd.

Magnum ice-cream sounds delicious!

Schoolworry, that really makes me Angry. Teachers behaving like children, setting a terrible example to all and then blaming the child. We had similar problems with one of ds1's teachers a couple of years back. She took everything he said the wrong way and refused to accept that his ASD had anything to do with how he came across. Angry Your poor ds. Sad

Wine
notactuallyme · 28/09/2012 19:51

Hi star hi zzz - it was the bullying/ passive stuff - i just read a bit and then thought 'noooo!'

ooh Butlins - glad it was good. We had a really yuk time there, but kids desperate to go again - might it another whirl.

Fish saga ongoing - water still not okay to add replacement ones to poor ds' dead ones - had to explain that if we let them have the whole lot to get it back to normal, the exact same fish must come back, as ds' powers of recognition will note even an off colour scale...Grin