Friday night thread.....

[Becaroooo]

....hello all.

Hope you are all ok? Mixed week here....Ds2 been ill - a reaction to his pre school booster I think. Also been very tantrum-y too

Ds1 however, has been a star He has started some vision therapy to help his tracking an convergence issues and is doing well.

AND....duh duh duh!!!!!.....

He also got "star writer of the week" at assembly today! This, from a boy who couldnt write a sentance this time last year!!!!

Am so proud!

wow bec that's fab! it's been a good week here, college work portfolio went in, (phew) and ds has been eating loads of new stuff, off out this eve to 'frock exchange' evening. .

ds very tired, but coping with school. and my laminate floor is down love it love it love it, (yes I am that sad

sign Sounds all good at your end!!

imogen ooohhh, ouch! you poor thing had all mine out under GA years ago...I wouldnt have been brave enough to be concious!! Get some nurofen down you!!!! Sorry to hear ds had an ear infection...they are not fun

sign I am re-vamping the kitchen tomorrow...through neccessity sadly (hob didnt work, fridge freezer nearly blew up, sink cracked and now the oven is making funny noises!) so am not looking forward to the mess and inevitable arguments with dh

Well done to your little writer Bec. Hope DS2 gets better soon.

Sign you couldn't do my dissertation section could you? On the most difficult part and only got 2 weeks to do it. Well done on getting your portfolio in and hope you have a good evening.

Good week here. DS got pupil of the week for hard work in class . DDs parents night was on Tuesday and she's doing really well.

Only down point was DH telling me he's away on business for 2 days instead of just 1 next week . Not sure I can cope as still not up to full strength and have deadlines for other things.

I know how you feel creator Dh is away from mon night til sat night next week Ds1 is already stressing about it.

Imogen x posted. Well done to your DS and sorry bout your difficulties. Why oh why do they blame the parents . Got some irn bru if that's any good?

Oh Bec how do you cope?

Not sure I do creator !!

Dh started a new role at work in January (in sales which means more travelling which he loves) and I am really trying to be supportive and happy for him BUT atm I am feeling anxious and resentful which is not good

Ds1 gets very anxious when "things arent normal" Ds2 misses him but is fine if I am here.

Just hoping we all make it to the end of the week intact!

Know what you mean Bec. DH doesn't have to go away very often and things are usually fine, but last time I was feeling better than I do now and needed my parents at times .

But I don't want to make DH feel bad.

DCs don't know yet. Will probably tell them on Sunday.

Its hard isnt it?

Hoping I dont need to rely on PILs or my parents next week...I hate asking and feeling like a failure if I do.

Am currently trying to convince myself I dont have an ear infection brewing and hoping that ds2 doesnt get any worse....

dh wants to use skype next week but I am not sure...it might upset ds1 even more???? sigh.......

Well done to miniBec on his award. Sorry to hear ds2 has been poorly.

Imogen, OW! You poor, but very brave thing. Have you got some cocodamol in? Its the only thing that ever touches mouth/tooth related pain for me.

Well done to your ds for coping with his MRI, what a brave boy. I have refused to have any more MRIs because they freak me out so much. Good news about the refund, but at Psych comments.

Creatovator, sounds like your dcs are both doing really well - another star of the week! Well done miniCreatovator.

Odd week here. Ds1 has been in a terrible state pretty much all week - kind of expected, as he is off to stay at his grandma's tomorrow night and is already unsettled because she's had the audacity to redecorate her living room for the first time since before he was born. Bless her, she's been doing it in stages to try and help him cope, but he still can't handle it. She had a new fireplace in January, then repainted the walls a couple of weeks ago and has delayed getting the carpet and new suite until after he's been to stay. He's been to see each stage as its been done, but just says it upsets him and makes him feel funny.

I have nearly cancelled our night out so many times this week, as he's been a mess at home and at school, but we really need a night off and dh is determined we are going.

Oddly, in the middle of all his anxiety and upset he has suddenly started using jottings, working much more effectively and even asking for help in maths - which is huge for him. His teachers are over the moon about it.

Took ds2 to the doctors this morning, as his ankles keep giving way and his knees have bent backwards a few times. He had a particularly bad one on Wednesday where his ankle and knee both gave way and he woke the next morning unable to put his foot to the floor. The doctor was rude and dismissive, but has referred him - although I was so wrongfooted by his attitude that I neglected to ask who to.

Oh and dd is currently sitting on the bottom step screaming the house down after biting ds2.

Hi all :)

Becs sorry your DS is ill nothing worse when they are under the weather and a big dance around for the star!

sign Laminate is grrrreat for roller skates!

imogen enjoy your ice-cream and good news on the poss referral to salt :)

creator another big jig around for your two starts too!

You're not a failure if you need help. My doctor told me recently that having a child with dx AS means that life is much more stressful for my family than normal family life.

Sorry can't remember the special needs in your family, but would expect that in terms of stress, it can be the same.

Know what you mean about skype.... it's hard to know what to do, though I suppose it may give him something to look forward to each day?

moose The doctor was probably "rude and dissmissive" because he didnt have a clue!!! Far easier to treat parents like shit than admit they dont know the answer!

ds2 went through a biting phase...fun isnt it?

Oh! x posted! Going to read and catch up

getting in early ish.

Had a great weekend with mum friends who all have girls with ASD, was relaxing and drank wayyy too much wine
This week has been mixed. DH had 6 month cancer check, his doing well but they want to take another piece of bone marrow so his not happy bunny.
DD1 has a school overnight trip next week and i need to do her social story asap!!
I have DLA form to do!! Runs off scarced!
I have had a ppi refund offer so looking forward to paying off some more debts.

glad no one has so far had a horrible nasty week, and just been ok ish!

Ds1 has asd but no dx yet. He is also severely dyslexic - hence my delight at todays award!!!!

Ok, she's finally stopped screaming. Oh my word, I've never known her do that before - not the biting or the ranging tantrum. She was proper red faced and tight fisted sitting there on the bottom step!

Peace has now been restored, she has apologised to her brother and is now eating her rather cold dinner (pasta).

All a bit of a shock to the system, as both boys were totally passive and obedient at this age, neither of them ever bit or did anything really naughty actually. Dd is a whole new range of experience for dh and I, so nt its scary sometimes.

OOPS clicked send lol

Welll this week school wise has been crap rubbish and so not even going to bother saying more than that lol and stick to the good bits/funny bits

DS mate came for tea again for the second time and it all went well with the 2 hypers BUTTTT a certain two little people went upstairs when I had to answer phone and spied the bathroom. They came down smelling of.........allsorts lol Harry was shall we say soaked but happy showing off a new hairdo....all spikey. DS said "cool eh mum?" "we been hairdressers" and sooooo I tread upstairs to find that they had wet their heads, used daddys hair gel (which was actually shaving gel lol) streamlined the sides of their hair with "more of daddys gel" (which was roll on deodrant!) and spiked their hair up with.................wait........for ........it......Spray on freeze pain away All in the space of a 5 min call and an answer of a door lol

Yes you can laugh I certainly did and Harry was in total refusal to wash it off so apart from giving him a fresh clean T shirt I had to take him home looking dashing and smelling beautiful lol Good job the parents saw the funny side

Gosh Moose sounds like you've had quite a time of it. Glad peace has been restored now. Hope you enjoy you're night out.

Bec Double well done for the award then .

Lisa Glad your DH is doing well. DLA brings me out in cold sweat... Going to get DH to tackle next one... sometime this year.

Hi Coff33

Coff33 have some for the bad week and thanks for the laugh

they turned down DH DLA when he was first dx, I decided i didnt have the strength to deal with DLA and cancer, but no longer need it :)

Beca - fun! Not the word I'd use to describe it!

I have to agree with Creatovator, asking for help isn't a sign of failure. It wasn't all that long ago that communities were closer and we would all have had a local network of support, including families and friends. Its the way society is structured that's changed, not the need for families to support each other.

I used to feel like you, until I had a frank discussion with my Mum and realised that she actually wants to help out and spending time with her grandchildren is one of her greatest pleasures. She also pointed out that as my mum, she hates to see me struggle and/or be upset as much as I hate to see my dcs struggling/upset. She says we never stop feeling the need to support and protect our dcs and she would actually be hurt if I didn't allow her to help.