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StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 17:06

Hi all,

Rubbish week. Lots of dashed hopes. Fed up and a bit lost but I'll bounce back when I'm ready.

Hope the rest of you survived.......

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Ineedalife · 27/01/2012 17:10

Sorry you had a bad week starlight.

Ours has been up and down, Dd3 is shattered and not 100% but we have nothing planned for tomorrow so she can have a quiet day.

Oh is banging around in a strop because I have just reminded him that he needs to say her name before he asks her a question if he wants her to answer.

He can be such a twat at times, God knows how many times I have told himHmm.

Another thumbs up for school though, they have started doing her physio with her and have made it in to a lunch time club with a few children so she thinks its great and doesn't moanGrin.

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 27/01/2012 17:12

oh no star, hope you can get something sorted.

ok week for us, just trying to figure out if we need to cross dd3's physio off the trusted list Confused Managed to send dd3 to school today without her hearing aids and didn't realise until 3pm when I saw them sat on the side, not good!

IndigoBell · 27/01/2012 17:24

I've had a great week.

Had parent teacher interviews for all 3 kids.

DS2 had just got a dx of DCD. NQT teacher doesn't have a clue, and keeps telling me he's fine, no problems etc. So came out of meeting cross-as-expected.

Then saw SENCO in the afternoon. She saw his 'lack of social skills'

She saw him get cross at play time and retreat to a corner flapping. :)

She's quite scared of me Grin and has promised he'll be given:

  • Speed up - handwriting intervention
  • Fizzy - gross motor stuff
  • Pyramid club - social skills
  • A full language assessment.

I don't suppose the language assessment will actually materialise, do you? And if it does, is there any chance he'll pass and school will continue to believe I'm crazy?

(Why do I care what school think?)

So talking to the SENCO really made me day.

DS1 is doing brilliantly. This is the first teacher meeting since Y1 (he's now in Y6) where I wasn't worried and neither was teacher. His handwriting is no longer the worst in the class!

DDs had an interesting development. Tinsley House is working amazingly. First it cured her word finding problems, then it cured her reading problems - and this week...... She's started to feel angry and sad! She says it's the first time she's every felt angry! Understandably she's very unsettled.

I however view it as great progress :)

Ineedalife · 27/01/2012 17:34

Wow indigo some major steps forward in your house this weekGrin.

Hope the school do all the things they have said.

starfish71 · 27/01/2012 17:35

Hope you have a better one next week starlight. ineedalife I have to say that to my DH too, in fact he made me laugh (a rare thing these days) when there was an item on Daybreak in the week about a child-minder who specialises in Special needs children and DS2 was as usual loud and chattering away, DH gets snappy and I just went' you got cross with your special needs ds because you couldn't hear the item about special needs!'

Well, it struck me as funny anyway! think I have nearly reached hysterical this week..

Had meeting at school about DS1, got a plan of sorts, just got to try and see if DS will attempt school to just attend his favorite subject for two lessons a week.. still glad I have started asked for statutory assessment though - not much more support they can give him or so it seems. Should know by middle of Feb.

DH is off out on a work do, so a friend popping over so be a bit of a catch up and a couple of glasses of wine hopefully. Wine

Becaroooo · 27/01/2012 17:36

Mixed here too.

Sorry you are so down star

Now have heat and hot water - which is good Smile Conservatory roof hopefully now mended (at last!!) and fridge freezer still working for now!

Ds1's melatonin tablet prescription still hasnt arrived yet Sad and he had an awful time last night trying to get to sleep. sigh.

signandsmile · 27/01/2012 17:39

hi ninja, star sorry it's been such a pants week, needa hope you get a quiet weekend, indigo what fab progress, Grin

this week has been hectic, but MiL is out of hosp, and her dog is now back with her, (from staying with us). all student visits booked, (and next week means I am away with work at least part of the time). which is a nice break, but means so much organising all the support before hand IYSWIM...
ds's TA has been off sick, so we have had a bite and wet trousers at school from ds, Sad. but she is lovely and now back, when we did prayers last night he said 'please help Mrs X feel better amen' all on his own, Grin told her today and she was really touched.
hoping for a quiet weekend... as next week will be utter chaos slightly challenging, Grin

StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 17:39

Thanks everyone. A bit mixed then?

Indigo, What's Tinsley House?

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2old2beamum · 27/01/2012 17:39

May I join you? Have had a crap week DS2 now is developing scoliosis to add to his problems. DD has managed to break her spectacles and lose her hearing aids and DS1 had a seizure, toppled downstairs face a total mess! Might make wear a paper bag to hide his face.
Mindyou DS2 had a fantastic annual review. Hope you all have a peaceful w/e if there is such a thing.

StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 17:40

Starfish, I found that funny too Grin

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IndigoBell · 27/01/2012 17:41

Becarooo - how will you get the melatonin into him? And did you go for the 'getting to sleep' or 'staying asleep' one?

Starfish - hope you get SA. If he's not attending school surely he'll qualify.....

Ninja - what's your physio done?

Star - can't offer you a drink, but maybe a Brew and a Biscuit?

INeedA - good news about DD3 and school.

signandsmile · 27/01/2012 17:41

cross post, hope you have nice eve starfish and hi bec glad you have heat and water!

IndigoBell · 27/01/2012 17:45

Star - Tinsley House

Absolutely the most amazing place ever :)

DS1 has developed empathy! And is now very co-ordinated - been promoted to the A rugby team. He's learnt to spell. He's made friends with the cool kids......

DD has learnt to read - something I honestly never thought would happen last year. She can also now learn new words. And can now feel angry and sad :)

StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 17:45

No. I'm definately having a small Wine

Better news:
Had scan yesterday and emotionally blackmailed the sonography to tell me the sex against policy. It's a boy! (with a very slightly than average head circumference - which only you lot can 'get') but there you go.

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IndigoBell · 27/01/2012 17:46

Star - :( about the head circumference. Are you OK?

intothewest · 27/01/2012 17:48

Hi all
Much better week here,despite some cold symptoms going round(big sneeze from DS as I typed that !)

Went out last Friday night and actually had a really good time-and on Sunday I went to the cinema on my own and there was 1 ticket left for the film Smile
Begun to realise the melatonin isn't going to be the miracle it appeared,as DS wakes 2-3-4 o'clock every morning shouting and singing,stays awake for ages (as do we) and then he's knackered when it's time to get up.
Got to go to DD's school this evening to see some drama coursework,but will possibly check in later.

Sorry for those of you who haven't had a good week.

StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 17:50

I'm not great right now, but it is nothing to do with the HC, and it is only slightly bigger anyway, still well within normal range.

Nothing is going to make me happy at this point though as I'm being a misery guts. I WANTED it to be a boy and yet when I found out I was sad about the lost opportunity for a girl.

But don't worry about me. This is the small stuff. Need to figure out the bigger stuff and will do - eventually.

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moosemama · 27/01/2012 17:57

Starlight, sorry to hear you've had such a bad week. Hope next week is a better one with plenty of positive forward motion to make up for this week.

Ineed, school sounds like its still going really well. Sorry dd is out of sorts and dh is being - well, a man realy. Hopefully a quiet weekend will do you all some good.

Ninja, glad your week was ok. Has the physio been acting a bit suss or have they done something specific?

Indigo, fantastic that the SENCO is on board with supporting ds2 and to hear that ds1 is doing so well. Poor dd, she must be feeling very confused, but as you say, its a double edged sword, as its actually really good progress.

I think my week has been ok - well other than my weight plateau, which is driving me up the wall. Hmm

Ds1 got into trouble for playing the clown and cheeking teachers! Shock So unlike him at school, but on further investigation, he had decided it was a good way to make friends because the other children laugh when he does it. Cue several discussions about what consitutes a real friend , appropriate behaviour for the classrom, keeping silly behaviour for the playground and respecting adults/teachers etc and he's been ok since.

I am a touch suspicious that he's been eating something at school that he shouldn't though. He has the rash back on his cheeks and odd green stripe down the middle of his face that is usually a clear indicator that he's been glutened, but other than a packet of vimto sweets he shared with another boy in his class, he's not fessing up. Hmm

Got myself in a bit of a tizz about dd this week, worrying about her speech. She was a very early talker, had some words at 9 months and was putting words together by 10 months and simple sentences by 11. Her speech has always been really clear as well, in that almost everyone she spoke to could understand every word. In the past month or so though she seems to have started slurring her words a bit, lots of people have noticed and commented (friends and family) and I often have to ask her to repeat what she's said several times, as I can't work out what she's said. I think, its since she was complaining of ear-ache in early December, so it could be that her ears are a bit bunged up I suppose, but still, I can't help fretting. Going to get her booked in at the GPs next week for them to check her ears out. The only other thing is that she seems a bit dribbly, again unusual for her, so I'm wondering if it could be that she's cutting molars and the excess saliva is making it harder for her to talk. (She seems very sort of slobbery and 'spitty' when she speaks.) Anyone have any ideas about this?

Am well and truly knackered tonight having caught no fewer than four buses with dd (into town and out then back the other way) to get to and from my Mum's house, which unbelievably, is less than a 10 minute drive from my house, but pretty much impossible to walk. Hmm Got caught up in the biggest funeral I have ever seen (church is behind my bus stop) for a local teenager that died in a car accident last week, which was very sad - and missed my bus home, because I couldn't get to the stop. Got back after waiting half an hour for the next one with minutes to spare to collect the boys. I was starting to sweat just a bit thinking of ds1's reaction if I wasn't there to collect him.

BUT it was worth it, because Mum's lovely hairdresser has cut my hair for me and I love it. She put some more layers in around my face, trimmed the length back to bra-chest-strap length and then dried it to be really bouncy and curly in a controlled rather than wild way. Of course it will still look like a mop when I do it myself tomorrow, but for tonight I'm happy. Grin

Absolutely nothing planned this weekend - which is exactly what we all need.

TheNinjaGooseIsOnAMission · 27/01/2012 18:02

becaroo, what a productive week, hope sleep time isn't too rough!

indigo, sounds like a really good week Smile Physio wants dd3 out of piedros and into normal shoes with insoles/afos even though there has been no change, I'm not convinved it isn't a money thing so I'm trying to do a bit of research to find out.

sign, I can't believe how well your ds' speech has come on, he's doing so well Smile dd3 always has a blip when her 1:1 is away Wink

2old, glad I'm not the only one having hearing aid disasters this week although for once we don't have broken glasses, hope ds is ok.

star, good to hear they told you in the end, what does ds think? Will keep fingers crossed with the head circ.

moosemama · 27/01/2012 18:04

Starlight, congratulations on another boy. I felt exactly the same when I found out I was having ds2. I was so sure I didn't mind what I had, right up until she said the words and then suddenly felt a lurch of sadness that I wasn't having a girl. No doubts on the scan either, as it was 3D and he was most definitely a boy.

Never say never though, I was only having the two right up until ds2 was 3 and then we both changed our minds - hence the arrival of dd.

insanityscratching · 27/01/2012 18:09

Hello all

Star congratulations on the boy, try not to panic on head circumference ds's was average dd's was below 25 centile and still is.

Indigo sounds like a good week

Starfish good luck with SA.

Ineed school sounds good

Average week here. Dd's IEP meeting we are struggling to come up with targets as she is simply thriving so resorting to petty things that wouldn't be an issue if she didn't have a statement.

Ds has had a good week. Turned on the cooker at school and joined in cooking for the first time and been laughing a lot and indicated that he was happy so all good.

Not heard from solicitor so still in the dark about appeal, am assuming no news is good news as I'm sure if it had been struck out she'd have been in touch.

Becaroooo · 27/01/2012 18:09

star congratulations on another son. I love having 2 boys (but I am sure I would love whatever I had!) Its an adventure!!! xx

indigo The tabs are only three quarters of a cm so am going to try and teach him to swallow tablets Hmm If not, the paed says we can crush them even though the pharmacist said not.

Becaroooo · 27/01/2012 18:10

(oh and Tobys HC was always over average - he was born with a 38cm head -Ouch!!!)

StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 18:15

Oh it's my third already. DS (5 -ASD), DD (3 - opposite of ASD, or perhaps she is just 3) and now DS who my DD has named Rowy.

I think the boy thing is a mix of feelings really. Like the possibility of a boy without difficulties which makes me feel very guilty for hoping for and is probably why I'm not so concerned with the HC thing.

Also, a girl would have meant a smaller emotional gap between ds and the baby who could catch him up and give him a shove as dd had done.

I dunno. I'm probably being silly. It doesn't help that the hospitals (I'm in some kind of shared care area) have lost my notes but no-one is accepting responsibility and expecting me to find out what has happened Angry

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StarlightMcKenzie · 27/01/2012 18:17

And what does ds think?

Well he thinks that the sun looks orangy red when it is setting and that bright clouds are hotter than dark clouds.

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