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Cup and the Teaset face 2012- and this year, Beatrice means business!

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cupofteaplease · 06/01/2012 17:02

Hi. Chances are if you've opened this thread, you may have followed us from here I thought the new year needed a new thread (also the old one was nearly full!)

The basics: Beatrice has central arthrogryposis and extensive cortical dysplasia. She is 16 weeks old and weighs 8lb 1oz. She is on continuous oxygen at 0.2 litres. She is fed Infatrini with Duocal mixed in via NG tube. She is undergoing ponsetti treatment for her talipes, she also has splints for her hands and is now in a pavlik harness full time for her shallow hip sockets. She is coping very well with all of her treatments. Smile Her community children's nurse describes her as 'defying all the odds'.

The positives: If you have a 4 month old NT baby, the following will probably seem pretty poor progress, but for Beatrice who was stiff and non responsive at bith, she has made great gains. Smile Bea seems very alert in this last week and is becoming more vocal too! She happily shouts at me when something isn't going her way- a vast improvement as she couldn't even cry when born. She moves her arms in all directions now and manages to lift her legs, even with the cast and harness. When she is under her play gym with lights, she moves her arms and legs in appreciation. She also mouths when she is hungry. Her breathing pattern seems much more regular since being on oxygen. She not only recognises my voice and turns to find me, but she can also distinguish other people talking and will move her head in different directions to find who is talking. We assume her eyesight is very poor, although we know she can see shadows and bright lights when it is dark. She adores the cinema and has been twice now!

The downers: Her weight gain is painfully slow- on average 2oz per week. She has fallen off the growth charts completely. She is still sick a couple of times a day. She is having a barium meal and swallow study on Monday to see if there is anything going on. Her sats are irregular and heartrate is very high, so weaning her off oxygen (which she started when she had pneumonia before Christmas) hasn't started yet.

Support: Beatrice was finally awarded DLA at the highest rate today, and we have been told to apply for a blue badge as parking in tight spaces with her oxygen is somewhat problematic Hmm. Next week, our lovely physiotherapist who has been administering the weekly plaster casts is going to start coming to our house to do some massage and play and encourage her arm movements even more. The referral to Helen House Hospice is still being processed. After Bea's casts have come off permanently (just 2 more to go!!) I plan on taking her swimming at the hydrotherapy pool in the special school where my SIL works as a SLT.

At the end of January we have a review with our 'lovely' paediatric consultant, Dr Scrooge. We havent managed to shake her off yet!

Thanks for following us here- I'll add some more pictures in a minute. Smile

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Whatevertheweather · 26/01/2012 20:34

Oh cup what a few days you've had. Huge huge well done to you for staying calm at the gps and for speaking up for Bea for what you knew was right. I will keep you and Bea in my thoughts as always xx

AtYourCervix · 26/01/2012 22:37

I am in awe of your strength. You are bloody amazing.

NorksAreMessy · 27/01/2012 06:34

cup you are amazing! Fancy comforting the doctor in the middle of all of this. That speaks of one loving and kind and generous person.
I am in awe. Bea could not have been born to a better Mother.

Sending all love and hope to you all

emmazed · 27/01/2012 08:59

All the best for bea, your strength and hers are a real inspiration

X

Doobydoo · 27/01/2012 15:40

What a rollercoaster.Well done to you both!
Please give the Hospice a ring.I am sure it is something they would do.

slowburner · 27/01/2012 19:38

That was frightening to read, I feel for you all, i am sure that the GP did the very best she could, but I do hope she will chase why an infant failing to breathe was not treated as an urgent call.

I would have thought that the hospice will be able to step in, something I have found recently is that to get help you have to push and push and push. So unfair when you already have so much to deal with, but go tiger mum! You know what is best for Bea, imagine all of us cheering you on :)

P.s. I had to take my DD to the GP urgently this week as she was pale, in pain and wobbly, when I rang I asked wether we could wait in a side room as DD always seems to pick up new bugs when we visit the GP. I nearly dropped the phone when the receptionist said that yes they did have a side room, and we could wait there, no problem. Thought of you and sent my thanks for making it clear our children really do need extra tlc.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 27/01/2012 21:39

How is Bea today Cup?

cupofteaplease · 27/01/2012 21:51

Bit of an update.

We transfered out of HDU last night into a cubicle. She couldn't keep down her hourly feeds, so we spread them over 2 hourly intervals. But still she was sick, so they resorted to feeding 13ml every hour. Still, she was sick. This morning, we put her on a continuous pump feed. She was still sick. Sad

So, we've tried her on dioralyte on the continuous pump for 12 hours and she has tolerated that well. So, at 10pm we are trying milk in the pump again. But we are trying a different formula, one that is partially digested already. Fingers crossed, she tolerates this better than the heavy infatrini.

They have also swapped her zantac for lanomprazole(?) which is meant to be more effective.

If she tolerates the new feed on a pump, we will increase the volume by 1ml per hour and cut out an hour's feed, until after 8 days, she will come off the pump for 8hours at night and she can be fed safely at home. So, there's talk of transferring to the hospice at some point after the weekend.

In other news, her cast came off today for the last time!!! She now has a little splint to wear. The orthotics team said the factory claimed it was the smallest splint they'd ever made! Her foot is beautifully straight.

One of the play workers to Bea and I to the hospital's sensory room today, and Bea was hooked. The lead nurse came and spoke to me and advised me on how to get Bea on the portage list.

The dds came to visit earlier. As soon as I saw dd2 I could tell she was poorly. I took her to the walk in centre st the hospital and they confirmed an ear and eye infection, poor darling. When it was time to go home with my mum, both girls were crying- they are so good, but still so young to be away from their mum so often.

One of the mums I met in SCBU dropped off a lovely box of edible goodies here for me earlier- was lovely to have soup and fresh bread for lunch! I saw her little boy who was born with DS. He is doing SO well, he's come off his o2 and feeding tube, is growing and smiling. I'm so happy for them, but it hammered home how disabled Beatrice is. The nurse commented on her equipment increase (o2, feeding pump) being indicative of her neurological condition deteriorating. I can't bear to admit that to myself. Not my darling girl, not yet.

Please keep praying for her. She seems so calm and relaxed, nothing bothers her. She loves being cuddled and gets excited at bright lights and deep sounds. I don't want her to go. I want her in my life for forever.

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OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 27/01/2012 21:59

I am glad Little B is going to get portage. Shame I dont live nearer Smile

I wish you home soon and safe.

x

BadNails · 27/01/2012 21:59

Oh cupoftea, I wish I could take all this hardship from you and your beautiful daughter. How strong you both are. And your other dds too from what you have written.

Fingers crossed for you that Bea's feeds are sorted and you have a place at the hospice.

You all remain in my prayers.

KateUnrulyBush · 27/01/2012 22:03

Candles are lit here, Cup, I'll keep you in my prayers. Just keep having those cuddles and take things one step at a time x

RatherBeOnThePiste · 27/01/2012 22:08

Hey my lovely, I am thinking of you, and continuing to send love, energy, strength and positive vibes to you all x

MamaMaiasaura · 27/01/2012 22:11

Cupoftea - we are thinking of you and little Bea. Xxxxx

FriggFRIGG · 27/01/2012 22:12

Lighting candles.sending positive thoughts.

Hold on Beautiful Bea.x

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 27/01/2012 22:12

Praying for you both. {{hugs}}

lisad123 · 27/01/2012 22:13

Oh cup, so sorry about latest update. Hopefully she will remain the little fighter she is for a long while yet xx

drivinmecrazy · 27/01/2012 22:24

You carry with you so much love, support and admiration from all following your journey on MN. My heart breaks for you in one breath, but in another I cry tears of joy because of your small victories. You have an amazing daughter in Bea, it's so incredible how many lives she has already touched. You must feel very very proud X

eaglewings · 27/01/2012 22:29

Thank you or taking the time to update, more prayers here

CestTout · 27/01/2012 22:38

Thinking of you and hoping the feed at 10 was successful. If there's anything practical I can do I'm around this weekend and all day Tuesday x

annalovesmrbates · 27/01/2012 23:10

Thank you for the update. I think about you both a lot and prayers are with you.

annalovesmrbates · 27/01/2012 23:10

Thank you for the update. I think about you both a lot and prayers are with you.

neverputasockinatoaster · 27/01/2012 23:20

Oh Cup! I lurk but never post on your thread. I am moved to post today and send positive thoughts your way.

I often pray for you and your girls. Hold on Little Bea, hold on.

Cup you are an inspiration, such atrength. Stay strong.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 27/01/2012 23:20

How lovely that the nurse took you and Bea to the sensory room - I hope she gets to go again soon.

Re the equipement - had you thought that yourself before the nurse mentioned it - or did it come as a shock to you?

Poor little darling... well, all of our Cup girls. I wish I could make it better for all of you.

Is there anything you can think of that we can do?

Lots of love.

Lilithmoon · 27/01/2012 23:43

Lots of postive thoughts for you all from us xxx

Thumbwitch · 28/01/2012 00:56

(((hugs))) for you all, candle will be lit for you, lots of love an prayers.

Keep going, lovely - it's all you can do. Back to the original mantra - one foot in front of the other every day and just breathe - you will get through this.
Hope your other DD gets well very fast as well. xx

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