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Cup and the Teaset face 2012- and this year, Beatrice means business!

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cupofteaplease · 06/01/2012 17:02

Hi. Chances are if you've opened this thread, you may have followed us from here I thought the new year needed a new thread (also the old one was nearly full!)

The basics: Beatrice has central arthrogryposis and extensive cortical dysplasia. She is 16 weeks old and weighs 8lb 1oz. She is on continuous oxygen at 0.2 litres. She is fed Infatrini with Duocal mixed in via NG tube. She is undergoing ponsetti treatment for her talipes, she also has splints for her hands and is now in a pavlik harness full time for her shallow hip sockets. She is coping very well with all of her treatments. Smile Her community children's nurse describes her as 'defying all the odds'.

The positives: If you have a 4 month old NT baby, the following will probably seem pretty poor progress, but for Beatrice who was stiff and non responsive at bith, she has made great gains. Smile Bea seems very alert in this last week and is becoming more vocal too! She happily shouts at me when something isn't going her way- a vast improvement as she couldn't even cry when born. She moves her arms in all directions now and manages to lift her legs, even with the cast and harness. When she is under her play gym with lights, she moves her arms and legs in appreciation. She also mouths when she is hungry. Her breathing pattern seems much more regular since being on oxygen. She not only recognises my voice and turns to find me, but she can also distinguish other people talking and will move her head in different directions to find who is talking. We assume her eyesight is very poor, although we know she can see shadows and bright lights when it is dark. She adores the cinema and has been twice now!

The downers: Her weight gain is painfully slow- on average 2oz per week. She has fallen off the growth charts completely. She is still sick a couple of times a day. She is having a barium meal and swallow study on Monday to see if there is anything going on. Her sats are irregular and heartrate is very high, so weaning her off oxygen (which she started when she had pneumonia before Christmas) hasn't started yet.

Support: Beatrice was finally awarded DLA at the highest rate today, and we have been told to apply for a blue badge as parking in tight spaces with her oxygen is somewhat problematic Hmm. Next week, our lovely physiotherapist who has been administering the weekly plaster casts is going to start coming to our house to do some massage and play and encourage her arm movements even more. The referral to Helen House Hospice is still being processed. After Bea's casts have come off permanently (just 2 more to go!!) I plan on taking her swimming at the hydrotherapy pool in the special school where my SIL works as a SLT.

At the end of January we have a review with our 'lovely' paediatric consultant, Dr Scrooge. We havent managed to shake her off yet!

Thanks for following us here- I'll add some more pictures in a minute. Smile

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Northernlurker · 26/01/2012 08:02

I feel for the GP tbh. She got support in, called for an ambulance - and then it didn't turn up? That's dreadful. Yes, she should stay calm but she's a GP not a hospital paediatrician. How many times has a child stopped breathing in front of her? Not many I would think. THat's a really tough situation to handle and I think she did ok.

Anyway all that aside - Cup - we are thinking of you and praying for Bea. She's tough, you're tough. You are a great team Smile

Engelsmeisje · 26/01/2012 08:34

Sitting here bawling my eyes out. I am in awe if your strength cup. Sending beatrice love and prayers from across the sea. x

cupofteaplease · 26/01/2012 08:53

Oh no, the GP was amazing, I have NO complaints about her at all. I think she was panicking a little in frustration, we just couldn't believe the ambulance didn't turn up. She kept saying how helpless she felt, and Lord knows, I've felt that way too plenty of times recently, it's soul destroying.

Anyway, Beatrice had a good night. She's on 0.2 oxygen and keeping her sats at 100%. She's not keeping her milk down still. I barely slept, the chair in HDU is not comfy as a bed and the lad in the next bed has a horrible barking cough, poor soul. His mum slept the whole night though!

Off for a cup of tea. Thanks for the lovely wishes for Beatrice.

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4madboys · 26/01/2012 08:55

have finally found your new thread! i lost you for a while :( so glad to here on the whole Bea is doing well, sorry she has given you a fright and i hope they get the breathing/aspirtion issues under control and you are home soon.

sending love and strength and thinking of you all xx

bigbluebus · 26/01/2012 08:56

So glad Bea has stabilised - what a fighter.
My DD has panicked our GP's on more than one occasion - most of their job is dealing with routine minor illnesses or referring on to hospital. I don't expect they deal with major emergencies very often. Your GP & staff where fantastic - and I'm sure they will investigate why the ambulance didn't arrive.

Was thinking about you and Bea in the wee small hours when DD spiked a temperature & was breathing very fast - she has been well for so long and has been seen by 2 paediatricians and the GP all in the last week (routine check ups) and all have said how well she looks and how clear her chest is - now I suspect she has a chest infection! It is amazing how quickly they can go down hill.
You are doing a fantastic job - I hope you all get home again soon.

fuzzypeach1750 · 26/01/2012 09:07

Really hoping that Bea continues with her excellent progress. Much love and prayers from all here x

annalovesmrbates · 26/01/2012 09:17

So happy to hear that Bea had a good night and hope she continues to improve. She's lucky to have such a wonderful mother and family. Take care.

moosemama · 26/01/2012 09:18

What a terrifying experience. You are an incredibly Mum and Bea is such a strong little fighter. You are so right to be really proud of both yourself and your beautiful girl.

Am so glad to hear she is back to her normal levels of O2 and her sats are stable.

Sending much love and light to you all. x

cupofteaplease · 26/01/2012 09:18

Yes bigbluebus the speed at which they can go downhill is terrifying. I assume the doctors listen to you now when you tell them your dd has an infection?

The registrar refused to give Bea antibiotics yesterday as he said it was just a viral infection. When the consultant (not our usual one) came in, I asked again for antibiotics, strongly advising they looked ay her admission notes from December when her virus turned out to be aspiration pneumonia. Hey presto, antibiotics were prescribed. I won't have anyone tell me now that they know Bea better than I do. It took a while, but I've finally got faith in myself.

Have any of you used your childrens hospice for phased discharge? Can you give me examples of how it has worked in practice for your child? I will be very reluctant if they try to send Bea home today after what happened yesterday, I want the safety of a medical environment for a little while until I am happy she is stable. I wonder if the hospice could be appropriate for this?

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DutchOma · 26/01/2012 09:31

Why not ask them? They should have the best information.

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CaroleService · 26/01/2012 10:19

I'm in such awe of you. I wish we could all send strength and love in little parcels though.

Give Bea a squidge from us.

Do you have one of those special sleeping mats that sound an alarm if baby stops breathing? Could we buy one for you? Don't be shy if so.

Sidge · 26/01/2012 10:55

Oh my goodness what a rollercoaster. I'm so glad Bea is a tough little cookie and is pulling through.

Big hugs to you all cup and a gentle kiss for Bea.

bigbluebus · 26/01/2012 11:01

Hi cup
I know what you mean about the antibiotics. Drs are told not to over prescribe, so some won't - whilst that is fine for the general population it is always best to err on the side of caution with children like ours. My GP actual gives DD antibiotics on a repeat prescription which we collect in powder form so they have a long shelf life - so last night when she had a high temperature, I was able to mix and administer them at 2.3Oam and so 'fingers crossed', I have have caught any infection quickly. This has probably helped to avoid a seizure too(high temp normally triggers her epilepsy).
I haven't really used phased discharge at the hospice as I have never asked - but I know it is something they do. Last year though DD had 2 fractured femurs (long story) and developed a chest infection at the same time. She had a week in hospital and was due to go into the hospice for planned respite the weekend she was discharged, so we sort of went from hospital to hospice (although I took her myself and went via home to collect clean clothes etc). They decided to keep her there longer than planned to give me a rest - although unfortunately she ended up back in hospital with a Pseudomonas chest infection (possibly picked up in hospital the week before???). Their outreach service did help out whilst she was in hospital though.
Give your hospice a call and discuss it. They are best placed to advise.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 26/01/2012 11:11

Cupoftea, I was on your original thread, and then it got lost, and thanks to Bobs update recently, I've now found you again. You are all amazing, Bea sounds absolutely gorgeous, (I'm off to peek at your pictures in a mo) and your strength is inspirational. There is absolutely nothing I can add to your threads help or advice wise, but I would like to keep you company if that's ok?

MissPenteuth · 26/01/2012 11:42

That sounds terrifying. I've just been looking at your photos; Bea is so cute, and your other girls are beautiful too.

Sending much love and strength xx

MissPenteuth · 26/01/2012 11:43

Whoops, I'm a page or so behind, only read your update from yesterday Blush

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 26/01/2012 12:23

cup I know what you mean about having faith in yourself.
After DD's dx it took me a few weeks to be able to assert myself. I hated doing it but you have to.

I became the expert in her. I didnt think I was a doctor and knew more about medicine. But I damn sure knew more about how her illness/treatment etc affect her.

It can be exhausting getting yourself listened to though. Take care x

BadNails · 26/01/2012 13:06

Hi cupoftea, I'm so pleased to read that Bea is stabilising. I'm very envious of the 100% sats Wink

I too have had arguments with doctors about treatment. I feel terrible for having to do it, but I remind myself that they're probably used to it. No one knows your child better than you do.

I'll continue to keep the Tea set in my thoughts and prayers.

5inthebed · 26/01/2012 13:46

Gosh, have tears welling up just reading about yesterday.

Bea is such an amazing little girl, such a fighter.

Four4me · 26/01/2012 14:40

Omg what a couple of days you had. I didn't see yesterdays news as I haven't been on. So glad she is stable and you are ok. I hope your other gorgeous girls are ok? They are probably getting completely spoilt rotten by everyone and so they should be.

Thinking of you all, as usual. Hope the hospise discharge works out for you. X

JugglingWithSnowballs · 26/01/2012 14:43

It's our job as mothers and parents to fight our children's corner though, isn't it ?

We shouldn't ever feel bad about that.

( Doing a course in assertiveness ATM to try and get stronger at fighting my/our corner in my own life. Not always easy is it ? )

Am loving the "tea set" Grin Keeping the whole tea set in my thoughts and prayers too, as someone said in a way I really like - sending love and light to you all x

youarekidding · 26/01/2012 17:54

I'm glad Bea has stablized a bit.

I think the hospice between hospital and home sounds like a positive idea. I'm sure you'll need to recharge your batteries (and DH) and you can get some rest safe in the knowledge theirs medics around.

You Bea really is an amazing little girl. Smile

stressheaderic · 26/01/2012 18:24

So pleased to read your update - have held her in my thoughts all day today at work. You're both so strong, I'm in awe.

Carrotcakeisace · 26/01/2012 20:19

Queen Cup to the rescue, you are so right to be proud of yourself, keep that inner tiger roaring x

Hope Bea is continuing to improve, I think the hospice sounds like a brilliant idea as a half way house and well done to your GP

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