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Cup and the Teaset face 2012- and this year, Beatrice means business!

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cupofteaplease · 06/01/2012 17:02

Hi. Chances are if you've opened this thread, you may have followed us from here I thought the new year needed a new thread (also the old one was nearly full!)

The basics: Beatrice has central arthrogryposis and extensive cortical dysplasia. She is 16 weeks old and weighs 8lb 1oz. She is on continuous oxygen at 0.2 litres. She is fed Infatrini with Duocal mixed in via NG tube. She is undergoing ponsetti treatment for her talipes, she also has splints for her hands and is now in a pavlik harness full time for her shallow hip sockets. She is coping very well with all of her treatments. Smile Her community children's nurse describes her as 'defying all the odds'.

The positives: If you have a 4 month old NT baby, the following will probably seem pretty poor progress, but for Beatrice who was stiff and non responsive at bith, she has made great gains. Smile Bea seems very alert in this last week and is becoming more vocal too! She happily shouts at me when something isn't going her way- a vast improvement as she couldn't even cry when born. She moves her arms in all directions now and manages to lift her legs, even with the cast and harness. When she is under her play gym with lights, she moves her arms and legs in appreciation. She also mouths when she is hungry. Her breathing pattern seems much more regular since being on oxygen. She not only recognises my voice and turns to find me, but she can also distinguish other people talking and will move her head in different directions to find who is talking. We assume her eyesight is very poor, although we know she can see shadows and bright lights when it is dark. She adores the cinema and has been twice now!

The downers: Her weight gain is painfully slow- on average 2oz per week. She has fallen off the growth charts completely. She is still sick a couple of times a day. She is having a barium meal and swallow study on Monday to see if there is anything going on. Her sats are irregular and heartrate is very high, so weaning her off oxygen (which she started when she had pneumonia before Christmas) hasn't started yet.

Support: Beatrice was finally awarded DLA at the highest rate today, and we have been told to apply for a blue badge as parking in tight spaces with her oxygen is somewhat problematic Hmm. Next week, our lovely physiotherapist who has been administering the weekly plaster casts is going to start coming to our house to do some massage and play and encourage her arm movements even more. The referral to Helen House Hospice is still being processed. After Bea's casts have come off permanently (just 2 more to go!!) I plan on taking her swimming at the hydrotherapy pool in the special school where my SIL works as a SLT.

At the end of January we have a review with our 'lovely' paediatric consultant, Dr Scrooge. We havent managed to shake her off yet!

Thanks for following us here- I'll add some more pictures in a minute. Smile

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bigbluebus · 28/01/2012 11:29

cup I guess the reason that we find the pump easier is that by the time DD had hers, she was spending most of her day in her wheelchair (too big to pick up and cuddle unfortunately) so we just set it up in the morning and it hangs on her chair in a little rucksack and runs all day (10-5) when it goes off. For us, going out and having to feed her orally was a nightmare as she could only tolerate small amounts at a time so we were constantly having to find somewhere to sit down and feed her or give her a drink! Not much of a day out!! Have never done bolus feeds - we went straight from oral to NG with a pump and then gastro after 5 mths.
You can get tangled in it but you get used to watching out for it (although I have forgotten a few times when hoisting DD from her chair - but fortunately haven't pulled gastro out just sprayed feed all up the bedroom walls )

bigbluebus · 28/01/2012 11:39

Have just looked at the photos of Bea in the sensory room - she is definitely watching that bubble tube and loves it!
The equipment side of things is a pain - DD has a suction machine which we lug around and we also carry O2 in the car (in case of seizures) but if we are going somewhere where we won't be able to get back to the car quickly eg canal boat trips, we have to take it all with us. Fortunately wheelchair services slipped up and accidentally put a tray on the bottom of her wheelchair (which we didn't know was an option) so we now have somehwere to put all the coats and packed lunches on days out heavy equipment

MadgeEstic · 28/01/2012 11:46

Still praying for precious, little Bea. I'm sure if it was possible, you would have a whole queue of MNers keen to have a little cuddle with her! So lovely to see the pics of her enjoying the lights.

I know that looking after Bea has been challenging and emotional for your whole family, and it's difficult for your other ds when you are away from them, but I'm absolutely certain that Bea has brought something wonderful into their experience and your girls are learning a depth of care and compassion that will grow them as human beings.

So wonderful to hear how relaxed Bea is, in no small part I'm sure because of the love she feels from you and others.

KateUnrulyBush · 28/01/2012 12:10

Great to hear you sounding positive again today Cup. That sensory room sounds lovely, think I could do with one of those!

Carrotcakeisace · 28/01/2012 15:41

Beautiful new pics, you can see she is really loving the lights/bubbles. I hope you have made or are about to make the move to the hospice so you don't have to deal with any more pessimistic nursing staff. Bea continues to astound with her progress and this is in no small part down to your amazing love and care. Of course you are allowed moments of self doubt but always remember you are an inspiration to so many, myself and the whole of MN for a start.

How is dd2? Is this her first ear infection since the grommets? If its any consolation dd2 used to suffer monthly ear infections but only had one after her grommets were inserted last year

youarekidding · 28/01/2012 19:55

Damn you cup and the ever gorgeous Bea for making me sob my heart out cry a little over you latest post and photos.

You are so positive and it's lovely to read your updates. Never feel bad for wobbles though - everyone has them daily - when their dealing with very little compared to you. It's a normal part of lifes thought processes.

RE: sensory room. Does your local Surestart centre have one? Ours does and it's available for use for anyone.

BB3 · 28/01/2012 20:18

Oh cup, I haven't looked at your pics for a while so was really lovely to see all the pictures old and new. Bea (and dd1 and dd2) is beautiful and looks so alert and happy in the pictures, you can see how she is growing and progressing. The sensory pics are brilliant and her sat in her bumbo x just lovely!

I second what everyone has said, you know bea better than any one (especially insensitive medical staff!) xxx

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 28/01/2012 20:24

Such a beautiful little girl. Smile

Sidge · 28/01/2012 20:36

Love the pics cupoftea!

We made a little sensory spot at home for DD2 when she was teeny. We got a bubble lamp (with fish!), a lava lamp, a disco ball, a rotating glitter ball and some flashing fairy lights. We had a massage mat, some sparkly Christmas decs hanging over it and some fans and brushes. It looked like Austin Powers's love nest but DD2 loved it and really enjoyed the stimulation of the senses.

So glad Bea is stable and hope you are home soon xxx

lisad123 · 28/01/2012 21:49

we have a sensory room in our house, the girls love it.
Im glad Bea is stable and your seeing the little things she does :)

JugglingWithSnowballs · 28/01/2012 22:07

Grin Austin Power's love nest !

saffronwblue · 28/01/2012 23:12

Bea is so sweet, looking so intently and happily at the lights!

ExitPursuedByaBear · 29/01/2012 11:01

It's those small acts of kindness that make all the difference (thinking the edible goodies) and make up for the thoughtless remarks of the medical staff. Great idea about the sign!

Love the photos of Bea in the sensory room and lovely to hear you sounding strong again Cup. Hope DD2 is feeling better.

Much love xxx

pinkpainter · 29/01/2012 11:17

I just want to say that I have been thinking about you and following Bea's progress, I was part of the group expecting babies in October, and I'm amazed at her progress. Well done to you for everything you have done and are doing for your little girl - you sound like an amazing mum and you have a beautiful family. xxx

beatofthedrum · 29/01/2012 19:33

Amazing post cup [weep weep], you are absolutely right, you can see the tiny changes that the medical teams will never have the time, the attention and the love that you have for Bea to spot. You keep the faith, your girl is fighting so hard. Your whole little family team sound amazing xxx

Scheherezade · 29/01/2012 20:39

Bea is absolutely beautiful. You're doing a fab job, well done you :) so glad she has improved. Thoughts and prayers with you xx

slowburner · 29/01/2012 21:38

Hope you are all home soon, thanks for the updates, and bloody nurses and their bloody negativity.

I remember when DD was in a coma at 48 hours old and at 5am one morning the nurse started telling me (DH had gone home for the night) about respite and provision for care at home etc etc and I juts fell apart, completely fell apart. DD isn't without issues, but she has a quality of life that the doctors and nurses didn't even want to tell us was possible.

I like the idea if some babygro's and vests which have some Bea philosophy on them!

cupofteaplease · 30/01/2012 09:30

Well the feeding pump is working- Bea has gained 5oz since Saturday night!! She's now 8lb 5oz- what a chunk! Wink Grin

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JugglingWithSnowballs · 30/01/2012 09:36

Wow she's piling it on faster than me on my "ditzy diet" (Tuesday weigh-in thread !) Yes, my weight is meant to be going downwards on that !

Carrotcakeisace · 30/01/2012 10:08

Go Bea :)

Thumbwitch · 30/01/2012 10:17

Fabulous! Well done Bea - keep up the good work! :)

OhDoAdmitMrsDeVere · 30/01/2012 10:20

What a fatty! Go Bea!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 30/01/2012 10:44

GO BEA, GO BEA! >

Sidge · 30/01/2012 10:49

You're not supposed to pump burgers into her Grin

Great news Smile

CestTout · 30/01/2012 11:34

Wow! Great news :-)

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