Drama homework has completely broken DD2

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she has just bagged up everything she has to do with school, uniform, bag, books, everything and put it in the bin.

she flatly refused to go on wednesday. went today but came home in a mood and now has just flipped out over the homework.

Arse. I suspect this may be worse than usual.

I am veering from thinking what the actual feck were they expecting, thinking she could ever write 4 separate parts for a script or a storyline from someone's point of view? to absolute panic that this may actually be it and she is never going again.

shit. she is never going again.

:(

Enrol her in an online school?

can you suggest any?

you never know and she might just get up and go without a whisper tomorrow - but i doubt it. this feels worse than usual.

What a nightmare at your. How old is your Dd? My Dd1 refused to go to school when she was 10. We had to find her another school, this was 13 years ago. Obviously it would be better if she could go back but you might need some help.

Stupid stupid homework, teachers have no idea of the heartache it causes do they.

bugger
try not to panic too much...can you bribe her with anything for tomorrow?

Hi

So sorry you and your dd are going through this.

I know the Open University will accept students younger than 18 for some courses....I know several HE families that have gone down that route with great success.

she's 13,aspergers, hates school.

i emailed school yesterday when she wouldn't go. haven't heard anything back. will try again tomorrow.

as well as the bloody homework issue she said earlier that when she wasn't there on wednesday someone spread it around that she had been excluded. she laughed it off but i suspect it might have turned a bit nasty.

do you think the school is the right place for her - can you see her staying there till she's 16?

the exclusion rumour is bullying poor dd

Def look into the OU

Your poor dd

(and poor you)

no corny it isn't and hasn't ever been right. I just don't know what to do. Alternatives, HE (shudder), others?

I will be having words with school tomorrow. In person.

why not start looking around independent ASD special schools? you may find one that's a really good fit for dd. ds attends one - I never thought we'd get him back into school. Does she have a statement?

HE can be great ayc honestly.

Esp when they are older and can to some extent self regulate.

If there is anything she is really interested in, you might be able to find an OU specialist course that would really engage her?

Post on the HE board...there may well be He families near you/groups to join?

...can't believe school/SENCO/someone hasn't phoned you back about her refusing to attend. The SENCO from my ds's mainstream school always contacted us when he wouldn't attend and even came round to the house to help get him in. Don't let them make it just your problem.

school is fucking useless. really. i am a bit cross with them.

will look at specialist schools. 2 problems though -

1 - neither I nor DD think that she is particularly 'bad' (although maybe she is?)

1. money

will do a google.

Contact your LEA education welfare officer. If you do it then school can't pretend all sweetness and roses and give you any grief at a later point if this does = full blown school refusal. They can also talk to the school re the bullying/exclusion rumour and the homework in a way that may be taken more seriously than a "mere Mum" complaining.

Reason I'm suggesting this is that I'm not impressed you haven't heard from her form tutor or head of year yet. School doesn't sound too hot on the old pastoral care.

There are several options -

1. lea sort out current school so that DD is better supported so this kind of thing doesn't happen again

1. Lea find a different school - this may be in the private sector (eg riverston in London or one of the priory day schools etc depending on your location).

1. Lea pay for home tuition

1. Lea fund online home ed (Brightsparks and Oxford learning do GCSE's online).

YOU being totally responsible for home ed is the last in a long line of permanent solutions, ring the lea and put the ball back in their court, at least as an initial response. Follow up with a stern email to the Head Teacher and Governors that you have done this and expect a resolution asap.

no statement.

and absolutely no interests/hobbies either.

agree with bochead - put the ball in their court. The school clearly aren't able (or willing) to meet her needs.

ah. a reply from Senco. she teaches DD drama so said she'd see her tomorrow and will also see her to review her IEP on weds.

DD doesn't go to school on wednesday

what do I reply?

will put LEA on list of people to ring tomorrow.

you want SENCO to arrange a multi-agency meeting to discuss dd's school refusal and what actions can be taken to support her with this.

I have asked her to ring me tomorrow morning.

do you think she needs statementing for people to listen to me?

good luck
If I were you I'd apply for a statement and start looking at independent ASD schools (with the view that the LEA would fund.) I know you think she's not that 'bad' but you might change your mind when you start looking at schools and talking to the staff about what they do - I did!