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A little boy made my day today :)

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coff33pot · 06/12/2011 11:28

Took ds to school and we were late as usual to avoid the hussle of the christmas plays and parents filing in.

As DS was hanging his coat up another little boy spied DS and sneaked out of his class and said "hi DS" to which DS nodded. Then he said to me "I like DS he is my friend. And even if he doesnt go out to play anymore and I dont see him so much I still like him"

DS asked him how old he was and he answered 6 like you and so DS nodded and walked into the classroom but I could tell he was happy as he skipped his little skip thing he does.

Yes I cried going home lol as amongst the "ds cant cope outside" "the children are not happy with ds today" this little boy proved that it is not always the case :)

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zzzzz · 06/12/2011 11:35

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IndigoBell · 06/12/2011 11:40

That's lovely.

Mostly Sometimes teacher's don't understand playground dynamics :)

Triggles · 06/12/2011 11:46

That's so nice! I know a lot of kids can be mean, but a lot of them can be sweet and caring. It's so nice to see!

blueShark · 06/12/2011 11:51

Lovely start of the day

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coff33pot · 06/12/2011 11:59

He was such a lovely boy. Said he was a dinosaur today. I told him he best go in and do his reading as all good dinosaurs need to be able to read maps to hunt food. Good job he bought it before his teacher came looking

It was brief but I can see why he would relate to DS iyswim there was something calming but mischief at the same time which I class as proper boy stuff

Schools are so so good in pointing out the bad bits. I think I am going to speak to DS when I pick him up at lunch time and ask if he would like Harry to come to tea one day. Then maybe do a christmas card for Harry and put a note in it perhaps with an invite for tea with my phone number. Perhaps a little hand from mum might help him form a friend for good there :)

Also if he gets on with him then maybe that this boy might like to play inside with DS as part of his social skills instead of just sitting with the TA/Senco. Brains ticking now.

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coff33pot · 06/12/2011 12:00

Is it ok to use other peoples children for your own benefit

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IndigoBell · 06/12/2011 12:02

Absolutely :)

You know the odds are that Harry is also on the spectrum, and all the social stuff your DS would benefit from, would also benefit Harry.......

crazygal · 06/12/2011 12:24

thats a lovely thing to read,
i think the little tea party is a lovely idea,xxxxxx

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coff33pot · 06/12/2011 16:15

Well I picked DS up and commented on Harry coming out of class this morning and DS said yes he is is friend. He also said he sees him in Beavers THIS I did not know!

Mentioned about him coming to play and have tea and DS said really? ok.

Dont know if his mum could come as the boy was saying he was the biggest and mentioned another boys name and someone else so I think she has her hands full but will put the offer of a cuppa in the invite too :)

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signandsingcarols · 06/12/2011 16:21

for harry!

cjn27b · 06/12/2011 16:39

Hooray for Harry.

blueemerald · 06/12/2011 16:47

I'm sitting in waterloo train station approaching rush hour fighting back the tears. It took my brother (he has Asperger's) 16 years to find his Harry. Please chase it up! Hooray for Harry and little coff33cup!

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GloriaTheHighlyFlavouredLady · 06/12/2011 17:11

Lol. It is always hard to ask another child over for then 'benefit' of yours. But the world is a complex place with mixed dynamics and everyone has something to offer, including your ds. There is a very NT boy that really likes ds. This boy suffers from extreme anxiety and loves ds because he makes no demands. It would be daft for his mum and me to go out and find 'more appropriate' peers iyswim.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 06/12/2011 17:17

I like the sound of this Harry. Hope it all goes well. My DS found a friend when he was 6, the only other boy in the class who didn't like football. There's always someone who 'gets' them, even if not all the time.

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coff33pot · 06/12/2011 19:23

zzzzz I love the ditty!

Just had another lump in my throat! We were writing christmas cards and I said shall we write one for Harry then? DS said yes and guess what mum it would be lovely if Harry came for tea and he had a real grin on his face!

Then he panicked as he said "it wont work mum he wont find me"

So I have just wrote another card to Harrys Mummy with the note saying DS would very much like Harry to come and play and have tea and to ring if Harry would like to to arrange a time. I am going to give it to his class teacher tomorrow threatening allsorts if she doesnt place it in her hand.

Now I got the jitters. I hope she rings and says yes or I am going to have a DS not happy.

I will invite her when she rings I think. I couldnt care less if she had 6 kids they are all welcome as long as they bring harry

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PurplePidjInAPearTree · 06/12/2011 19:37

This thread has made me smile! Hooray for Harry, and I hope DNephew can be a Harry in a couple of years time!

verybusyspider · 06/12/2011 21:33

this thread made me I can only add how it made my heart sing this year when ds got invited to play and for tea - they invited him first I was too scared to ask anyone and ds never asked but it has boosted his confidence and now names keep popping up, he is taking notice of those around him
I hope Harry's mum rings soon

Chundle · 07/12/2011 15:28

Awww this is a lovely thread. Will be checking back for a harry update!

blueemerald · 07/12/2011 16:30

Yay! Please let us know when Harry's mum rings!!

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coff33pot · 07/12/2011 18:45

Well I handed the card to DS teacher to pass on to Harrys teacher..........to GIVE to his mum hopefully. I did mention the importance of this to DS teacher so I hope she gets it.

Waited all day though but no phone call just yet............However DH has just dropped DS to beavers so I am hoping Harrys there and he tells him about the tea party

So guys we are all on standby for the big day.............................:)

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auntyfash · 07/12/2011 19:29

Aww what a lovely little lad Harry sounds :o

pigletmania · 07/12/2011 20:03

That is fantastic coffee how heartwarming . It does worry us as parents as well my dd 4.5 has social communication difficuties, and AS traits that they will automatically have no friends and nobody will like them. At parents evening in my dd MS primary, the teacher and headteacher told me that dd was quite popular, and that children really like her. When were are out and there is someone from her class, they mostly say hello, which is lovely.

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coff33pot · 08/12/2011 19:28

Day two and no phone call. I dont think Harry will be coming to tea :(

I will check tomorrow that the teacher handed the card out but I am assuming she did it yesterday as it is not in ds book bag.........

Main thing is DS does have a friend in school at least.

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