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A little boy made my day today :)

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coff33pot · 06/12/2011 11:28

Took ds to school and we were late as usual to avoid the hussle of the christmas plays and parents filing in.

As DS was hanging his coat up another little boy spied DS and sneaked out of his class and said "hi DS" to which DS nodded. Then he said to me "I like DS he is my friend. And even if he doesnt go out to play anymore and I dont see him so much I still like him"

DS asked him how old he was and he answered 6 like you and so DS nodded and walked into the classroom but I could tell he was happy as he skipped his little skip thing he does.

Yes I cried going home lol as amongst the "ds cant cope outside" "the children are not happy with ds today" this little boy proved that it is not always the case :)

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GloriaTheHighlyFlavouredLady · 08/12/2011 19:35

It's hard not to take it personally because it is SO important, but I am rubbish at invitations and often forget or confirm at the last minute having had the invite for weeks. It isn't my best trait but there is nothing in it except for my own disorganisation and possible bad manners.

Triggles · 08/12/2011 19:36

She may be waiting for the weekend, if she works. perhaps she works a bit late and doesn't want to call too late. It sometimes takes me a few days to sit down and sort through stuff, so perhaps like me she procrastinates a bit.

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coff33pot · 08/12/2011 19:46

Gloria! its you! why havent you phoned!!!

You could be right and there could be a lot of reasons. It maybe because the mum might think the little boy wont handle coming. Hes not the "same" as the other children but thats what I like about him. Odd thing to say I suppose lol

Its also difficult because DS doesnt go into school in the morning the same time as the rest as he cant cope with the upside down chaos and with me picking him up after dinner means he misses the mums at the end of the day so either we dont know each other or...........she knows ds and doesnt think its a good idea.... allsorts of things go on in your head dont they. :)

My problem is now I got ds asking if the phone has rang :( I dont want to have caused more harm than good.

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zzzzz · 08/12/2011 19:51

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coff33pot · 08/12/2011 19:53

Its ok zzzzz You can officially lament that Harry is his first true school friend :) and that in itself is a great step!

She could hate my guts lol maybe I kicked her butt at darts a long time ago lol

I do squirm at the thought of tracking her down as it feels like I am begging someone to come to tea (I AM! )

He doesnt get invites to partys either and it breaks my heart hearing him saying "his friend did this and his friend invited him there" :( (oh no here come the tears)

Soooo I go grab the woman by the neck and shake her so that she nods her head in agreement

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blueemerald · 08/12/2011 20:27

I'm afraid if at all possible I would go to school at pick up time (with or without ds as necessary/possible) and make contact. 16 years was a long time to wait for my brother, extreme measures but the payoff could be worth it.

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coff33pot · 08/12/2011 21:23

I think I am going to encourage the senco to organise some group work in school/playtime with ds and the lad. Confirm that they really do get on well or not as the case maybe and then perhaps get the senco on side in hinting to the other mum what a good relationship they have etc etc :)

Its another tactic well worth trying. I dont think I can take another woman who looks blank/embarrassed/ awkward because I have spoken to her with her mates around because I have a SN child......I would also have to take DS with me and I dont want him rejected in public again. Last time he was ever near the playground of a morning one mum was handing out party invites and ds held his hand out for his. Her answer was "oh sorry dear I ran out of paper" Some children (in fact most) are fantastic, some parents are not like their children.

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beca74 · 08/12/2011 21:53

coff i have 6 kids and im fairly respectable my kids r even house trained

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coff33pot · 08/12/2011 22:51

beca74 I got the kettle on! DS is house trained but I am not sure the house is trained to cope with him sometimes Lets just say the beds trampolining days are over and DH is making an industrial unmoving you can jump it, leap it double bolted bed

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coff33pot · 16/12/2011 11:33

zzzzz start singing! HARRYS COMING TO TEA!!!!

I am so thrilled you would think I have won the lottery.

The phone rang at 8.30 this morning and DS picked it up and his face lit up! He thought it was Harry on the phone but it was his mum but he carried on talking as if it was Harry . When I prised the phone away she said that Harry had been bothering her to phone all week but they all had colds.

And so I found out his fav food is plain pizza so I said right then he shall have that. Then I laughed as both Harry in the background and DS said at the same time "I dont like tomatoes!" "not the one with the bits of tomatoes!"

DS is home with me today as his cold has broke and he is worn out after his xmas party and I just sang your ditty zzzzz and he was dancing to it LOL

I think this is the best xmas pressie ever.

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RinkyDinkyDoo · 16/12/2011 12:14

Hurrah!!! Harry's coming to tea!!!!!! Hope they really enjoy themselves.x

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 16/12/2011 12:44

That has made my day! YIPPEEE!!!

WhoWhoWhoWho · 16/12/2011 13:36

Aaaw this thread has made me smile and well up! So pleased to hear Harry's mum phoned you, sounds like they will have a nice plain tea together! (My DS would say ^exactly the same about pizza and tomatoes too).

cakemom · 16/12/2011 13:43

YAY YAY, feel like dancing around the office, that has made my day. So glad for your DS and Harry.

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coff33pot · 16/12/2011 13:56

DS is still dancing he has learnt the song off to a T. Said "you are a funny mummy, but thats ok today mum" We are singing it together now whilst I am doing the housework for the red carpet visit!

hour and a half to go EEEEEEEEEEEEEE!

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pigletmania · 16/12/2011 14:46

That is fantastic coff33 absolutely lovely , hope that ds has a wonderful time with harry. Wish dd would like people round, she does not like children invading her space and would rather be on her own

ommmward · 16/12/2011 15:35

I am crying with happiness for you. RESULT!!!!!

Chundle · 16/12/2011 16:46

Oh Coff that is such fab news!!! Now you just have to plan something to do so they don't exhaust/overload each other :) let us know how it goes bet they be friends for life

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coff33pot · 16/12/2011 17:06

Alls going good chundle! :) They are so much alike its unreal to be honest.

I like Harry he said I was the coolest mum ever

Cooking tea now, plain pizza, chicken nuggets, smiley faces and jelly, rolo cookies and juice (there choice not mine I might add!) Bit like a party but then it feels like one :)

He even said he likes it here and one day could he sleep over That was after 20 mins and a thorough tour of the house by DS. For some reason my totally upside down house appeals! So I said once DS room is rebuilt after xmas then we will look into a sleep over. Lets see how the rest of the evening goes lol

The light switches have been cool for the last 30 mins and its like a disco lol they have just spied the smells from the oven so that has given my lights a rest for a sec.

I like this a LOT

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pigletmania · 16/12/2011 17:56

That is fantastic I am glad that the boys had such good time

blueemerald · 16/12/2011 20:39

Why do I always read this thread in busy train stations?! I'm so happy for all four of you! blub

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coff33pot · 16/12/2011 22:45

LOL bleemerald :) I would not want to be lurking in a cold train station tonite you must be freezing! Hope you get home soon with a nice hot cuppa!

I didnt take Harry home till 9pm!! that was 5 hours solid fun and I am shattered now lol but it was well worth it and cant wait to do it again :) Told mum and Harry anytime he wants to come again then just ring my number.

Harry I could gladly adopt he is bouncy, honest, hard work, curious, hugs you everytime he wants that "I am doing ok arent I feeling" and bearing in mind I am a total stranger it made me feel quite emotional. DS usually gives anyone a funny stare if they get close to me but for some reason he just looked and accepted the boys expresiveness. They are so similar. It was funny to see two boys sat at the table munching away bouncing and dancing in their seats like a pair of happy nodding dogs :) All night it was "hey dude" "hey man" followed by "yup" the odd disagreement but no biggie just that it was the end of that game period and time for a quiet game or drink and tea was slotted in as a good break for space. DS did extremely well in controling the urge to say "no you cant play with that" and every time he said "you can have this if you like" I made a real big thing of it and funnily enough I found myself saying well done to the other it was like I had twins!

What was really a tear jerker to me was they were laying on the settee playing star wars at the end of the day to chill (after I was involved in a major imaginary battle armed with a potatoe peeler, pencil for what I dont know and a collander on my head for protection) and Harry said "you know what DS? I feel like I am in this cool house and you are my brother" DS just said "so you have had a nice time then" and carried on playing but I tell you I had to sneak in the kitchen as I was welling up.

I think ds has found his first true friend :)

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zzzzz · 16/12/2011 23:47

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coff33pot · 17/12/2011 01:46

zzzzz Thank you for muttering and yes good things definately did happen. Just told eldest DD who has been away and just arrived back and she burst into tears for DS :)

BUT you most certainly would not have dampened anything and I wish you did post earlier as we could have given you some support. I am so so sorry that littlest z is poorly :( love to you and your family and I will be thinking positive thoughts for you. Give your brave girl a magic kiss of best wishes from me and please let us know how you are xxxx

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