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Friday night thread

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lisad123 · 02/12/2011 17:00

Never had pleasure of starting one before Grin
Had an ok week, apart from one school making it clear they don't want dd2 in their school, fighting centre parks and winning Grin and second week of a horrible cough.
How is everyone?

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imogengladheart · 02/12/2011 20:05

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hildathebuilder · 02/12/2011 20:12

Evening, I have never posted on a Friday night thread before but DH is out at some do (and its my fault the button came off his shirt as he was going out apparently). Very impressed with you and CP Lisa. I spend some of my working life advising on such stuff and it seems to hve been a (relatively) quick trun around, they must have known you had the force behind you. And as for finishing with Xmas pressies, I only realised it was december when I looked at the calendar, and its safe to say I haven't even started thinking about shopping yet! I have had such a bad week that I can't even remeber what to say to the reast of you, but good wishes to you all.

For my side DS had a cdc appointment on wednesday which thankfully was not cancelled due to the strikes, and even better nasty physio was on strike so I didn't see her! Ds doing well, and they stared talking about community paeds and school support for PE and stairs (which given DS is 18 months corrected age and not yet walking seems encouraging as it wasn't a discussion about non mainstream but its all sooooo far off yet).

And then on the flip side I discovered I had lost my job on the same day. Not sure where that leaves me to be honest. Not been given notice yet and I have a lot, but hated being on mat leave so need to work. I know I won't starve and now just tell myself that I should see this as an opportunity to reevaluate my life. Noe if only I could believe that.

lisad123 · 02/12/2011 20:20

Anyone want to see the letter i sent?

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Ineedalife · 02/12/2011 20:28

Yes we do lisadGrin

Hi I am backSmile. it was lovely Dd3 was a star she sang the first verse of Silent night with another little girl. I nearly cried, but she would never have forgiven me if I hadGrin.

Am going to read all the other posts now.

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coff33pot · 02/12/2011 20:30

yes please lisa for future reference. It could come in handy Grin

Hello Hilda :) Sorry you lost your job :( Give DH a needle and thread and tell him to sew his button in in the taxi Grin

Good that things are on the positive for your DS though and great its all ahead of going to school so it should all be set up nicely when he starts :)

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coff33pot · 02/12/2011 20:31

Awwww Ineed Grin I would have cried buckets! Glad it went well I bet they looked so cute!

lisad123 · 02/12/2011 20:31

To whom it may concerned

We have been coming to Centre Parcs for the past 4 years as a family. This includes myself, my husband, our two children with special needs and my parents who come to lend a hand.
It is with sadness that I feel the need to email you and complain about your lack of support for families with special needs.

We always take advantage of your offer to rebook within 21 days and get a price promise and insurance. We are due to come and stay with you on ** December 2011, which was booked in January 2011.
In April this year my mother had a major stroke which has left her with mobility problems, partially sighted and having fits.

With this in mind I requested a closer villa, but was told this wasnt possible without paying for it, and it was a large amount of money. I have now been told, that the reason we cant be closer is because we have dogs with us. Which is it??

I have looked online this morning and there is a closer dog villa but at cost of £159 more.

I had also requested an early check-in because of my mothers fits and her inabilty to manage with large crowds. I was again told I can pay for this at cost of £65, which is a big amount consdering it comes with 2 bikes we cant use due to mums wheelchair and my own children have specialist bikes,and wheelchair but again there appears to be no movement on this either.

I would happily pay for early check in, if they would consider taking off the cost of 2 bikes. I was also told that the medical team have to limit the amount of early check ins they recieve because the housekeepers but again if I pay this magically isnt an issue.

I am disappointed with this level of service, and it appears that you are only willing to help make special needs peoples stay better if they are willing to pay for it.

I am formally requesting reasonable adjustments be made under the The Disability Discrimination Act 1995 , as since 1 October 1972 ? Service providers have had to make 'reasonable adjustments' for disabled people, such as providing extra help or making changes to the way they provide their services.
and since 1 October 2004 ? Service providers may have to make other 'reasonable adjustments' in relation to the physical features of their premises to overcome physical barriers to access

I also request that you do not discriminate against me or my family because of our protected characteristics under the Equality act. Both of these have prevfiously happened.

I look forward to your reply within 3 working days due to the date of the forth coming holiday.

lisad123

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moosemama · 02/12/2011 20:34

Hello hilda, sorry you have had bad news about your job, but good to hear things are going well for your ds.

I should qualify, I have only completed my Christmas shopping in terms of what the dcs are getting - the rest of the family (and there's a lot of them) are getting home made gifts, for which I have ordered the constituent parts, but haven't actually started making yet - ditto Christmas cards. So, plenty to keep me busy over the next couple of weeks then! Grin

Ah - Ineed, I'm so pleased it went well - I would definitely have blubbed, but fortunately ds1 wouldn't have noticed! Grin

lisad123 · 02/12/2011 20:34

sorry about your job hilda :(

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moosemama · 02/12/2011 20:37

Cracking letter Lisa - do you fancy popping round and helping me write my covering letter for ds1's Parental Advice Form? Grin

coff33pot · 02/12/2011 20:40

Thats a great letter. Straight and to the point! Glad it made them sit up and listen. :)

Ineedalife · 02/12/2011 20:41

Well done lisad, that is a great letter and it obviously hit the spot.

All you need to do now is enjoy your holSmile.

Hi hilda, and welcome to friday night chat, am loving your nameGrin.

Right have to put one high as a kite child to bed other wise we pay tomorrowHmm.

signandsmile · 02/12/2011 20:44

Hi ninja college is brill... (yeah I know that's a bit sad Blush) but I am loving it, using my brain for something new is fab. (completing assignments to a deadline, markedly less fabby, but hey ho, I'm keeping all the balls in the air so far, Xmas Grin) first observed teach this week, a taster session for a 'conversational BSL course' to run in the new year. Think of me Mon eve!

moose was it your dc with the gunky eyes? I remember ds finding a big lump of sleep in his eye one morning, he looked at it on the end of his finger, (the sleep not the eye Shock Grin) and said 'in my eye' snot????!!! which I have to say is what we have called 'sleep' ever since. Xmas Grin.

moosemama · 02/12/2011 20:47

Yes sign, its dd that has conjunctivitis of the lovely radioactive green variety. Hmm I think she and your ds would like each other! Grin

She looks proper poorly tonight, bless her. All pale with big dark circles under her radioactive eyes. Sad Stil mad as a box of frogs and leaping all over the place though - have left dh to it, as she's not asleep yet! Wink

lisad123 · 02/12/2011 20:47

not all me, i had some helpful hints from another SN MNetter Grin

Im glad to know im not the only one to blub at school plays ect.

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signandsmile · 02/12/2011 20:49

cross posted(im too slow) hi hilda and welcome! fab letter lisa so glad song went well needa I would have blubbed! Xmas Grin

signandsmile · 02/12/2011 20:50

sign is grinning at the thought of putting her ds and mooses dd together, Xmas Grin

TOTU · 02/12/2011 20:56

Good evening to all! I'm relatively new to the Friday night thread so I don't know you all (but I did post last week, honest Smile).

Good to hear all your updates and the different things we all do.

Tonight has been a bit rubbish as my son had chemo yesterday and it makes him feel rubbish, but with his other problems, he can't really express himself. He's currently curled up at the side of me in my bed Grin.

It's my boys birthday party tomorrow. Their first ever! We've only got 2 confirmed attendees but I'm hoping more will come.

Oh, and I also blub at school plays. Doesn't everyone? Smile

coff33pot · 02/12/2011 21:00

evening TOTU :) and welcome from last week Grin

Hope your son feels better tomorrow give him a mumsnetty hug from us xx

Good luck on the party tomorrow! Hope your boys have a great time! Nice that it is on a saturday too :)

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/12/2011 21:01

Hi, back from the fair and finally caught up. So, sorry about sickness, eye bogies and job worries. Great to hear about solo singers, haircuts, birthday rings, Nativities, college courses and successful Center Parcs battles! And breathe. Grin

School fair was lovely, if busy. The woodwind performance was very sweet, recorders, flutes, clarinets and saxaphones. DS3's hands are too small for anything bar the recorder, unfortunately.

I was on the tombola stall, but someone got the tickets a bit mixed up and we had people winning with no prizes and loads of prizes left after we ran out of tickets! Blush Luckily everyone was pretty good humoured about it. Large beakers of mulled wine certainly helped.

EllenJaneisnotmyname · 02/12/2011 21:04

Hi Totu. Are you the lady with twins? I'm sure I remember you from a few months ago. Hope the chemo is going well for your DS. xx

TheNinjaGooseIsARoasting · 02/12/2011 21:12

totu, happy birthday to your boys, hope the effects of chemo pass quickly.

ellen and ineed, well done to your talented dcs Smile I don't think I ever stood up and did anything at school.

lisa, fab letter and so pleased it's sorted, hopefully it'll filter back down to the call centre!

hilda, sorry about your job, hope you find something soon.

sign, so pleased you're enjoying the course, I will most definitely think of you if it's conversational have you got bollocks and shit included in your essential sign list Smile

imogen, I am indeed a lightweight Grin I will probably be drooling and snoring in my chair pretty soon while dh is shooting whoever the enemy is in the latest cod, at least all the gunfire won't be annoying me Grin

moosemama · 02/12/2011 21:16

Hi TOTU, sorry your ds is feeling poorly from his chemo. Hope he feels better after a good night's rest in Mum's bed. Hope your boys have a lovely birthday party as well. Smile

Hi Ellen, glad your fair was nice and the performance went well. Its currently looking like two of our dcs will be missing our school fair tomorrow - they will not be impressed.

Lol at the tombola mix up. Mulled wine does tend to rather smooth things over though doesn't it. Grin Incidentally, how much had you had before the mix ups started? Wink